I think this is quacking, but I'm not sure, it sounds legit
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I think this is quacking, but I'm not sure, it sounds legit
My dad sent me this text a few minutes ago:
"I love you, so please don't be angry with what I have to tell you. Tomorrow mom and I are going into mediation to split up money and assets and everything. I'm going to lose most of the money and my business is failing awfully right now. I will be totally broke within a few months from now. Probably be sleeping in my car. You can't get a job anywhere at my age. Anyway, I have two more checks to send you then I can't send anymore. Also, I will no longer be able to pay your health insurance. You will need to talk to mom, she still has a job and will have lots of money in the bank. I'm really sorry and I know you will probably hate me. But I have no choice. I do love you very much and always will."
My boyfriend and I are in the middle of relocating and are currently living in a hotel (although we move into our new apartment on Saturday). I really don't need this crap right now.
Is this more quacking?
"I love you, so please don't be angry with what I have to tell you. Tomorrow mom and I are going into mediation to split up money and assets and everything. I'm going to lose most of the money and my business is failing awfully right now. I will be totally broke within a few months from now. Probably be sleeping in my car. You can't get a job anywhere at my age. Anyway, I have two more checks to send you then I can't send anymore. Also, I will no longer be able to pay your health insurance. You will need to talk to mom, she still has a job and will have lots of money in the bank. I'm really sorry and I know you will probably hate me. But I have no choice. I do love you very much and always will."
My boyfriend and I are in the middle of relocating and are currently living in a hotel (although we move into our new apartment on Saturday). I really don't need this crap right now.
Is this more quacking?
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I'd vote a big QUACK-firmative on that one.
Really? Living in his CAR? This is b.s. because mediation is only a means of trying to get parties to agree. No agreement, nothing happens. Period. So if he is the kind of guy who is going to shove everything he owns across the table and leave so he can sleep in his car, he would be the first such individual I have ever heard of.
Really? Living in his CAR? This is b.s. because mediation is only a means of trying to get parties to agree. No agreement, nothing happens. Period. So if he is the kind of guy who is going to shove everything he owns across the table and leave so he can sleep in his car, he would be the first such individual I have ever heard of.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat 
I'd vote a big QUACK-firmative on that one.
Really? Living in his CAR? This is b.s. because mediation is only a means of trying to get parties to agree. No agreement, nothing happens. Period. So if he is the kind of guy who is going to shove everything he owns across the table and leave so he can sleep in his car, he would be the first such individual I have ever heard of.
Really? Living in his CAR? This is b.s. because mediation is only a means of trying to get parties to agree. No agreement, nothing happens. Period. So if he is the kind of guy who is going to shove everything he owns across the table and leave so he can sleep in his car, he would be the first such individual I have ever heard of.
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I agree...QUACKING!! I think he's trying to gain your sympathy, that he wants you to think "poooooor dad" which is what HE is feeling.
He's taking no responsibility for his own part in this, which to me means quacking.
I know you don't really need this right now, but as someone who has BTDT, there are times we just can't depend on our parents. Admittedly, I'm living in my dad's house, have food to eat, but I also just loaned him money to be able to do his job. It's a give and take relationship.
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He's taking no responsibility for his own part in this, which to me means quacking.
I know you don't really need this right now, but as someone who has BTDT, there are times we just can't depend on our parents. Admittedly, I'm living in my dad's house, have food to eat, but I also just loaned him money to be able to do his job. It's a give and take relationship.
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Well, I'm not so sure that all of it is quacking. Overly dramatic, certainly. However, the financial reality of a failing business and loss of part of his savings and retirement in a divorce settlement (your Mom sooooo deserves it sounds like) may be absolutely true. If it were me, the bigger question would be how to adjust my own budget to take care of my own insurance and so on.
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I understand that. But I need to move into my apartment first. This week and the one before have been some hell trying to get movers and pay rent for April as well as the prorate rent for this month, for that I had to get a cashier's check because the management company of the apartment complex won't accept anything else, I just want the move to be finished already.
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Originally Posted by hydrogirl
Well, I'm not so sure that all of it is quacking. Overly dramatic, certainly. However, the financial reality of a failing business and loss of part of his savings and retirement in a divorce settlement (your Mom sooooo deserves it sounds like) may be absolutely true. If it were me, the bigger question would be how to adjust my own budget to take care of my own insurance and so on.
