dating someone who drinks
i wasnt even thinking about dating 10 days into recovery let alone thinking about someone that drinks, especially if they drank like an alcoholic.
recovery was my #1 priority and dating wasnt going to make that easier or better.it wasnt going to make me feel better about myself-wasnt going to help my self esteem.
recovery was my #1 priority and dating wasnt going to make that easier or better.it wasnt going to make me feel better about myself-wasnt going to help my self esteem.
I really value the time I spent alone in early recovery getting to know the sober me.
I was always terrified of feeling alone - I tried to fill that void with stuff - things substances, & yes, people - but nothing ever worked.
Turns out getting to appreciate being alone and seeing there was nothing to fear did wonders for me.
Not sure if you work or not, but volunteering was a great way to spend my time in the early days.
If thats not an option think about hobbies and interests maybe?
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I was always terrified of feeling alone - I tried to fill that void with stuff - things substances, & yes, people - but nothing ever worked.
Turns out getting to appreciate being alone and seeing there was nothing to fear did wonders for me.
Not sure if you work or not, but volunteering was a great way to spend my time in the early days.
If thats not an option think about hobbies and interests maybe?
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i can't imagine anything more torturous than "hanging out" with someone who DRINKS when i am trying NOT TO DRINK. i don't see that as a real healthy distraction. us addicts learn to not only use substances, but people too and that is a habit we can learn to break.
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Edit: I don't think video games are productive,but they're fun?
I think you already know the answer to your question. I think you probably know it's not a good idea to "hang out" with someone who drinks. If I were in your shoes where you are in recovery time I'd stay away from any alcohol for a while until you grow some sober muscles and have a good tool box kit handy. Just my opinion. I hope all goes well for you.
How about getting to some meetings as well? Get involved with a sponsor and spend some of your free time at home doing some step work.
Hanging round and watching someone drinking early sobriety sounds like a risky plan.
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I would definitely not hang out with someone who is drinking this early in recovery.
I have a little over two years sober, and I am fine if others are drinking around me now, but I still don't put myself in big drinking environments often.
My husband drinks, and when I first stopped I avoided him for a bit. I didn't want to see him drinking, and the smell of alcohol bugged me.
I found going to the gym, for walks, binge watching Netflix, reading, bithnrecovery books, and other books to be very good ways to pass the time.
Looking forward to seeing you on SR!
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I hang out (not date) with people who are drinkers, but have asked that when we hang out there is no alcohol around. If that is a problem for them I would prefer not to hang out with them at this stage in my sobriety. So far everyone has been great about it. I would not expect them to adhere to that request if it was a large gathering for eg a friend’s wedding. Then it becomes a personal choice if I feel I can attend where I know alcohol will be.
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