bluedog97

I have 2 major goals right now.

1. Stay sober
2. Move

I really don't like this town. Never have.

Just feeling down and frustrated about the situation I'm in.

ScottFromWI

I think having your sobriety as the #1 goal is a very smart move in itself. It will help you out in completing #2

Soberwolf

Hey bluedog you have us bud

waynetheking

Hang in there bluedog. Just don't drink. The boredom will pass. My guess is its not the town.

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Just stay sober, no matter where you live.

bluedog97

It's not boredom, waynetheking, it's certain people, including my family that drive me nuts. If I moved I could be further away from them. I could really focus on my recovery.

Man, I needed to get that out. Thanks

waynetheking

I hear bluedog. Nothing wrong with a new beginning. You have to make your sobriety number one. Do whatever it takes. Hang in there buddy. Were here for ya.

biminiblue

I moved several thousand miles away from my family and still drank.


The move was still a good idea, though. Some families get better from a distance. Nothing wrong with starting to make a plan. Just do it thoughtfully and carefully so you land on your feet.

Or don't. God knows I moved all over the country when I was younger with almost no money and just a wing and a prayer!

Dee74

I hope whether you move or not you can learn to put your family on a kind of emotional 'call waiting' bluedog

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bluedog97

My risk of drinking after a move would be out of pure jubilation. Here out of misery. But let's be clear, I need to stay sober, and plan to.

I surmise that my getting sober may have ruffled the waters. My therapist says one person changes, the whole system has to change. It seems like I'm getting pressure (from one in particular) to revert back to the old me. And I thought everyone was happy when you got sober!

Anyway, thanks

bluedog97

Working on it, Dee. Setting boundaries with someone that doesn't understand the meaning of them, well, is a challenge. I honestly feel like I'm dealing with a child.

Dee74

It's much better to set boundaries for yourself than try and set them for someone else

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biminiblue

Yeah, I'm with Dee. Just do what you need to do and if they aren't on board - that's their issue. I'm glad you have a therapist, that helps! My family never did understand that whole boundaries thing. I just held on to my principles regardless.