Someone shoot me
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Someone shoot me
I had a dream last night about my ex...
In the dream I told him that I wanted for our relationship to work and that I would go to Al-anon. Of course I did not tell him this today.
I just can't believe how much this is still on my mind - I would like to forget already! Even my subconscious can't let it go... Is this normal? It's been two months so I just hope it will get easier soon.
In the dream I told him that I wanted for our relationship to work and that I would go to Al-anon. Of course I did not tell him this today.
I just can't believe how much this is still on my mind - I would like to forget already! Even my subconscious can't let it go... Is this normal? It's been two months so I just hope it will get easier soon.
Who knows why we have certain dreams. I've had dreams about someone I haven't seen or even thought of since elementary school! I've had dreams that I remarried my ex-husband (for the third time) and woke up in a panic until I realized it was only a dream. Can't promise you'll never dream about your ex again, but the dreams should be less and less frequent. A couple of months isn't really all that long.
I was having ex dreams all last week. The xh, a previous xAbf, the current xabf and an old bf from high school!
But, the ones about the xabf and his xgf were in my dreams every night. I finally started to telling myself before I went to bed that I wanted to dream of things about my future and not my past.
I haven't had one about him since.
Wish that would work so easily during the day when I think about him!
But, the ones about the xabf and his xgf were in my dreams every night. I finally started to telling myself before I went to bed that I wanted to dream of things about my future and not my past.
I haven't had one about him since.
Wish that would work so easily during the day when I think about him!
Aw, geez... I still have occasional dreams where I'm late for a final exam and can't find the right building let alone the correct room and am running all over campus while time is running out. And it's been way longer than 2 months since I was a full-time student.
I figure I'll let my sub-conscious deal with the unconscious stuff while I will focus on my conscious actions. I refuse to worry or be held liable for anything that my sub-conscious dreams up. Especially the ones with the tall, dark and handsome.... err.... sorry, too much info for a family forum.
I figure I'll let my sub-conscious deal with the unconscious stuff while I will focus on my conscious actions. I refuse to worry or be held liable for anything that my sub-conscious dreams up. Especially the ones with the tall, dark and handsome.... err.... sorry, too much info for a family forum.
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But, the ones about the xabf and his xgf were in my dreams every night. I finally started to telling myself before I went to bed that I wanted to dream of things about my future and not my past.
I haven't had one about him since.
Wish that would work so easily during the day when I think about him!
The only way your subconcious mind changes it's process is if you feed it a new positive thought, I find that feeding the thought right before I go to sleep works.
It is actually your concious mind that is causing these dreams/thoughts, your concious mind only believes what it is fed by your subconcious mind...so, I would suggest that you repeat the same thought every night, after a while your concious mind will believe the thought and poof the dreams are gone.
It is actually your concious mind that is causing these dreams/thoughts, your concious mind only believes what it is fed by your subconcious mind...so, I would suggest that you repeat the same thought every night, after a while your concious mind will believe the thought and poof the dreams are gone.
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Yes, it's normal. I still cry from the depths of my soul pretty much every morning ZiggyB. I am expecting it is going to take a good 7 or 8 months to fully grieve this loss and emotionally let go 100%. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself. I'm so grateful I have you in my life and we are going through this together. I understand your frustration; I honestly thought about just ending it, this morning, out of frustration that I'm still in so much pain. What a stupid thought, but I admit I'm that desperate at times.
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Yes, it's normal. I still cry from the depths of my soul pretty much every morning ZiggyB. I am expecting it is going to take a good 7 or 8 months to fully grieve this loss and emotionally let go 100%. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself. I'm so grateful I have you in my life and we are going through this together. I understand your frustration; I honestly thought about just ending it, this morning, out of frustration that I'm still in so much pain. What a stupid thought, but I admit I'm that desperate at times.
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Regardless my last two relationships were very painful. I realize how I picked these people with problems, wanted to feel needed and then attempted to change them which obviously doesn't work.
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It does get better!
When I went thru it, the first couple of months, it was cold
and snowing and it was the Holdiays.
I would go to bed, get up and stand at the closet smelling his clothes
Then I would wear them to bed and cry myself to sleep
I would dream of him and sometimes it was in color
They were real
Sometimes I would wake up crying, as I was having a conversation
with him in my dreams
It took about 12 months for me to finally stop
I had to exhaust myself before I could go to sleep
And to this day, now that takes work for me (falling asleep)
After 17 years of marriage - I guess thats bound to happen
Now, I just roll with the flow of it, instead of fighting it
Its almost been 2 years now - The closets are cleaned out
filled my new clothes
And now, I dream in 50 shades of gray
When I went thru it, the first couple of months, it was cold
and snowing and it was the Holdiays.
I would go to bed, get up and stand at the closet smelling his clothes
Then I would wear them to bed and cry myself to sleep
I would dream of him and sometimes it was in color
They were real
Sometimes I would wake up crying, as I was having a conversation
with him in my dreams
It took about 12 months for me to finally stop
I had to exhaust myself before I could go to sleep
And to this day, now that takes work for me (falling asleep)
After 17 years of marriage - I guess thats bound to happen
Now, I just roll with the flow of it, instead of fighting it
Its almost been 2 years now - The closets are cleaned out
filled my new clothes
And now, I dream in 50 shades of gray
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