Change4life

tHERE ARE THOSE that dont like gay people and try to pretend we dont exist...But we do exist. When a loved one gets sick or passes away we want to be with them. WE HURT AND GRIEVE JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. We shouldnt be excluded and left BEHIND to grieve alone because other people dont approve of our relationship.

ChikkaB

I hear ya. Do you have a friend you can call to be with you today?

bellakeller

So sorry for your loss.

Much love.

Dee74

I'm sorry you're going through this B. I know it must be especially hard for you today.
I hope you're taking care of yourself.

D

aasharon90

I am me. I am an Alcoholic. I am
an exwife. Daughter, Mom and so
on.

Ive gone thru many changes in my
life and those changes are for me
and no one else.

If family of friends don't like my new
changes, tattoos, biker, remarried,
piercings, then that is not my problem.

I try to the best of my ability to accept
people, places and things just as they
are suppose to be. And I try not to take
other peoples inventories because Im no
saint either.

If I want to attend a funeral I will no matter
what others may say or think of me. And.....
I dont have to attend if i chose not to with no
worries with other may say or think.

My recovery is my own. This is my life. All
I have to do is live life following the steps and
knowledge set down before me and give it
away.

I am who I am and if others dont like it then
that's their stuff.....Give it back to them where
it belongs.

Be strong and the kind and good person that
you are.

Anna

Beth, I am so sorry for your pain and your loss.

Change4life

Most of my friends are in NJ. They all went to wake to be with Pat. i am actually trying to put a happy face on and go to work. I wont be alone, but I am not sure I can handle it. my job has been on shaky ground and we really need the cash so I have to go and do the best I can.
assharon... I thought of going anyway, but I really want this time to be about her son. her relatives might not have the sense to realize this is not a time to be making a scene, but I do. I dont want to make anyone more upset than they already are. When Pat comes back we will go the spot on the beach the 3 of us use to hang out and have our own memorial, but i am stll so brokenhearted

Anna

Beth, that sounds like a lovely idea!

aussieblue

So very sorry for your loss.

Inafishbowl

Damn straight. No pun intended.
love, a very strong straight ally of my Gay brothers and sisters.

Onewithwings

My heart goes out to you. I have been a part of the GBLT community for a while now and seen some sad stuff. I am sorry for your loss.

PaleMale

I have many, many, gay and lesbian friends, who are very special to me and have enriched my life in so many ways. I have had LGBT friends die as well. Thankfully, their services were loving, inclusive and their lives celebrated and memorable.

It is a crime that some people treat them so horribly and refuse to be understanding, loving and generous. Good people are just that: good! You and yours deserve respect and comfort.

My heartfelt condolences to you and yours in this difficult time.

ReadyAndAble

Hey, I just want to say that I think Pat is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.

I know this is very hard for you, but it's really inspiring to realize you're going through this alone solely out of concern for her. (Though of course you're never really alone at SR.)

Anyway, thanks for the reminder of what real love looks like.

Reset

Sorry that this is tough for you. Life can be pretty unfair sometimes. Hang in there.

Aysha

Oh B...I am sry your feeling bad.
Your actions prove that you are a better person. Not being selfish and remaining supportive. Thats all good things.
I love love love the ocean. That sounds like a wonderful peaceful thing to do.
Thats where I have always went when I needed a peace of mind and serenity.
Theres just something about it thats so calming and comforting. At least for me.
Your doin good B. Hang in there.

newby1961

Sorry for your loss

It is important for you to have closure so I am happy to hear you plan on having your own memorial.

People have always rented way to much space in my head and I hate it but the more I work on myself and feel comfortable in my own skin the less it matters what these judgemental jerks think

People that judge don't matter, People that matter don't judge.

whiskerkissed

(((Change4life)))

No judging here. I'm so sorry for your loss. Part of my spirit lies with the ocean. I think it's a wonderful idea, too. What a beautiful way to remember her life.

Change4life

thank you so much everyone... I screwed up big time, I got through work did th e entertaining expected of me. my friends came and thought it was a good idea that we go out. I should have said no,,, ladies night free drinks. I am drunk and regretful. I just couldnt take it. i took the free drinks and embraced them. now I am hating myself

ste

Don't hate yourself! That's much worse, and more damaging, than some other jerkwads judging you, or "hating" you because they are ignorant.

Take inventory, and get back on track. You know the drill!

Unfortunate the world is full of jerkwads, but they don't take care of us.

Change4life

OMG I forgot what a hangover feels like. OUCH. Just the sound of the air conditioner is killing me. hopefully I wont be doing that again. as punishment I made myself get up and run through my entire set, but I only made it half way through. 1 1/2 hours listening to the sound of my voice is enough to give anyone a headache...LOL