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Well....I'm back again. I'm not sure if I'm ever going to get this but I figure that if I don't try then I have no chance.
I've been drinking for two weeks and already my life has become unmanageable. I can't cope with it anymore. I've learned more. I suppose that's something. Mind you, how many times do I need to go through this to learn?
I so grateful to have this place to try and anchor myself again. My head is a hostile environment and I need something to hold on to.
I've been drinking for two weeks and already my life has become unmanageable. I can't cope with it anymore. I've learned more. I suppose that's something. Mind you, how many times do I need to go through this to learn?
I so grateful to have this place to try and anchor myself again. My head is a hostile environment and I need something to hold on to.
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you need only go through it as many times as you choose to.
try this today:
"I want sobriety"
"I want a rich and present life of joy"
"I want to be happy"
"Today, I honor all those things"
Then - act in support of those statements.
It's not easy, but it's a simple as that.
You can do it. I did.
try this today:
"I want sobriety"
"I want a rich and present life of joy"
"I want to be happy"
"Today, I honor all those things"
Then - act in support of those statements.
It's not easy, but it's a simple as that.
You can do it. I did.
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Sorry to hear that Gabe. My life was at its most unmanageable in the instant before I took the fatal first drink. The solution was to appoint a new manager so I wouldn't lead myself down that path again.
While drinking, the apparent unmangeabilty is just the consequences. When sober, the consequence of the unmanageability is more drinking. That is the unmanageability of step one.
While drinking, the apparent unmangeabilty is just the consequences. When sober, the consequence of the unmanageability is more drinking. That is the unmanageability of step one.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl 
you need only go through it as many times as you choose to.
try this today:
"I want sobriety"
"I want a rich and present life of joy"
"I want to be happy"
"Today, I honor all those things"
Then - act in support of those statements.
It's not easy, but it's a simple as that.
You can do it. I did.
try this today:
"I want sobriety"
"I want a rich and present life of joy"
"I want to be happy"
"Today, I honor all those things"
Then - act in support of those statements.
It's not easy, but it's a simple as that.
You can do it. I did.
You can do it--
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I've just got the BB and a guide to how to use, so I think I'm going to start there. I need something else as all the reading and the educational stuff I've been reading doesn't seem to be enough. I just understand now that I'm poisoning myself. It's so humiliating to keep going through this and I'm really worried about my job too. I'm either drunk or worrying, all the time. Thank you Gottalife.
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A little trick with the Big Book, apart from the obvious start at the beginning, is to take all the medical opinion and alcholic experience that you will read, and convert it to questions. Is this me? How does my experience compare with that?
Filter everything through your own experience. If you are an alcoholic of my type, this is a well proven approach.
I wish you every success Gabe.
Filter everything through your own experience. If you are an alcoholic of my type, this is a well proven approach.
I wish you every success Gabe.
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Originally Posted by Gabe1980
I've just got the BB and a guide to how to use, so I think I'm going to start there. I need something else as all the reading and the educational stuff I've been reading doesn't seem to be enough..
how it works
into action
working with others
works.....action....working...
a few line from the big book:
Now we need more action, without which we find that "Faith without works is dead."
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action...
But we must go further and that means more action
and ask for the right thought or action
There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead."
a practical program of action.
Outline the program of action
Tell him you once felt as he does, but you doubt whether you would have made much progress had you not taken action.
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Originally Posted by Gottalife
A little trick with the Big Book, apart from the obvious start at the beginning, is to take all the medical opinion and alcholic experience that you will read, and convert it to questions. Is this me? How does my experience compare with that?
Filter everything through your own experience. If you are an alcoholic of my type, this is a well proven approach.
I wish you every success Gabe.
Filter everything through your own experience. If you are an alcoholic of my type, this is a well proven approach.
I wish you every success Gabe.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
notice the title of three chapters in the big book
how it works
into action
working with others
works.....action....working...
a few line from the big book:
Now we need more action, without which we find that "Faith without works is dead."
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action...
But we must go further and that means more action
and ask for the right thought or action
There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead."
a practical program of action.
Outline the program of action
Tell him you once felt as he does, but you doubt whether you would have made much progress had you not taken action.
how it works
into action
working with others
works.....action....working...
a few line from the big book:
Now we need more action, without which we find that "Faith without works is dead."
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action...
But we must go further and that means more action
and ask for the right thought or action
There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead."
a practical program of action.
Outline the program of action
Tell him you once felt as he does, but you doubt whether you would have made much progress had you not taken action.
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Hi Gabe,
It's so nice to see you here this morning. I have missed seeing you in the 24 hour thread.
You can do this. The anxiety and worry will start to lessen the more sobriety you get u dear your belt. You were doing well when you were checking in every day, start doing that again, and also try adding another layer of support whether that's AA, counseling, another face to face support grou, or a combination of all of the above.
