Difficult being around/talking to people
Difficult being around/talking to people
2 weeks sober
Have a plan in place, keeping it simple and tackling one day at a time with my tools.
My question is, was it difficult to talk to people/have a conversation when you first got sober? This is with people you know.
Some days it's easy, and I listen, ask questions, etc. and I feel like I'm making some progress.
Other days, I feel anxious/awkward talking to people and not at all comfortable.
I appreciate any feedback/advice. Thanks!
Have a plan in place, keeping it simple and tackling one day at a time with my tools.
My question is, was it difficult to talk to people/have a conversation when you first got sober? This is with people you know.
Some days it's easy, and I listen, ask questions, etc. and I feel like I'm making some progress.
Other days, I feel anxious/awkward talking to people and not at all comfortable.
I appreciate any feedback/advice. Thanks!
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Join Date: Aug 2016
Location: Boston Ma
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Susie, Yes, I agree that in general talking to people is just plain old different. Sometimes I hear myself talking now and it seems awkward, I have to remember to smile, finish sentences etc. I was never drunk at work but I was hung over, maybe just looking at everything through new lens. I've never been sober before.....
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Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: Midwest U.S.
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I actually find talking to people easier now because 1) I don't have to try to hide alcohol or hangover breath, 2) my brain functions normally, so I am able to articulate what I am thinking without rambling or trailing off mid-sentence, and 3) I'm not in a foul mood, so I greet people warmly, and they respond in kind.
I mean...I'm still pretty awkward sometimes, but I've been that way with and without alcohol.
ABW1
I mean...I'm still pretty awkward sometimes, but I've been that way with and without alcohol.
ABW1
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Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: Washington State
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Suzieq - I have pretty strong social anxiety, so this affects me all the time, whether in a period of sobriety or not. Mostly I just try to have patience and compassion for myself, and try to draw boundaries when needed (eg in AA I dont push myself to do more of the group-speaking than I can handle, and if I'm feeling a lot of anxiety I'll let people know - speaking about it can often make it easier).
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Join Date: Jan 2017
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Yes..I have social anxiety...I am withdrawn alot..and when I was drinking I would reach out through txt or fb more liquid courage..but being sober I've keep the to myself..increased my antidepressants...and have had time to reflect and accept I think more responsibility...and voice less..and that's ok ..just how I am. AA meeting was hard not big on speaking in groups..but amazing thing was it felt good..I'm on day 15 ..no expert but this is my story.
It's always been difficult for me too Suzieq. It's better now but it took a little longer than 2 weeks for me to get to where I m now
It took me 30 days just to stop thinking about drinking every waking moment.
Don't push yourself too hard just yet
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It took me 30 days just to stop thinking about drinking every waking moment.
Don't push yourself too hard just yet
D
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