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Old 05-14-2018, 04:54 PM
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Another day 1....

Tomorrow. My pops(dad) passed away and I relapsed today. It came out of nowhere he was healthy and strong, but had a massive stroke at 53. Iíve been planning the funeral and just couldnít take it, he was my rock. Drank quite a bit today. Starting over now. I just need to find the strength....
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Old 05-14-2018, 05:45 PM
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I'm sorry for your lose. I wish I could put it into word. I can't imagine your suffering.
So don't be to hard on yourself I this tough time.
Wishing you the best
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Old 05-14-2018, 05:47 PM
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Sorry for your loss buddy and hold ya head up high. Alcohol is not your friend and you will bounce back and conquer. I believe in you.
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I'm sorry to hear that awful news, StarGazer. We are with you as you begin to get free and heal. Let us know how you're doing tomorrow. We care.
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Sorry for your loss. Donít be too hard on your self.
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:03 AM
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Tomorrow. My pops(dad) passed away and I relapsed today. It came out of nowhere he was healthy and strong, but had a massive stroke at 53. Iíve been planning the funeral and just couldnít take it, he was my rock. Drank quite a bit today. Starting over now. I just need to find the strength....
I'm so sorry for your loss Stargazer. I pray you can reign in that voice that says drinking will make this better and get back on track. Keep coming here!
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:27 AM
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So very sorry for your loss - I haven't lost a parent yet so I can only imagine what you feel.

Being sober makes life better for me, even the really crappy stuff (I do have a step-son who is making horrible life decisions now, not that it compares but just to say sh*t does happen). Best to you for starting again today.
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Old 05-15-2018, 06:55 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. My mom passed suddenly and unexpectedly and it has been extremely difficult. Please be kind to yourself, you are going to have waves of what will feel like unmanageable grief--treat yourself as your dear father would have treated you? My mom would be heartbroken with how I treated myself, you deserve better than that. xoxo
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Old 05-15-2018, 07:30 AM
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I am so very sorry for your loss, StarGazer.

May you find comfort.

Wishing you strength in this most difficult of times.
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Old 05-15-2018, 09:05 AM
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Sorry to hear about your father Stargazer, hope you are doing a little better today.
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Old 05-15-2018, 10:19 AM
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So sorry to hear of your loss- you can get back on track
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Old 05-15-2018, 01:05 PM
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I am so sorry.

What a shock, so young.

Be strong for him.
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Old 05-15-2018, 03:49 PM
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I am sorry for your loss. I found the strength or power to handle such events through AA. My sponsor seemed to know the future. I was young when I got sober, I had quite a few "rocks". He prepared me for the time when I would lose them all. My father, my wife, my best friend and my sponsor, all gone.

Thankfully, program I became connected to the Power, an enduring rock that has never let me down. And now the roles are reversed. For my children, my new wife, my close friends, the people I sponsor, I must now be their "rock".

I am so grateful I found the Power to do that.

I live by a brief passage in the Big book where Bill realises "I must turn in all things to the Father of Light who presides over us all."
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Old 05-15-2018, 04:29 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss SG.
I'm glad that you've declared tomorrow is day one. I can't think of a better way to honour your Dad.

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Old 05-15-2018, 05:59 PM
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So sorry to hear of your loss, SG. Your dad was around my age, so I know it's a terrible shock. You'll make it back, though, and you're in the right place. Stay close and take it easy on yourself...
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