Day one, becomes day none...maybe?
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Join Date: Jul 2013
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Are you drinking right now? If you are, stop(if that's what you want).
If you are not , great, That is how to start, right now. We experience life in the 'now', if you can do it now, right now, you can do it in all the 'nows' that are your life. And you only have to do it now.
Its an odd way to think, I know it even seems weird to read it, but it really is true.
wish you well
If you are not , great, That is how to start, right now. We experience life in the 'now', if you can do it now, right now, you can do it in all the 'nows' that are your life. And you only have to do it now.
Its an odd way to think, I know it even seems weird to read it, but it really is true.
wish you well
My husband's furious at me. I pulled some major s**t last night and am feeling so hopeless this morning. I feel like this is a battle that can't be won. Set a day to quit, only to dive into the deep end and drown. *sob*
Why set a date to quit instead of quitting today?
Come and join us at the 24 hours club if you want to http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post4262670
Come and join us at the 24 hours club if you want to http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post4262670
No one will be able to scare you in to quitting, you have to decide if it's worth it to you to quit or not. If you do decide to make that choice, there are many ways you can go about it. SR is one of those places. AA is another. Then there's inpatient/outpatient detox, counseling, AVRT, Smart, etcc. However, none of them will work if you choose to keep drinking.
Can't tell you how furious my husband has been with me, many times for relapsing. What was worse though was how I felt about myself. Incomprehensible demoralization. Ashamed, guilty, inferior, ....you name it. Just remember.... You can start your day over right now No need to set a date/time. That never worked for me, anyway. You can do this.
It helps when you surrender and take the help of the people around you, on this forum, in a group. Think of this a fellowship. This disease that you and I both have is much bigger than both of us and kills many. You will not be able to stop this on your own. Moderation, which I think you have been trying of late does not seem to be working out nor will it ever. You can either learn by having more lower lows or the fear of having these, which is my motivation. In either case the first step is not picking up that first drink.
I wrote this in your recent posting about moderating and how well things were going, you might not be ready now but whenever you are and after whatever it is that gets you ready, I am sure many of us will be here to help.
I wrote this in your recent posting about moderating and how well things were going, you might not be ready now but whenever you are and after whatever it is that gets you ready, I am sure many of us will be here to help.
We can all tell Pinot - because we've all been there before too. The great thing about SR ( and sobriety in general ) though is that you don't have to have to deal with the pain if you don't want to. Drinking is the CAUSE of the pain, not the solution to it. It took me many years to realize that, and one of the most frustrating things about being sober is not being able to share with others how simple the solution really is. I'm not saying that it's easy to do, because it is not. But the crux of the issue is that drinking IS the problem. So if you remove the alcohol, you remove the source of the problems.
It's excruciating and I think that pain is how most of us end up on SR.
I'm ok now. I'm not scared to never drink again. I'm working on ways to beef up my recovery plan and fight nighttime loneliness.
I don't want any more messes to clean up in my life.
I'm here for you. I'm on Day 5 again after giving into loneliness.
We're all works in progress.
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