I'm back!! And thank God for the opportunity
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Join Date: Sep 2005
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I'm back!! And thank God for the opportunity
I'm back to talk to everyone. It's been a tough year. I thought that I could do it alone, BUT I WAS WRONG. AND Boy, did I screw up. But I'm thankful to be back talking with you guys out there that understand. 
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Jasper, GA
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Hiya waitup...us drunks are all over N GA, aren't we? I'm about 40 miles up the road from ya in Jasper...
Welcome back...and remember, like I said in another thread yesterday, AA doesn't shoot their wounded.
BubbaBob
Welcome back...and remember, like I said in another thread yesterday, AA doesn't shoot their wounded.
BubbaBob
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Join Date: Apr 2005
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Originally Posted by Pernell Johnson
My question is, what are you going to do different this time?
Love Vic
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Join Date: Apr 2004
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Welcome Back....
I have had to prove to myself too many damn times that I am not cut out to fight this addiction on my own.
And being a human being, being human and living in the human condition I have come to the conclusion that a sense of community in whatever we do, whether it be to raise a family, recover from addiction, loss, (basically to just deal with life on life's terms) is essential for good health...
Glad you made it back to SR...
I have had to prove to myself too many damn times that I am not cut out to fight this addiction on my own.
And being a human being, being human and living in the human condition I have come to the conclusion that a sense of community in whatever we do, whether it be to raise a family, recover from addiction, loss, (basically to just deal with life on life's terms) is essential for good health...
Glad you made it back to SR...
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Join Date: Sep 2005
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Thanks to all you guys out there for your support!! I'm just learning how to navigate thru this forum, so please excuse until I get more practice. The thing I'm going to do differently this time is to go to at least one f2f meeting once a month!! I'm going to involve myself in more productive things such as exercise and movies and good dinners. Does that make sense? It does to me. I know it will work with God's help and all of your. Lots of Love and Emotion
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Join Date: Mar 2005
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Welcome back -- I've had a rough year too!
thank goodness, there wouldn't be many of us left!
Originally Posted by BubbaBob
Welcome back...and remember, like I said in another thread yesterday, AA doesn't shoot their wounded.
BubbaBob
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Personal Recovery Planning
Waitup sorry it took me so long but I have been runnung around like a madman. This is a long thread but jump in wherever you like. Anyone else who wants to participate is welcome. we will probably do this over a period of days only because of my time constraints.
There are many ways to maintain a healthy lifestyle free of self-defeating behavior. Your recovery plan will be your own creation and will be different from anyone else's. This exercise is meant to give you a starting point and a framework to design your own program. It won't be a finished product when you are done----there will be more questions. It will provide you with a method you can fall back on when things get difficult and confusing.
1. When you think about your recovery, what do you want to accomplish?
Above and beyond staying clean and sober, some things many people
want to work toward include control over their actions; self-respect and
dignity; peace of mind; the ability to enjoy life; the respect of others;
more satisfying relationships; improved health; career progress; and
improved financial status. There are many others.
List the five most important things you want to work on.
a.__________________________________________
b.___________________________________________
c. _________________________________________
d. _________________________________________
e. ________________________________________
You can list these on scrap paper as we go along until you have completed your plan or you can list them on the site. Can you hear me now!!
Can You Hear Me Now!!!!!
There are many ways to maintain a healthy lifestyle free of self-defeating behavior. Your recovery plan will be your own creation and will be different from anyone else's. This exercise is meant to give you a starting point and a framework to design your own program. It won't be a finished product when you are done----there will be more questions. It will provide you with a method you can fall back on when things get difficult and confusing.
1. When you think about your recovery, what do you want to accomplish?
Above and beyond staying clean and sober, some things many people
want to work toward include control over their actions; self-respect and
dignity; peace of mind; the ability to enjoy life; the respect of others;
more satisfying relationships; improved health; career progress; and
improved financial status. There are many others.
List the five most important things you want to work on.
a.__________________________________________
b.___________________________________________
c. _________________________________________
d. _________________________________________
e. ________________________________________
You can list these on scrap paper as we go along until you have completed your plan or you can list them on the site. Can you hear me now!!
Can You Hear Me Now!!!!!
