Being fake
Well you can cast most things in a negative light if you choose to. I counted my first thirty days because each one felt like an achievement and each one took me a day further away from alcohol and active addiction and a day's worth of feeling better!
It was something to celebrate personally and something people here encouraged with messages of support as they always do.
It was something to celebrate personally and something people here encouraged with messages of support as they always do.
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Gatorgirl, like oh well.. I can reset tomorrow, and there will be people to say 'don't feel too bad, just start again..eventually you can just think 'yeah I will start again tomorrow' you either have to want to quit or not..not have everyone wiping your ass when quitting is constantly interrupted. That's all
Gatorgirl, like oh well.. I can reset tomorrow, and there will be people to say 'don't feel too bad, just start again..eventually you can just think 'yeah I will start again tomorrow' you either have to want to quit or not..not have everyone wiping your ass when quitting is constantly interrupted. That's all
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Gatorgirl, like oh well.. I can reset tomorrow, and there will be people to say 'don't feel too bad, just start again..eventually you can just think 'yeah I will start again tomorrow' you either have to want to quit or not..not have everyone wiping your ass when quitting is constantly interrupted. That's all
But who does it really affect, not us, You are the one that will continue to hurt, It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. People will continue to encourage you , they are not gonna say hey stupid why did u drink. What positive effect would that have u know what I mean?
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We are all prisoners of our own perceptions. I guess it's how you look at it. If that's what it means to you...that's what it means. I'm not a day counter. It doesn't work for me for a variety of reasons...one being is in my first few weeks even one damn day seemed like too big a commitment lol. I committed (and still do) to being sober right "now". What I soon discovered is that the "now" commitment helped me on other levels. When I started feeling anxiety about doing something ahead of time that might make me think drinking would make it easier or more comfortable or fun or whatever...well, I got myself out of "the future". I realized that often my anxiety was caused by getting out of my now...whether that was thinking about the future or the past. I only have control over my "now". I take my present as it comes. I deal with arriving situations as they come. I stay in the present cuz it's all I have to do anything with.
Ok, I understand your thinking!
I feel like we are all on our different journey coming from different places. Just being on this forum and posting is a yearning for a change, IMO. Even though some may still be fighting the fight, daily...at least thet are coming back and reading the experiences of others, which in turn may help make a change for them.
I joined this forum in July, bascially lurked for two months, still drinking...I wasn't ready to quit when I joined but I kept reading. Something in me wanted to read every day, until I finally said I can do this...Sept 15 was that day.
And if I hit a blip, you can bet I will be back here amongst my friends...who understand.
I feel like we are all on our different journey coming from different places. Just being on this forum and posting is a yearning for a change, IMO. Even though some may still be fighting the fight, daily...at least thet are coming back and reading the experiences of others, which in turn may help make a change for them.
I joined this forum in July, bascially lurked for two months, still drinking...I wasn't ready to quit when I joined but I kept reading. Something in me wanted to read every day, until I finally said I can do this...Sept 15 was that day.
And if I hit a blip, you can bet I will be back here amongst my friends...who understand.
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But who does it really affect, not us, You are the one that will continue to hurt, It shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. People will continue to encourage you , they are not gonna say hey stupid why did u drink. What positive effect would that have u know what I mean?
If you are ready nothing anyone says can be wrong, if you are not ready nothing we can say is right.
I mean anyone in general. Not directing directly at you lifeunlocked.
The future belongs to those who prepare today. I used to leave everything for tomorrow and never got anything accomplished. It was a big part of my procrastination. I just focus on the now as that is the only thing I could control.
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No my point is that, all the time you have the mindset of 'oh well I can just reset the counter cos everyone gets it' where is the accountability for now n just doing the utmost to make it happen yeah? It is not about days, but what is the change overall. Constantly have the optiom of a reset seems just an other excuse to the alcoholic(they don't need the easy option) IMO
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Hi life, I liked counting days in early sobriety. For me, it was a measure of progress. An accomplishment. I feel the further you get away from the alcohol, the better. Some people do not like to count. Some do. Do whichever one is the most positive for you. The important thing is no alcohol. Very best wishes to you.
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No my point is that, all the time you have the mindset of 'oh well I can just reset the counter cos everyone gets it' where is the accountability for now n just doing the utmost to make it happen yeah? It is not about days, but what is the change overall. Constantly have the optiom of a reset seems just an other excuse to the alcoholic(they don't need the easy option) IMO
How very interesting how one individually looks at something.
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I get it
Getting an accountability partner who will call you on your stuff. In AA they call it a sponsor. Most people who are not ready do not want to be accountable to anyone.And they come here cuz they know they will be accepted and no one will call them on their stuff. Cuz we have no right. It's their life. Therefore they continue to drink until one day they say I am sick and tired of being sick and tired and they are ready to go to any lengths.
The 24 hour club is a form of accountability. And if you look at how many people who view it as compared to those who actually sign in, it just shows you how many people just aren't ready to stop or be accountable to anyone.
Getting an accountability partner who will call you on your stuff. In AA they call it a sponsor. Most people who are not ready do not want to be accountable to anyone.And they come here cuz they know they will be accepted and no one will call them on their stuff. Cuz we have no right. It's their life. Therefore they continue to drink until one day they say I am sick and tired of being sick and tired and they are ready to go to any lengths.
The 24 hour club is a form of accountability. And if you look at how many people who view it as compared to those who actually sign in, it just shows you how many people just aren't ready to stop or be accountable to anyone.
No my point is that, all the time you have the mindset of 'oh well I can just reset the counter cos everyone gets it' where is the accountability for now n just doing the utmost to make it happen yeah? It is not about days, but what is the change overall. Constantly have the optiom of a reset seems just an other excuse to the alcoholic(they don't need the easy option) IMO
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