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I visited my boyfriend yesterday for the first time in a couple weeks. I was nervouse and excited, because it was like meeting for the first time again. It was amazing. Talking to him is like talking to a brand new person. He is more motivated and determined than I ever thought possible. He only talks in a day to day basis and never looks at the broad sense of things in fear he will get overwhelmed. Every single person I met had such great things to say about him and how he's such a positive energy around the center.

He leaves at the end of this week and will immediately go to a recovery house for the next couple of months. I know this is a good thing, despite being apart for so long, but I am scared. He sounds great and feels even better, normal he said, but I hope he keeps this clear state of mind.

I know it is completely up to him how long he stays clean and in recovery. I know I can only be a supporter on the side lines. His counselor made swo much sense on the phone the other day about his recovery. He said that I have to look at it as him running a race, and the more I try and run it with him and get in his way the more he will fall and eventually lose the race. I need to be a cheerleader on the sidelines. I am understanding that more and more everyday. Little obstacles stand in our way, but I have to let him deal with it however he can.

This next step in the process still scares me though.

FamilyMan2153

My wife says I am a different person as well. Try to do as he does and take it just one day at a time. I do not know the next step but do it with openness and honesty and you will be fine. There is a forum for friends and family of addicts and alcoholics on this site as well.

Anna

I'm glad your boyfriend is doing well, and I really hope he continues.

And, yes, be sure to take care of yourself.