Anxious. Boredom. Day 2
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Anxious. Boredom. Day 2
I have been a heavy drinker for approximately a year. Over 2 liters a week. I have quite before for three weeks or even a few days. Well it's day two again. My schedule was always drinking at 7- 10 pm. Tv, FB, and texting. I know I can get through this. The grief that caused me to drink is not the problem anymore, I just don't know how to enjoy things without it now. Things seem dull. Had this issue before and began drinking again. I can't find an AA in my area and things in a small town are hidden. I have a counselor, but no one to help me through. What can I do to keep busy? I don't want to clean all night or have any other hobbies. I am in college, but semester is winding down. I'll be less busy. How do newbies deal?? Ty for your help.
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Welcome to SR butterfly! You'll find a lot of support and understanding here on SR. Congrats on day 2, the first several days are usually the roughest physically. As far as what to "do", you can do anything you want to...literally. Being drunk actually limits your possible list of activities. Here's a great thread on the subject with a ton of good suggestions.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
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What about volunteering at an animal shelter
or starting an exercise program?
I expect there are many clubs to get involved with on campus.
Maybe look for something interesting and join it.
Texting and TV watching are such a lonely things--being around people is good when
you are trying to quit
or starting an exercise program?
I expect there are many clubs to get involved with on campus.
Maybe look for something interesting and join it.
Texting and TV watching are such a lonely things--being around people is good when
you are trying to quit
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Day 2? Sounds like withdrawals. And normal. You may not have AA local, but the Big Book of AA is online. Read that. Read about Rational Recovery. Lots of information about addiction in your school library too. Study up. You need to get past feeling deprived because you can't drink, can't have fun without alcohol.
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Welcome ButterflyGal have you joined the class of November it really helps
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-4-a-8.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-4-a-8.html
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Happy to meet you, Butterfly. I remember feeling very strange in the early days of recovery. Something seemed to be missing - but I just needed to relearn how to live without it. You will get past this phase & begin to feel good again.
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If there is not an AA group in your small town, you can bet that someone else from your small town will be travelling to meetings that are a short drive away. If you phone the national helpline number, they can get someone from your local area to give you a call to chat about where meetings are and how to get to them - people are generally happy to give others a lift to meetings. As you're reaching the end of the semester you'll be freed up to go to meetings in the day as well so could get it all off to a good solid start to prepare you for Christmas and New Year and the new semester.
Restless; Irritable; and Discontent if a well known description of our alcoholic state. Plus, you're bound to feel a bit 'jangley' (my own word for it) in the first weeks / months anyway - that's inevitable, whatever you do. And you're bound to have an obsession with alcohol (and maybe other compulsive behaviours that you may feel tempted to act out on for some instant gratification). The good news is that you can choose to reach a place of acceptance over this and you don't have to act on feelings. You know, if you DO act on them, those feelings get stronger and stronger. Don't feed them by taking a drink or acting out and gradually they will get less and less intense and eventually fade away (if you work on your recovery). Things will get better - one day at a time, slowly and surely.
Have you read Living Sober? It is only short but I'm always amazed by how much advice and wisdom is packed into just a few pages. You can buy it from Amazon or direct from AA and it's cheap as chips.
It's also worth spending some time working on your own recovery plan, thinking about how you can avoid / deal with triggers. There are lots of good threads about this on here.
Restless; Irritable; and Discontent if a well known description of our alcoholic state. Plus, you're bound to feel a bit 'jangley' (my own word for it) in the first weeks / months anyway - that's inevitable, whatever you do. And you're bound to have an obsession with alcohol (and maybe other compulsive behaviours that you may feel tempted to act out on for some instant gratification). The good news is that you can choose to reach a place of acceptance over this and you don't have to act on feelings. You know, if you DO act on them, those feelings get stronger and stronger. Don't feed them by taking a drink or acting out and gradually they will get less and less intense and eventually fade away (if you work on your recovery). Things will get better - one day at a time, slowly and surely.
Have you read Living Sober? It is only short but I'm always amazed by how much advice and wisdom is packed into just a few pages. You can buy it from Amazon or direct from AA and it's cheap as chips.
It's also worth spending some time working on your own recovery plan, thinking about how you can avoid / deal with triggers. There are lots of good threads about this on here.
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