Here we go again
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Here we go again
Adult child started IOP last week after completing a 30 day residential treatment program. Seemed to be fine with it and enjoying it. This past weekend told me how his depression is getting worse and had made an appointment with a counselor at IOP.
I called his IOP and left them know about the depression and they told me they are aware of it. They also said he is engaging in IOP and that was a huge plus.
So tonight I get this text from him that he doesn't like IOP.. He doesn't like that they watch movies...he is bored
I am a complete mess again. I doubt I will sleep tonight again.
I replied that it is only 3 nights a week. It keeps him accountable. He meets others in recovery and makes friends.
Other than saying I will be done with you if you don't follow through I don't know what to say. He is the one who agreed to go to IOP. We wanted him to do IOP and sober living but he refused the sober living.
I can see him slipping. I feel his depression is getting to him. He is to get the vivitrol shot next week. He is to meet with his psychiatrist as well next week.
I want to say to him that I feel his addiction is trying to get to him again and that he needs to fight through this or it will win.
Not sure if my counselor would approve of that.
I can't keep going down this road with him. We are financially and emotionally drained.
any advice as to what to say if he brings up not doing IOP
I called his IOP and left them know about the depression and they told me they are aware of it. They also said he is engaging in IOP and that was a huge plus.
So tonight I get this text from him that he doesn't like IOP.. He doesn't like that they watch movies...he is bored
I am a complete mess again. I doubt I will sleep tonight again.
I replied that it is only 3 nights a week. It keeps him accountable. He meets others in recovery and makes friends.
Other than saying I will be done with you if you don't follow through I don't know what to say. He is the one who agreed to go to IOP. We wanted him to do IOP and sober living but he refused the sober living.
I can see him slipping. I feel his depression is getting to him. He is to get the vivitrol shot next week. He is to meet with his psychiatrist as well next week.
I want to say to him that I feel his addiction is trying to get to him again and that he needs to fight through this or it will win.
Not sure if my counselor would approve of that.
I can't keep going down this road with him. We are financially and emotionally drained.
any advice as to what to say if he brings up not doing IOP
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I plan on calling them again. I have called everyday this week. I have left them know that his depression is getting worse. When I spoke to his therapist prior to him seeing her, she mentioned that maybe his medication would need to be adjusted.
He sent me a text last evening that he is going to double his prozac. I told him he should talk to his doctor first but of course then I never receive a reply.
He sent me a text last evening that he is going to double his prozac. I told him he should talk to his doctor first but of course then I never receive a reply.
Oh hummingbird
It is hard when the people we love aren't doing well! I get it.
I used to let the emotions of others become my emotions. That was really true for me with my ex-husband. When I came home from work, I never knew what I was going to find or how the evening would go. Would he (we) be in a good mood or a bad mood?
It wasn't until after the divorce and through therapy of my own for a while, that I recognized what I was doing and began to learn how to stop it. Detachment--what a concept! Other people are actually completely separate from me! They have their own lives, their own thoughts, their own feelings that *aren't* mine. I have my own thoughts and feelings--and that's plenty!
I hope that someday soon your loved one will find his way...and that you will come to know peace whether or not your loved one is sober or struggling.
It is hard when the people we love aren't doing well! I get it.
I used to let the emotions of others become my emotions. That was really true for me with my ex-husband. When I came home from work, I never knew what I was going to find or how the evening would go. Would he (we) be in a good mood or a bad mood?
It wasn't until after the divorce and through therapy of my own for a while, that I recognized what I was doing and began to learn how to stop it. Detachment--what a concept! Other people are actually completely separate from me! They have their own lives, their own thoughts, their own feelings that *aren't* mine. I have my own thoughts and feelings--and that's plenty!
I hope that someday soon your loved one will find his way...and that you will come to know peace whether or not your loved one is sober or struggling.
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