Sure, it's possible he will take a rough financial hit. But it wouldn't be in anyone's interest to render him destitute.
I'm not buying it.
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Originally Posted by Erika1968
What exactly is "quacking"? Playing the victim?
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My .02cents. He is trying to turn you against your mother. This doesn't even justify as quacking.
Become self-sufficient, and he won't be able to hurt you like this.
No divorce does not put someone in the poor-box.
He is trying to complain to your that your mother will get alimony. My ex used that one on my kids also. That if he didn't have to pay me, he would have more money to spend on them. Thing is, at the end of the divorce he still had more incoming money then I did. About $40,000. a year.
Is he going to live in his car? Absolutely not, unless he chooses to. His business is doing bad, he can always go back to court to try to reduce alimony. This is not quacking, this is plain BS. Trying to get your sympathy, and trying to turn you against your mother.
Become self-sufficient, and he won't be able to hurt you like this.
No divorce does not put someone in the poor-box.
He is trying to complain to your that your mother will get alimony. My ex used that one on my kids also. That if he didn't have to pay me, he would have more money to spend on them. Thing is, at the end of the divorce he still had more incoming money then I did. About $40,000. a year.
Is he going to live in his car? Absolutely not, unless he chooses to. His business is doing bad, he can always go back to court to try to reduce alimony. This is not quacking, this is plain BS. Trying to get your sympathy, and trying to turn you against your mother.
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Originally Posted by amy55
My .02cents. He is trying to turn you against your mother. This doesn't even justify as quacking.
Become self-sufficient, and he won't be able to hurt you like this.
No divorce does not put someone in the poor-box.
He is trying to complain to your that your mother will get alimony. My ex used that one on my kids also. That if he didn't have to pay me, he would have more money to spend on them. Thing is, at the end of the divorce he still had more incoming money then I did. About $40,000. a year.
Is he going to live in his car? Absolutely not, unless he chooses to. His business is doing bad, he can always go back to court to try to reduce alimony. This is not quacking, this is plain BS. Trying to get your sympathy, and trying to turn you against your mother.
Become self-sufficient, and he won't be able to hurt you like this.
No divorce does not put someone in the poor-box.
He is trying to complain to your that your mother will get alimony. My ex used that one on my kids also. That if he didn't have to pay me, he would have more money to spend on them. Thing is, at the end of the divorce he still had more incoming money then I did. About $40,000. a year.
Is he going to live in his car? Absolutely not, unless he chooses to. His business is doing bad, he can always go back to court to try to reduce alimony. This is not quacking, this is plain BS. Trying to get your sympathy, and trying to turn you against your mother.
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Well, I mean you are their child are you not aware of their financial situation and whether or not what he is saying is truthful? What about his business? Is it really failing?
I disagree with Amy55 - Divorce, in general, is financially devastating.
Its an odd sounding text though - kinda fake or something.
I disagree with Amy55 - Divorce, in general, is financially devastating.
Its an odd sounding text though - kinda fake or something.
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Originally Posted by redatlanta
Well, I mean you are their child are you not aware of their financial situation and whether or not what he is saying is truthful? What about his business? Is it really failing?
I disagree with Amy55 - Divorce, in general, is financially devastating.
Its an odd sounding text though - kinda fake or something.
I disagree with Amy55 - Divorce, in general, is financially devastating.
Its an odd sounding text though - kinda fake or something.
My concern about the OP here is that the dad is trying to turn the daughter against the mom. BTDT. Still feeling it here.
Maybe feeling triggered here, because I was the mother, that went thru this. So will sign off and try to look at things more logically? tomorrow, but I doubt it.
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Originally Posted by redatlanta
Well, I mean you are their child are you not aware of their financial situation and whether or not what he is saying is truthful? What about his business? Is it really failing?
Oh and "I will be totally broke within a few months from now" I've heard that one before, he's been saying that for like the past two years.
Besides, I didn't react, I just gave him my new address and then it just turned into a "normal" conversation. WTF?
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I just want to comment that your dad has brought you down this path before. I don't know if it has been truth before or if it is truth now, but for me their is some familiarity.
I just want to comment that your dad has brought you down this path before. I don't know if it has been truth before or if it is truth now, but for me their is some familiarity.
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