Wow what in the world is this??
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Wow what in the world is this??
I will make this brief, I am about to move for the last time but tonight my soon to be XAH came and shut the doors to my bedroom and told me not to come out. I assumed he was going to watch porn which I detest. But I walk in there and he is sitting on the couch with his eyes closed talking like he is talking to someone. He wasn't even aware that I was even standing there. I mean out of his head. who is he talkiing too? its like he is hearing voices and he is talking to someone??? but it was something he was plotting to do because he came and made sure the doors were shut before he started whatever this is??? Its kind of scarey and very sad to witness.
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I wish he had a bluetooth but no, I stood there for several minutes, he never opened his eyes. He was having a conversation with someone, but no one is there and his dialogue was like they were answering???? I just didn't know if alcoholics do this. To me it is erry and demonic.
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My AM has never done anything like that, and I'm speaking with almost 30 years of experience here. Dual diagnoses are not uncommon, so it's possible he might be more than one kind of crazy. I'd go somewhere safe for the time being, if possible. If not, secure yourself in your room, have an escape plan, and keep a phone nearby.
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Originally Posted by rhondaseven 
I wish he had a bluetooth but no, I stood there for several minutes, he never opened his eyes. He was having a conversation with someone, but no one is there and his dialogue was like they were answering???? I just didn't know if alcoholics do this. To me it is erry and demonic.
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Ragmuffin it did scare the poo out of me! And NWGRITS I think you are right there is more than alcoholism here. We have only been together for a year so I thought I walked in a couple of times before and he was talking to himself or I heard him talking to himself and I would walk in saying someting like " were you talking to me" etc., but he would realize i was there and open his eyes and look at me and say no. but no explanation this time I know for sure he is talking and it isn't to me. sure glad i am gone. i think i will go to my girlfriends house. thank you all for your response.
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choublak... it was hard to make out. he would be like answering a question.. "no no it wasn't like that." then I thought he was referring to me and saying she is out of here or something like that. it was hard to make out. he would say ok ok got it, yes uh uh
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Unfortunately I have seen this in XABF. Spooky stuff, but actually kind of enlightening when I sat back silently and just listened to what he was saying (apparently he was getting advice from his apparition o.O). He has anxiety, depression, PTSD, addicted to xanax and is end-stage-not-even-making-an-attempt-to-get-better-chug-all-the-vodka-he-can-find A. He would actually sit at the kitchen table and talk like someone was right there. When he was sober he would talk about being afraid because he saw dead people. At first I thought he was just faking it as another form of manipulation, and I'm not 100% convinced that I was wrong, but that's neither here nor there since we are no contact now.
Learn2Live has it right - trust your instincts. Mine was oblivious to my presence. Closing the doors has a serious creepiness to it.
Learn2Live has it right - trust your instincts. Mine was oblivious to my presence. Closing the doors has a serious creepiness to it.
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On several of my Wife's drunken episodes, she did the same thing - talked to people who weren't in the room!! Of course, she didn't 'prepare' for it by getting me out of the room; hell, she barely knew I was even in the room.
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My AH was a sleep walker and talker. I had entire conversations with him while he jerked and stumbled around the house, talking nonsense. He was asleep through the whole thing. When he quits drinking for a spell, these episodes stop.
I was always really confused and creeped out by it. One of the weirder ones was when he insisted on keeping a pound of butter in our bedroom because he might need it. I laughed about that one later. One of the scarier ones which I wasn't there for was when he woke up in the middle of the street because a car was honking at him.
I was always really confused and creeped out by it. One of the weirder ones was when he insisted on keeping a pound of butter in our bedroom because he might need it. I laughed about that one later. One of the scarier ones which I wasn't there for was when he woke up in the middle of the street because a car was honking at him.
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Yes, I have seen this---more than once. It was when they were VERY,VERY intoxicated---and kind of just in their own world---nothing made any sense, really. Like when someone is saying their thoughts out loud. Next day---remembering nothing. Total blackout. Sad.
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I have seen this too. I used to call it his "dream state", before I realized it only happened when he was very intoxicated. He could have entire conversations, with his eyes open, yet he was asleep. Then I realized he was blacked out. He never had any memory of these. I thought he had some fantastic ability to gray out completely the states between awaken and asleep, an ability I sure don't have and thought was remarkable.
Was he even drinking? Because maybe the man has started some form of eastern thought practice, like meditation. Or, the other extreme, which would be psychosis. If you don't know what he was saying, then trying to figure out what he was doing is impossible. Knowing if he was under the influence of any mind-altering substance is important here.
That said, take care of you, and if he frightens you, then do take care of yourself by leaving.
Was he even drinking? Because maybe the man has started some form of eastern thought practice, like meditation. Or, the other extreme, which would be psychosis. If you don't know what he was saying, then trying to figure out what he was doing is impossible. Knowing if he was under the influence of any mind-altering substance is important here.
That said, take care of you, and if he frightens you, then do take care of yourself by leaving.
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He doesn't have any memory of it today. He was extremely intoxicated. He regularly has blackouts, matter of fact I would say 100% of the time he doesn't remember the last two to four hours of drinking. Even though he doesn't remembert last night, I asked him today if he heard voices and he said that is my inner dialogue. Don't you talk to yourself. I said no this isn't that, I told him I thought it was his drinking. He said I had inner dialogue when I was a kid and I wasn't drinking. So I am sczeinfrania (spelling) now?? I just let it drop.
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