Phoney reasons that I would want to drink today?
Phoney reasons that I would want to drink today?
There really has not been one reason for me to wish to take a drink for the past 10 years. There have been many times that I have thought to myself -- back in my old drinking days I would have got drunk over this but, not today because I no longer run to the bottle when things get rough. Thank God I came to the point in time where I Made A Firm Decision to never drink again for I had been burnt by the Liquid Devil enough.
Reason for this thread.
How many times when sober in the past did I talk myself back into drinking using some phoney excuse? Many, many, many.
Just for example.
Once I wanted to show my ex wife how displeased I was with her.
So I drank with close to three years sober.
That didn't turn out very well.
Another time I just didn't think of the consequences.
Talked myself into drinking.
Brought on more years of misery for myself and others.
Another time at a wedding reception I felt very tight.
I thought that just (a couple) of beers would help?
That was the beginning of yet another hard long run.
My list could go on for a while.
Would you feel free to add some phoney reasons to drink today.
May be of some help for someone?
Have a blessed sober day,
M-Bob
Reason for this thread.
How many times when sober in the past did I talk myself back into drinking using some phoney excuse? Many, many, many.
Just for example.
Once I wanted to show my ex wife how displeased I was with her.
So I drank with close to three years sober.
That didn't turn out very well.
Another time I just didn't think of the consequences.
Talked myself into drinking.
Brought on more years of misery for myself and others.
Another time at a wedding reception I felt very tight.
I thought that just (a couple) of beers would help?
That was the beginning of yet another hard long run.
My list could go on for a while.
Would you feel free to add some phoney reasons to drink today.
May be of some help for someone?
Have a blessed sober day,
M-Bob
Because my coworkers are all my age and they all drink and go out to bars after work and I want to fit in.
Because I work hard and I'm stressed and I deserve it.
Because it will make dating a whole heck of a lot easier and more fun.
Because I am bored (sad, lonely, angry, happy....you name it).
Because I work hard and I'm stressed and I deserve it.
Because it will make dating a whole heck of a lot easier and more fun.
Because I am bored (sad, lonely, angry, happy....you name it).
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It's just the AV. Once the neuronal feedback loop circuits are laid down in the brain, due to excessive drinking, they remain, they just become overgrown, but they still exist, and might chirp up, even if it's only once every ten years. If you take away the AVs power, the AV is just like a fly, once you've gone through withdrawal, just swat it away. If you assign the AV a fear status, you'll struggle and fight and feed it like oxygen does a fire. Just swat and dismiss the AV.
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In 2013 I managed 4 months without a drink.
When I started up again it was the classic "this time it will be different" and I would only drink a few beers here and there, not get drunk, and only drink socially.
That plan lasted a few weeks and then I was back to constant drunkenness for 3 more years until I quit on 10/24/2016.
When I started up again it was the classic "this time it will be different" and I would only drink a few beers here and there, not get drunk, and only drink socially.
That plan lasted a few weeks and then I was back to constant drunkenness for 3 more years until I quit on 10/24/2016.
Over the past 27 yrs of continuous sobriety
I haven't found it necessary to pick up a drink
of poison or return to my alcohol addiction
or thought alcohol would make living life on
life's terms any better.
It has been thru the Grace of my Higher Power,
God of my understanding, folks like you here
in SR, and the program of AA that I continully
turn to, to help solve many of my life's situations,
no matter if it is mentally, emotionally, spiritually,
physically, financially, etc.
Today I know I can return to the basics of
my program as a healthy affective solution,
keeping it simple, remaining teachable
and helping others still struggling with
addiction to help me stay on track and
continue trudging this road of recovery
with humility, patience, kindness and
understanding.
Recovery is one heck of a gift filled
with many blessings that I am truly
grateful for.
The gift of life. A happy, free, honest life.
I haven't found it necessary to pick up a drink
of poison or return to my alcohol addiction
or thought alcohol would make living life on
life's terms any better.