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Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Plymouth, MN
Posts: 960
Pernell,
I'd like to participate -- had another relapse last week and know that I need to do more than just stay sober.
a. Become more spiritually connected.
b. Set goals for myself and achieve them (find that I have just been letting life happen).
c. find someone (sober) to share my life with
d. Become more social (had started to isolate myself)
e. Have more energy and enthusiasm for life
I'd like to participate -- had another relapse last week and know that I need to do more than just stay sober.
a. Become more spiritually connected.
b. Set goals for myself and achieve them (find that I have just been letting life happen).
c. find someone (sober) to share my life with
d. Become more social (had started to isolate myself)
e. Have more energy and enthusiasm for life
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Join Date: Mar 2001
Location: Plainfield, New Jersey USA
Posts: 491
Personal Recovery Planning
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2. For each these items, describe how a return to substance abuse would affect your chances of getting what you want.
a._____________________________________________
b._____________________________________________
c. _____________________________________________
d. _____________________________________________
e.______________________________________________
3. For each of the things you want to work on, list specifically what you want to accomplish---in other words, how you will know when you've achieved your goals.
a.________________________________________________ _
b.________________________________________________ _
c.________________________________________________ _
d.________________________________________________ _
e.________________________________________________ _
4. Have you ever tried to cut back or completely quit drinking or using before? What methods were effective?
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
What methods were ineffective?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. Staying away from using/drinking has two parts: finding things to do that work to help you remain abstinent and figuring out which things not to do because they result in returning to use. Drawing on all you have learned so far in your recovery and on the experiences of others. fill out the following:
a. Support Group Activities: What meeting(s) will you attend during the week? When and Where?
__________________________________________________ ___
__________________________________________________ ___
When will you meet with your sponsor each week?
2. For each these items, describe how a return to substance abuse would affect your chances of getting what you want.
a._____________________________________________
b._____________________________________________
c. _____________________________________________
d. _____________________________________________
e.______________________________________________
3. For each of the things you want to work on, list specifically what you want to accomplish---in other words, how you will know when you've achieved your goals.
a.________________________________________________ _
b.________________________________________________ _
c.________________________________________________ _
d.________________________________________________ _
e.________________________________________________ _
4. Have you ever tried to cut back or completely quit drinking or using before? What methods were effective?
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
What methods were ineffective?
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
5. Staying away from using/drinking has two parts: finding things to do that work to help you remain abstinent and figuring out which things not to do because they result in returning to use. Drawing on all you have learned so far in your recovery and on the experiences of others. fill out the following:
a. Support Group Activities: What meeting(s) will you attend during the week? When and Where?
__________________________________________________ ___
__________________________________________________ ___
When will you meet with your sponsor each week?
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Join Date: May 2003
Location: Northern CA
Posts: 1,432
Originally Posted by waitup
I'm back to talk to everyone. It's been a tough year. I thought that I could do it alone, BUT I WAS WRONG. AND Boy, did I screw up. But I'm thankful to be back talking with you guys out there that understand.
Pernell has given a very useful outline -- a plan -- for preventing relapse and beginning again on recovery.
Here's an article that may help you develop better insight...
On Self-Control - by Hank Robb
[Slightly abridged and edited by Henry Steinberger]
'self-control' is:
a) what you build up, develop, create, learn by controlling your behavior repeatedly
b)regard self-control as a skill, NOT a THING you have or don't have.
When some one says:
'I have no self-control over my drinking,' or whatever, I can ask:
'Are you well practiced at resisting urges or opportunities to use?'
The answer is 'no'.
This person is well practiced in giving in to those urges and opportunities.
Self-control over urges and opportunities is like self-control over bicycles and roller skates -- you get it by practicing. The reason individuals, correctly, feel they don't have it is because they haven't been practicing the tools which help develop self-control. In this case, the SKILL not well practiced is resisting urges and opportunities to use.
That is why those who do practice resisting urges [self-control], after awhile, report that it becomes easier and easier to continue. They have been exercising and building their self control and now have begun to show a fair bit of this skill.
In everyday language, thinking you must first have self-control before you acquire a change in your behavior is 'putting the cart before the horse.' Self-control comes from making the change in your behavior.
We might add that self-control may involve learning new strategies to bridge the difficult initial period.
In one famous study, children were left with a candy bar and told that if they didn't eat it they would get two candy bars.
The children who resisted the temptation while alone were secretly observed and found to use verbal self-reminders and distracting activities. Children who didn't resist were later able to do so after being taught strategies for better self-control. Simple behavioral tools such as these can help us get past urges and situations which usually have led to drinking or using drugs in the past. We can learn the tools to change our behavior. And we can practice them.
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