I'M back
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I'M back
I said I would be back after 30 days sober. I did it. On day 31 I had vodka again. It lasted a few days. I went a week or so without, feeling like crap. Is it worth it? My wife doesn't seem to care. I know I can fix this but don't know if I care enough. It's 8:30 am and I've already had a drink.
You don't care because you're drinking and your addiction wants to keep on drinking. And when you are drinking, drinking is easier than quitting.
Go back and read your previous posts. You cared then. You can now. And you can quit.
Go back and read your previous posts. You cared then. You can now. And you can quit.
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Your staying stopped isn't about your wife. It's about you. To me and I'm not judging you....You basically tested yourself for those 30days,since you drank on day 31(then continued). No offense to your wife,but she is neither here nor there as far as you deciding to drink. She 'gave you permission';YOU drank. 'She doesn't talk to you';YOU drink. Unless she's pouring it down your throat she has no say in the matter.
Also, Maybe her offering to stop drinking is her way of reaching out to you because she knows you have a drinking problem. With that your "not wanting to punish her with for your sins"..To me, that's akin to saying/thinking; "If she stops I'll have to completely stop too and own my sobriety publicly". That's a scary place and I've been there! It wasn't until I 'came out' to those close to me that I started owning my sobriety. I go to bars and watch football with my close friends,they drink I don't. Excuses are the first thing that needs to go and with doing that comes acceptance. That was my experience at least.
Dump your booze.
Also, Maybe her offering to stop drinking is her way of reaching out to you because she knows you have a drinking problem. With that your "not wanting to punish her with for your sins"..To me, that's akin to saying/thinking; "If she stops I'll have to completely stop too and own my sobriety publicly". That's a scary place and I've been there! It wasn't until I 'came out' to those close to me that I started owning my sobriety. I go to bars and watch football with my close friends,they drink I don't. Excuses are the first thing that needs to go and with doing that comes acceptance. That was my experience at least.
Dump your booze.
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With decent/long term sobriety you'll understand that it does not matter if she cares. YOU care about you and that's why you no longer need to drink. You start to like yourself again. You earn respect from those that really know you drink too much/often(trust me..THEY KNOW). Go to an open discussion AA meeting and just listen to the others talk. It's quite amazing how similar we all are,no matter financial status,relationship status,ect.. You will hear 'your story' from multiple people. Try it. What can it hurt? It's free and only an hr of your time.
I said I would be back after 30 days sober. I did it. On day 31 I had vodka again. It lasted a few days. I went a week or so without, feeling like crap. Is it worth it? My wife doesn't seem to care. I know I can fix this but don't know if I care enough. It's 8:30 am and I've already had a drink.
What did you do to get a month sober? Do you have outside professional support such as therapy and AAs etc ?
Is it worth it you ask? Well think of it this way, is it worth it to keep drinking and risk ALL sorts of consequences? Liver failure, mental breakdowns, divorce, self loathing , mental hospitals just to name a few.
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