It has been thru the Grace of my Higher Power,
God of my understanding, folks like you here
in SR, and the program of AA that I continully
turn to, to help solve many of my life's situations,
no matter if it is mentally, emotionally, spiritually,
physically, financially, etc.
Today I know I can return to the basics of
my program as a healthy affective solution,
keeping it simple, remaining teachable
and helping others still struggling with
addiction to help me stay on track and
continue trudging this road of recovery
with humility, patience, kindness and
understanding.
Recovery is one heck of a gift filled
with many blessings that I am truly
grateful for.
The gift of life. A happy, free, honest life.
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Yesterday I thought I was going to lose my sweet old man Jack.
That would have been (in the past) a perfect "excuse" to drink. Not anymore.
When I woke up this morning, he was fine and I was grateful to God for giving me more time with him.
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Towards the end for me, i didn't even need an excuse - I just drank all day/every day. The people around me that cared gave up on even asking for me to provide one either as they knew it would just be another lie.
like scott, there was a point in my life i crossed the line into full blown alcoholism. i stopped coming up with reasons or excuses and drank because i couldnt not drink. no matter how much i didnt want to nor how much i fought, i couldnt not drink. i couldnt get rid of the mental obsession on my own.
I wanted to drink today so it would be more fun to get some holiday decorations out of the basement.
Then, I thought...those decorations can wait until I am really in the mood!
Then, I thought...those decorations can wait until I am really in the mood!
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Once I wanted to show my ex wife how displeased I was with her.
So I drank with close to three years sober.
That didn't turn out very well.
So I drank with close to three years sober.
That didn't turn out very well.
Because I am doing so well and things are looking great from every angle, drinking will be happy and enjoyable.
What a load of BS! I am doing so well that I must therefore sabotage the successes I worked so hard to earn?! Never mind how easily we forget that there is no such thing as one night of drinking - once we've awoken the monster it's a SOB to put back to sleep.
What a load of BS! I am doing so well that I must therefore sabotage the successes I worked so hard to earn?! Never mind how easily we forget that there is no such thing as one night of drinking - once we've awoken the monster it's a SOB to put back to sleep.
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In my last days my reason was pretty much "Well, its 6am, the liquor store is open"
I really never had any major triggers/reasons. I had an on/ off switch in my head, switch off I could do 3 or 4 months dry easy but then out of the blue the switch would be turned on and I'm "Welp, I'm gunna start up again"
I can say one thing, the more years I drank the longer the switched stayed on.
I really never had any major triggers/reasons. I had an on/ off switch in my head, switch off I could do 3 or 4 months dry easy but then out of the blue the switch would be turned on and I'm "Welp, I'm gunna start up again"
I can say one thing, the more years I drank the longer the switched stayed on.
I have been feelings overwhelmed lately (lots on my plate) and I also have been struggling with physical pain.
Those are not reasons to drink.
I am approaching 5 years sober (which is how long I was sober before my relapse) and I will be damned if I let my AV get the best of me.
Thankfully, I have no desire to drink but if the thought pops up I would definitely not cave in this time around. There are no good reasons to drink, just excuses.
Those are not reasons to drink.
I am approaching 5 years sober (which is how long I was sober before my relapse) and I will be damned if I let my AV get the best of me.
Thankfully, I have no desire to drink but if the thought pops up I would definitely not cave in this time around. There are no good reasons to drink, just excuses.
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I drank last night because the night before I drank quickly and early and as usual on an empty stomach, so I could get drunk quicker. It worked but I woke up at 2am and couldn't get back to sleep. Yesterday was Day 1 and I planned to go to the gym with some friends so I wouldn't go straight home from work and drink as normal.
I couldn't go to the gym yesterday as I was dog-tired and felt like ****. So, I drank early and on an empty stomach but had a reasonable night's sleep as I was so tired and today is Day 1 and am going to the gym.
The sheer madness of it.
I couldn't go to the gym yesterday as I was dog-tired and felt like ****. So, I drank early and on an empty stomach but had a reasonable night's sleep as I was so tired and today is Day 1 and am going to the gym.
The sheer madness of it.
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