Tang

I don't have time to write a lengthy post, but need to confess. I found out last night my mother (in her 70's) has been drinking heavily and hiding it. After having a family member clear out the booze, she managed to find a bottle of something she would normally not drink and she was found plastered. What was my reaction? I had a beer. Huh? What? My addiction knows no logical boundaries. I still want to turn to alcohol in times of severe emotional distress. I need a new plan.

GroundhogDay

Oh Tang, I'm sorry to hear that. No doubt, it was emotionally rough to find your mother that way.

I managed to successfully navigate a stressful situation a couple of days ago by 1) reminding myself that this too shall pass, and 2) taking aspirin and a hot bath (my new go-to destress technique).

Exercise helps too, but it's too cold and wet outside right now. When I really need to escape my life, I read a really good, long novel.

IOAA2

Hi.

I certainly agree with needing a new plan.

I chose one a lot of years ago that works for millions as long as we stick close and WORK IT. AA keeps things simple and is there with experts on how to do it face to face without hiding.

Far too often our way does not work for long term sobriety because too many drift off with other priorities which end up with us being more miserable than ever.

I needed to give up to win.

BE WELL

OnMyWay7

Tang. So sorry for everything. I'm glad you're back here though. I hope your mom ther gets the help she needs and you keep trying. ((Hugs))

Anna

Tang, I'm sorry about the situation with your mother. Try to remember she is on her own path, just as you are on yours. You will have the most chance of helping your mother and yourself by staying sober. You can do this.

milly4me

((Oh Tang))

I'm sorry...both for your mom and for your misstep. Was it only one beer? Dont beat yourself up. It was a small misstep...and a crazy stressful situation. You're right that you need a better plan. But you are back on track again! You got this.

Soberwolf

Retweak your plan move forward bud

What could you add to strenghten your sobriety

Acceptance is key

You can read & print this off its very useful http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...recovery.html?

Tang

full disclosure, no. Beer(s). Either way it was a fail.

soberclover

Don't justify your impulsive reaction to this event as an excuse to continue drinking. You can start this day over and begin your day by not drinking any more. Get rid of the alcohol. Drink water, eat, rest, and get yourself around positive people whether that is at a meeting or by continuing to reach out here on SR. We have to rein in our alcoholic impulses or they will continue to bring us down. You CAN get through this Tang.

anattaboy

Onward! The Beast has no shame--it's a predator. Kudo's to having only one. I'm sure your Beast is very proud of that. Revoke that lease. You are the landlord. Best wishes.

Tang

Thanks but it was more than one. Either way you are correct. Thanks!

SoberLeigh

Sometimes I wonder what is worse, Tang - our own alcoholic drinking and self-destruction, . . . or watching someone we love risk their health, security, happiness, well-being.

But as difficult as it may be to accept, your Mom is on her own journey.

Stay strictly focused on your own journey. Emotional triggers are the worst for me; finding healthy ways to cope is key.

Do you have face to face support, Tang?

Tang

That's next.

SoberLeigh

Good to hear, Tang. We are here for you 24/7/365.

PurpleKnight

The biggest challenge in Sobriety I found was finding new tools to put in the toolbox for when life throws a few curve balls!!

Go at things again and tweak your plan!!

bcamp

I feel your pain. My whole life I've been upset with how much my father drinks. When I was a kid it was always beer, now as an adult, I see him chug from the bottle when no one is looking. I never wanted to be like him, but I am exactly like him. I'm here today hoping to fix this...

Dee74

I'm sorry Tnag - but it's good you're back.
I agree with Anna - you have your own path just as your mother has hers.

Use the support you have - if it's not enough - get some more.
You can do this

D