I feel crushed.
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I feel crushed.
For those who know me or have followed my story, you know I attended the school of hard knocks. Between my business, my family, my injuries and my alcoholism I have been through hell and back...more than once. I got news this morning that will require me to sell the house I live in. I am stressed out to the absolute max yet again. I will not drink over it because drinking was partially responsible for getting me into this mess. Its up to me and only me to get myself out. I guess we must count our blessings even if we don't feel we have any (like today). Thanks for listening.
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Originally Posted by thomas11 
For those who know me or have followed my story, you know I attended the school of hard knocks.
I am stressed out to the absolute max yet again. I will not drink over it because drinking was partially responsible for getting me into this mess. Its up to me and only me to get myself out.
I am stressed out to the absolute max yet again. I will not drink over it because drinking was partially responsible for getting me into this mess. Its up to me and only me to get myself out.
Your post is awesome. It's the kind of thing a newcomer will benefit from. Hopefully, you feel a little bit better knowing that you're not carrying the weight alone, and that you are supporting your recovery.
Best!
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Hi Thomas,
I'm brand-new to this website and this is my first posting. I have just celebrated 26 years of sobriety but can clearly relate to your feelings. I just want you to know that even though you're cleaning up the wreckage from your past you're not going it alone if you don't want to. I don't know what your relationship is like with God but I suggest you reach out to him and hold on for dear life. He even helps us clean up the messes we make. You are in my prayers. Nitty
I'm brand-new to this website and this is my first posting. I have just celebrated 26 years of sobriety but can clearly relate to your feelings. I just want you to know that even though you're cleaning up the wreckage from your past you're not going it alone if you don't want to. I don't know what your relationship is like with God but I suggest you reach out to him and hold on for dear life. He even helps us clean up the messes we make. You are in my prayers. Nitty
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sorry to hear this, jeff. but i have absolute faith that you CAN handle this next challenge. take some time to absorb the information, don't do anything knee jerk. come up with a good solid plan and timeline. hang in there buddy.
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When I got divorced I was forced to move from nice big house with a big yard to small condo. It happened quickly and I ended up giving away a lot of stuff.
It turned out to be the best move I've ever made. I don't feel chained to expensive repairs and maintenance and "stuff" like I used to be. I was forced to simplify, and it was very good for me.
I hope you find the silver lining.
It turned out to be the best move I've ever made. I don't feel chained to expensive repairs and maintenance and "stuff" like I used to be. I was forced to simplify, and it was very good for me.
I hope you find the silver lining.
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Jeff like you I have been through some dark times. I remember how unbelievably horrible I felt. I saw no way out.
I did get through that stuff. Now looking back I wouldn't change a thing. It made me the man I am today. It was a necessary progression.
I wish you the best my friend. We are here for you and wishing you a speedy resolution to your troubles.
I did get through that stuff. Now looking back I wouldn't change a thing. It made me the man I am today. It was a necessary progression.
I wish you the best my friend. We are here for you and wishing you a speedy resolution to your troubles.
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The only possibly helpful thing I can think to say to you is that this is probably as bad as it will get right now. Just hearing the news and adjusting to having to sell. That really sucks, but I bet it will get better from here as you just accept the necessity of what you have to do and move on.
I know it may be poor comfort at the moment, but think about what biminiblue said -- you never know what windows may open up because of this. It really could be this huge blessing in disguise.
We are here for you.
I know it may be poor comfort at the moment, but think about what biminiblue said -- you never know what windows may open up because of this. It really could be this huge blessing in disguise.
We are here for you.
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Thomas: These other posts have said all I would have said and more! What a wonderful team you have cheering for you and what a wonderful help you have been to so many others on this website! You are strong. You can do it and you will do it. Where you live is less important than what you are. You are a great ship which can sail safely through many a gale and if I were adrift I would be lucky, honored to be your passenger.
Your fond friend
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Your fond friend
Bill.
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As always, you guys are the best therapy anyone could ask for. As I am digesting this problem and devising my game plan, I agree with many of you that this could very well be the right move and a good move. After getting over the initial "shock", when this issue is resolved we will have tremendous freedom (finally!).
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