Am I an alcoholic? Really need help.
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"If you think you might be an alcoholic, you probably are" and "look for the similarities, not the differences" are things I heard a lot when I got sober.
My drinking was heavier than yours, Laur, but it only took one black-out for me to get sober at 24 years old. For me, alcohol was a coping mechanism. And then it suddenly turned on me and I was in a position where I was going to lose a job and the place where I lived. Today, I have actual tools to use when dealing with life to where I can solve my problems, with the help of people in the rooms and my higher power.
My drinking was heavier than yours, Laur, but it only took one black-out for me to get sober at 24 years old. For me, alcohol was a coping mechanism. And then it suddenly turned on me and I was in a position where I was going to lose a job and the place where I lived. Today, I have actual tools to use when dealing with life to where I can solve my problems, with the help of people in the rooms and my higher power.
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Originally Posted by mpr 
One thing though, you say you have a problem but are not an alcoholic yet. You may not be one yet but I'll tell you there is a very, very thin line between having a problem and being an alcoholic. The line is often so blurred it is hard to distinguish one from the other.
Originally Posted by dox
I can still tell myself that it wasn't that bad, my self-medicating: my drinking.
But, that's just part of my denial.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
There are those of us who baulk at step 4 and never come back.
So, I say again:
Well done.
But, that's just part of my denial.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
There are those of us who baulk at step 4 and never come back.
So, I say again:
Well done.
I was talking to my sponsor last night about my fears of not being accepted back into program because I still don't identify as an alcohol and she told me the same thing. "The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking." I have the desire. I can't be using drinking as a coping mechanism. I need the spiritual experience and fellowship of the program for the times when I feel alcohol is the only answer.
Step 4 has been really tough. Having to feel those resentments all over again and examine my part in them-- terrifying.
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Originally Posted by greens
I would definitely check out some sort of Counseling for depression and look at the smart recovery website.
AA is great in a lot of ways but when it came to my dial diagnosis smart is what really helps me. I am diagnosed ptsd with anxiety and depression, there is definetely a correlation between my depressive episodes and my binge drinking and drug use. Smart gave me tools to cope with that.
But definitely seek out therapy too if you haven't done that already
AA is great in a lot of ways but when it came to my dial diagnosis smart is what really helps me. I am diagnosed ptsd with anxiety and depression, there is definetely a correlation between my depressive episodes and my binge drinking and drug use. Smart gave me tools to cope with that.
But definitely seek out therapy too if you haven't done that already
Originally Posted by PurpleDan
"If you think you might be an alcoholic, you probably are" and "look for the similarities, not the differences" are things I heard a lot when I got sober.
My drinking was heavier than yours, Laur, but it only took one black-out for me to get sober at 24 years old. For me, alcohol was a coping mechanism. And then it suddenly turned on me and I was in a position where I was going to lose a job and the place where I lived. Today, I have actual tools to use when dealing with life to where I can solve my problems, with the help of people in the rooms and my higher power.
My drinking was heavier than yours, Laur, but it only took one black-out for me to get sober at 24 years old. For me, alcohol was a coping mechanism. And then it suddenly turned on me and I was in a position where I was going to lose a job and the place where I lived. Today, I have actual tools to use when dealing with life to where I can solve my problems, with the help of people in the rooms and my higher power.
I really look forward to having the tools to use when dealing with life. That's my main motivation for coming back
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