80 days
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2019
Posts: 337
80 days
I've got 80 days behind me and I'm everso grateful, I'm still at the stage when a shiver runs through me at the thought of a drink and believe me I still think of one, does that feeling ever end? I watch my husband drink everyday, definitely not as much as I did but still it's not good, he told me the other day, "wish I hadn't drank last night" I just said it's not nice feeling crap, but who am I to judge, he will find his own time to cut down or quit, anyway, hope you are all well x
Member
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 710
Boggle... Alcohol is everywhere and we are particularly attracted to it. So I guess we will always feel tempted. Those among us who had to quit with alcohol in the house and a partner drinking have the advantage (I want to believe) of getting trained against this kind of trigger.
I see many people here saying they cannot go here or there because of alcohol consumption and ti would be too much of a temptation. My house has been full of alcohol with people drinking since day 1. I don't feel any special temptation if alcohol is served and consumed elsewhere.
It gets much much easier though. I would not go back to feeling how I used to feel before quitting for anything. In my case, a major shift happened about 3 months and a half after I quit. I began to feel really better and to enjoy the benefits of sobriety. I am mostly happy and content now (18 months in) and the thought of drinking comes less frequently anw with less strength.
Congratulations on your 80 days
I see many people here saying they cannot go here or there because of alcohol consumption and ti would be too much of a temptation. My house has been full of alcohol with people drinking since day 1. I don't feel any special temptation if alcohol is served and consumed elsewhere.
It gets much much easier though. I would not go back to feeling how I used to feel before quitting for anything. In my case, a major shift happened about 3 months and a half after I quit. I began to feel really better and to enjoy the benefits of sobriety. I am mostly happy and content now (18 months in) and the thought of drinking comes less frequently anw with less strength.
Congratulations on your 80 days
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2019
Posts: 337
B&S, I'm not bothered with people drinking to be honest, I'm doing this for me no one else, I'm 49 now and I've been with my husband since I was 17, his drinking scares me as I'm afraid of anything happening to him, he used to shout at me for drinking because he was worried about me, but he can't seem to see his drinking as worrying for me. Hope that makes sence, it did in my head anyway, I'm on day 83 now and still doing well, x
Member
Join Date: Oct 2020
Posts: 112
I think in regards to being around alcohol you have to figure out for yourself if you can be around it or not. If you can't, that's nothing to be a shamed of and it doesn't mean it will always be that way. It doesn't mean that someone that can is better than you or stronger than you. They simply don't get triggered like you do for whatever reason.
What's most important is that we all do whatever it takes to avoid a relapse. This includes identifying triggers and avoiding them, especially in early sobriety. As we get more clean time the power of these triggers tends to go down but it takes time and patience.
Relapses are not fun and can be dangerous especially in early sobriety when our lives tend to be in shambles.. There's plenty examples of alcoholics relapsing and ruining their life forever. So why take the risk? If you are in a household where your partner drinks alcohol obviously there's not much you can do but if not I'd avoid being in situations where alcohol is readily available for the first three to four months.
What's most important is that we all do whatever it takes to avoid a relapse. This includes identifying triggers and avoiding them, especially in early sobriety. As we get more clean time the power of these triggers tends to go down but it takes time and patience.
Relapses are not fun and can be dangerous especially in early sobriety when our lives tend to be in shambles.. There's plenty examples of alcoholics relapsing and ruining their life forever. So why take the risk? If you are in a household where your partner drinks alcohol obviously there's not much you can do but if not I'd avoid being in situations where alcohol is readily available for the first three to four months.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