Also, remember this is. 24/7 thread, post as soon as you have any thought of drinking, and someone will be here to talk you through it.
I'm glad you're back.
❤️Delilah
It's so nice to see you here this morning. I have missed seeing you in the 24 hour thread.
You can do this. The anxiety and worry will start to lessen the more sobriety you get u dear your belt. You were doing well when you were checking in every day, start doing that again, and also try adding another layer of support whether that's AA, counseling, another face to face support grou, or a combination of all of the above.
Also, remember this is. 24/7 thread, post as soon as you have any thought of drinking, and someone will be here to talk you through it.
I'm glad you're back.
❤️Delilah
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Thank you Delilah, I'm really touched by your post. I'm also really glad to be back. I've missed everyone here. I definitely need to try some new things and reach out for help. Coming back to SR is my first step in doing that.
I'll find my way. I just need to accept that some things/relationships will change. It's always the thing that trips me up but only because I let it 💗
I'll find my way. I just need to accept that some things/relationships will change. It's always the thing that trips me up but only because I let it 💗
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Originally Posted by Gabe1980
Well....I'm back again. I'm not sure if I'm ever going to get this but I figure that if I don't try then I have no chance.
I've been drinking for two weeks and already my life has become unmanageable. I can't cope with it anymore. I've learned more. I suppose that's something. Mind you, how many times do I need to go through this to learn?
I so grateful to have this place to try and anchor myself again. My head is a hostile environment and I need something to hold on to.
I've been drinking for two weeks and already my life has become unmanageable. I can't cope with it anymore. I've learned more. I suppose that's something. Mind you, how many times do I need to go through this to learn?
I so grateful to have this place to try and anchor myself again. My head is a hostile environment and I need something to hold on to.
Welcome back. I am sure coming back isn't easy, so that is a great start!
You can do it, you can choose to not purchase alcohol, you can choose not to drink it, you can choose to find something else to do. The choice is yours, no one said it was easy... That is for damn sure, but I tell you what it is SO worth it, and so are YOU!
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Welcome back, Gabe!
You're right, taking action is the answer. Of course, reading and learning are part of the process, but taking action each day will really help you. What can you add to your day to help support your recovery? And, know that we are always here for you.
You're right, taking action is the answer. Of course, reading and learning are part of the process, but taking action each day will really help you. What can you add to your day to help support your recovery? And, know that we are always here for you.
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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher17
Welcome back. I am sure coming back isn't easy, so that is a great start!
You can do it, you can choose to not purchase alcohol, you can choose not to drink it, you can choose to find something else to do. The choice is yours, no one said it was easy... That is for damn sure, but I tell you what it is SO worth it, and so are YOU!
You can do it, you can choose to not purchase alcohol, you can choose not to drink it, you can choose to find something else to do. The choice is yours, no one said it was easy... That is for damn sure, but I tell you what it is SO worth it, and so are YOU!
I'm still working on me being worth. I feel like something a sheep threw up today! Thank you for the encouragement. I need to own my choices. They are mine.
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Originally Posted by Anna
Welcome back, Gabe!
You're right, taking action is the answer. Of course, reading and learning are part of the process, but taking action each day will really help you. What can you add to your day to help support your recovery? And, know that we are always here for you.
You're right, taking action is the answer. Of course, reading and learning are part of the process, but taking action each day will really help you. What can you add to your day to help support your recovery? And, know that we are always here for you.
I've found it so hard to motivate myself so I reckon start small and build. Can't handle too much failure just now.
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Originally Posted by Gabe1980
Yup, it definitely isn't easy but I never seem to get past the point where it becomes easier. Stuck continually in the horrible early stages. I'm sure it's worth it, I hear how happy everyone is here in their long term sobriety and its inspiring!
I'm still working on me being worth. I feel like something a sheep threw up today! Thank you for the encouragement. I need to own my choices. They are mine.
I'm still working on me being worth. I feel like something a sheep threw up today! Thank you for the encouragement. I need to own my choices. They are mine.
You can get there and reap the rewards!
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I am going to be honest.
I don't think sobriety is always the answer to happiness - "If I stop drinking I will be happy". It is like saying - "If only I win the lottery, I will be happy" I have people I know that get sober and weeks, months, etc out - they still aren't happy and back to the drink they go.
But stopping drinking will allow one to figure out what is keeping you from being happy.
I don't think sobriety is always the answer to happiness - "If I stop drinking I will be happy". It is like saying - "If only I win the lottery, I will be happy" I have people I know that get sober and weeks, months, etc out - they still aren't happy and back to the drink they go.
But stopping drinking will allow one to figure out what is keeping you from being happy.
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