I told my husband after nearly a year sobriety, while I could understand his
resentment, lack of trust, etc. I was not willing to be a punching bag forever,
and he needed to process it, say it clearly and with a therapist if needed, and move on.
He mostly has, but since he now has a serious drinking problem of his own, our
dynamic is different than yours.
It was beginning to put my recovery at risk, and I was not willing to accept that.
You have to know what you can endure.
"There's almost as many terms and gradations for drinkers like us as there are stars in the sky.
All the study in the world - and all the subjective hierarchies - won't get people sober. . .
Only action can do that."