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I posted for the first time here yesterday and it helped me immensely. My alcoholic ex-bf just started AA after 4 months of us having been broken up and wanted to get back together because he's making the effort. I love that he's doing that, but know I'm no good to him in this process. After a difficult weekend in which I spent more time with him than I should've I came here for guidance. It was a difficult conversation, but I told him this is not my journey, it's his and I won't be a part of his life at this time. He was crushed, but admitted he had wronged me and he understood why I can't be with him. There is something different about him, but I know he's on very fragile ground and has to build a solid foundation.
I've been dating a wonderful guy the past month and even though I think of my ex a lot I'm going to continue dating him, but slow down the pace so I can focus on my own recovery. My intent was to date casually, but this guy threw me a curve. Whatever is meant to be will be. I'll continue to come here because I know I have to continue to build my strength and there is strength in those who understand. Thanks again!
I've been dating a wonderful guy the past month and even though I think of my ex a lot I'm going to continue dating him, but slow down the pace so I can focus on my own recovery. My intent was to date casually, but this guy threw me a curve. Whatever is meant to be will be. I'll continue to come here because I know I have to continue to build my strength and there is strength in those who understand. Thanks again!
luvbugnat, I'm so glad you found us here and I'm so glad you found some insight into your problems.
I don't post as much as I used to, partly b/c I used to work from home and was at the computer all day and this is no longer the situation, but I certainly do come here at least twice a day and read. I never ever fail to find something that strikes a chord or turns on a light for me. I need the constant reminders to keep me pointed in the right direction. As someone said on another forum that I visit, "we are not computers or robots, where you input the data and the program works perfectly from there on in."
Nope, I've input PLENTY of data, and I can tell you, the program sure doesn't work perfectly! But I keep exposing myself to the experience, strength and hope here, and I gradually learn to practice what I see...
Anyway, I hope you continue to come around. Another voice, another viewpoint, is always valuable. Best wishes!
I don't post as much as I used to, partly b/c I used to work from home and was at the computer all day and this is no longer the situation, but I certainly do come here at least twice a day and read. I never ever fail to find something that strikes a chord or turns on a light for me. I need the constant reminders to keep me pointed in the right direction. As someone said on another forum that I visit, "we are not computers or robots, where you input the data and the program works perfectly from there on in."
Nope, I've input PLENTY of data, and I can tell you, the program sure doesn't work perfectly! But I keep exposing myself to the experience, strength and hope here, and I gradually learn to practice what I see...
Anyway, I hope you continue to come around. Another voice, another viewpoint, is always valuable. Best wishes!
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