anxiousrock

Hey guys so I got engaged last month. Yes my boyfriend still loves me even with my drinking problem. He’s a man as good as they come. We’ve been together over 5 years.

Since we don’t have much in terms of money...we want to get married in Vegas.
Anyone been to friends of bill there? Is this possible to do as an alcoholic?
Champagne at my own wedding????
Help.

MyLittleHorsie

Congrats! You would be surprised how few brides actually drink on their wedding day. I was in a wedding recently and I didn't get a drink until dinner and we started the wedding day at 7am.
I actually think Vegas would be quite accommodating.

Dee74

hI Anarock - congrats.

if your partner knows you have a problem, he should be ok with no champagne at your wedding...or are you the one not ok with it?

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FindingMyNext

I've been to Vegas drunk and I've recently been to Vegas sober. Some people might argue with me, but I found there wasn't much to enjoy in Vegas unless you're a gambler or a drinker. Sober me was counting the minutes until I could leave. The only fun part was the game I started to play in my mind-- wondering how drunk everyone around me really was and how much money they were throwing away.

Caveat: I was new to sobriety at the time, so maybe I hadn't yet established the tools I needed to be happy-sober when I was there. Instead I was just lonely-sober and anxious-sober. It might be different now that I have some time and perspective.

Anarock, think about your wedding and what you realllllly want out of it. If it's just time with your fiancé in a small setting, you could pick a far less expensive/chaotic option in a courthouse in any town in your state. Then take a long walk and have a great dinner afterwards. Not saying you should do this--it's just one option of thousands-- just maybe think about what the two of you want to be doing as you begin your lives together.

doggonecarl

Justice of the Peace in your own town will marry you. Small fee. Skip the reception and you don't have to worry about champagne or any other drinking.

Or you can wait until you are comfortable enough in your sobriety for a wedding not to be a concern.

biminiblue

I used to love Vegas as a drinker. I also used to deal blackjack at a casino in Tahoe, so the life is familiar to me. As a drinker.

I would rather get married at Disney, to be honest - and I'm not a Disney fan. It's just that Vegas is all about the party for most everyone. Drunk people everywhere - not that much to do at night unless you have show tickets (which are $pendy) or go out to dinner. Or gamble. If you guys are gamblers, welp.

Why did you choose Vegas? Of all the juke joints...

I'd be finding a nice little cozy romantic hotel on a lake somewhere close to home and sit in a hot tub under the stars - sans champagne. Some room service and . . .

Stayingsassy

Yeah, as my sobriety putters along I am avoiding wet places and wet people. If you are getting sober, Vegas will be disappointing and you are the bride. Everyone has their own path to take, though.

tomsteve

marriage shouldnt be dependant on location.
marraige-the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship .

i think it would be wise to check your motives on location of marraige.
its possible to have a dry reception.
seems honeymoon location would be something to look at over location of the marraige.
seems rather strange- not much money yet want to go get married in a pricey town.

congratulations on your engagement. i hope you decide to make the marraige itself more important than location.

EliL

Firstly congratulations

I went to lots of places that served alcohol in early recovery but i had in place a very strong support system and an exit route if i needed to get out of there. You're not going to Vegas to drink you are going to get married so thats ok. Can you go through the wedding and the reception and the honeymoon without having a drink? If yes go for it BUT make sure you have some kind of support in place if you get the urge. If in doubt maybe postpone for a little while. Just my 2 cents worth.

ScottFromWI

Congrats on your engagement Anarock. I'd second the suggestion that you really don't need to go anywhere to get married if money is a concern. Getting married is about making a lifelong commitment to another person, where it happens is inconsequential.

Regarding alcohol at your reception - again, it's a celebration of your marriage so if alchol is not part of your life there's no reason to have it be part of your wedding. I've been to weddings where alcohol was available for purchase on premise but not openly served to the entire crowd. It's your day so you can do whatever you choose.

Gotta be honest, Vegas sounds like a really bad idea for you on multiple levels, but that's just my opinion.

LadyBug66

I would rather go to San Diego than Vegas. Hotel Del Coronado.... check it out.

SickInLove

I got married in Vegas 15 years ago, it was cheap and easy so I have no regrets BUT I did not have a drinking problem then . I was 21 at the time and Vegas was fun and exciting. Nowadays I probably wouldn’t go. I went once when I was pregnant and had a terrible time. When you are sober in Vegas everyone is annoying. There is alcohol everywhere and people are annoyingly drunk. On a positive note there is some amazing places to eat and shop in Vegas and beautiful photo opportunities. Also I know someone suggested Disney but the average price for a Disney wedding is about $20,000 .. I’m a huge Disney person but that definitely wasn’t in our budget. We got married at the little white chapel and with the license and wedding it cost us $185 haha. Congrats on your engagement ❤️