When is it okay to enjoy a drink?
When is it okay to enjoy a drink?
I appreciate that I'm not really even close. But what time scale have other people found its okay to go out and have a few drinks without it turning into a session and starting again the next morning? It would be nice to have a goal in the form of a time scale when I can go out and have a few beers without feeling like it's a relapse or like I've given up. Surely responsible drinking can play a part in my life in the future. Or am I now destined to a life of water from my beer glass?
I tried for 20 years to somehow make that happen and it never did, Ben.
When I looked back I realised I was never that kind of drinker - I always drank to get wasted.
If you're that same kind of drinker I think you really need to consider that there will never be a time when you can drink without those benders and bad consequences.
A lot of people confuse abstinence with control, but they;re not the same thing.
I haven't had a drink now for 9 years but I believe if I did I'd be back to benders in no time.
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When I looked back I realised I was never that kind of drinker - I always drank to get wasted.
If you're that same kind of drinker I think you really need to consider that there will never be a time when you can drink without those benders and bad consequences.
A lot of people confuse abstinence with control, but they;re not the same thing.
I haven't had a drink now for 9 years but I believe if I did I'd be back to benders in no time.
D
For me never, tried it many times over my 30 year drinking career, after staying sober sometimes 30 months, simply picked up where I left off which was a disaster, never again and I am happier now than I ever have been.
I had a feeling you guys were gonna say that. I quit smoking a while ago and now I can't imagine having a cigarette so fingers crossed it will be the same thing. Only problem is smoking is antisocial and drinking is social.
If I could enjoy "a" drink, that would be great. But everytime I was in a position where I was limited to "a" single drink, it drove me nuts. It wasn't enjoyable, so I avoided occasions where the supply might be limited. Even then, it was never enjoyable.
I was having a discussion with friends the other day, about dining out. One said: "A glass of wine is best accompanied by a nice meal" . I said I don't see it quite like that. I would say "A glass of wine is best accompanied by another glass of wine, and another".
I was having a discussion with friends the other day, about dining out. One said: "A glass of wine is best accompanied by a nice meal" . I said I don't see it quite like that. I would say "A glass of wine is best accompanied by another glass of wine, and another".
I can be a lot more sociable now, to be honest - I just don't drink alcohol.
It doesn't matter whats in my glass.
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I thought for a long time I could use the moderation management technique which has been demonstrated to work for many. But many relapses into major binge drinking has me now convinced that I just can't.
Sounds like you might be in the same boat.
Sounds like you might be in the same boat.
My only attempt at moderation was a failure! I had 14 sober months in, thought the habit was broken and I could safely have 1 or 2...
Well 1 leads to 2, which leads to 3, 4, 5 6 and 7!
I know that now....lesson learned. Took 6 years to try again.......
So now I just don't drink, no counting or thinking involved. So much simpler! 18 months tomorrow......and no plans to try one or two!
Well 1 leads to 2, which leads to 3, 4, 5 6 and 7!
I know that now....lesson learned. Took 6 years to try again.......
So now I just don't drink, no counting or thinking involved. So much simpler! 18 months tomorrow......and no plans to try one or two!
In my opinion...never. I didn't drink for many many years. Not a single drop. I decided to try moderating after that long period of sobriety and within 2 weeks I was WORSE than ever.
Alcoholics will never be able to moderate. It's like trying to grow a new arm. It will never happen.
Our disease progresses forever. The only way to put it in remission is complete abstinence.
#truth
Alcoholics will never be able to moderate. It's like trying to grow a new arm. It will never happen.
Our disease progresses forever. The only way to put it in remission is complete abstinence.
#truth
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I'm with everyone else that's posted ...
I can't have 1 or 2 drinks.
I tried to have "a drink" after being 2 months sober back in March.
6 weeks later..... I'm now on day 9 !
Won't be "trying" that BS again!
I can't have 1 or 2 drinks.
I tried to have "a drink" after being 2 months sober back in March.
6 weeks later..... I'm now on day 9 !
Won't be "trying" that BS again!
I appreciate that I'm not really even close. But what time scale have other people found its okay to go out and have a few drinks without it turning into a session and starting again the next morning? It would be nice to have a goal in the form of a time scale when I can go out and have a few beers without feeling like it's a relapse or like I've given up. Surely responsible drinking can play a part in my life in the future. Or am I now destined to a life of water from my beer glass?
if alcoholic ?????
From what I've seen -- we are doomed.
Let's all remember now
a fool is one who fools themself.
M-Bob
For me, it is okay to enjoy a drink when there is no alcohol in it.
But seriously, I've read many stories of people going back to addiction after 20+ years without a drink. I don't think I'm different from them in any way.
But seriously, I've read many stories of people going back to addiction after 20+ years without a drink. I don't think I'm different from them in any way.
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