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Old 03-09-2018, 11:41 AM
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Would you include that you don't drink in your bio?

I have no problem with anyone drinking and can go into a bar and not feel tempted to drink. Just wondering whether I should mention I'm teetotal as this could put a woman off. I would like to be as up front and honest but don't wanna make them think theres something up with me.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:43 AM
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Your call. She's gonna find out quickly anyway. Why not just cut to the chase?

I wouldn't date a drinker...unless they were the kind who had one champagne on New Years.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:50 AM
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Not drinking is a choice many make, not just alcoholics. Honesty is probably the most important thing I think you can have in a relationship so why start off on the wrong foot?
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by slangking View Post
I would like to be as up front and honest
Upfront and honest. You answered your own question.
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:16 PM
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I'm more inclined to tell the truth, obviously they are going to find out as well at some point.

Anyone had any experience with the online dating thing?
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:18 PM
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Dating is hard enough.

Online dating is like serial blind dates.

Online dating in early sobriety? Well. That should be interesting, to put it mildly.
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:20 PM
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I'm over a year dry and don't want to go back to my drunken lifestyle. I tried a recovery website but it was full of religious women (sorry, not for me thanks).
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:24 PM
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What about a hobby? What do you like to do? Take kayaking lessons, learn to cook at a class, take a watercolors or woodworking class. Do what you love and you'll meet others with similar interests.

I learned to scuba dive a few years back and instantly added lots of acquaintances.

How about volunteering? There are 10 women to every man at animal shelters.
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:39 PM
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I kinda tried that, I booked an expensive art class weekend and I was the only one there. Heheheheh.
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Old 03-09-2018, 01:28 PM
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I would just put non-drinker for the question, no reason not to be up front. You'd be surprised at how many other non drinkers out there, or these mysterious people called "normal" drinkers that can do all kinds of activities without drinking without a problem.
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Old 03-09-2018, 01:31 PM
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Just put 'non drinker' to answer the question. If I were considering someone to date, that would be important to me.
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Old 03-09-2018, 07:08 PM
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Yes I think it's important that you say you're a non drinker or don't drink. Also put you're a non smoker if you don't smoke. That way that eliminates anyone who wants someone to drink with.

But I wouldn't tell them that you had a problem with drinking until after you get to know them for a while.
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Old 03-09-2018, 07:58 PM
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I kinda tried that, I booked an expensive art class weekend and I was the only one there. Heheheheh.
Was God trying to tell you something?
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Old 03-10-2018, 04:38 AM
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On the dating sites I've signed up for there's usually been a section for alcohol use, and I just indicate that I don't drink, or 'Never'.

If that puts people off, then I'd probably not want to meet them anyway.
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Old 03-10-2018, 07:45 AM
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I answered that I do not drink on a profile, but did not choose in recovery.
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