What ive learned in 2 weeks sober
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What ive learned in 2 weeks sober
I have learned that I have unresolved issues that I need to work through if I want to maintain sobriety.
I have learned that I am flawed as a person and will never be perfect, but that is okay. I can't want perfection. That only sets me up for failure.
I have learned compassion. For myself and others. We're all in this crazy life together. And we can't do it alone (no matter how much I want to do it alone, because of my independent introvert-ness.)
And above all I've learned that I am stronger than I think and that I can do this. I just have to love myself enough to want it. Self love should be easy ... I think that alcoholics have an inherently hard time doing it, though! Something in our brain wiring maybe?
I have learned that I am flawed as a person and will never be perfect, but that is okay. I can't want perfection. That only sets me up for failure.
I have learned compassion. For myself and others. We're all in this crazy life together. And we can't do it alone (no matter how much I want to do it alone, because of my independent introvert-ness.)
And above all I've learned that I am stronger than I think and that I can do this. I just have to love myself enough to want it. Self love should be easy ... I think that alcoholics have an inherently hard time doing it, though! Something in our brain wiring maybe?
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I like your attitude. I felt like I sucked. I felt like I was a miserable failure at pretty much everything. And EVERYONE couldn't wait to point out my mistakes. I spent a great deal of time crapping on myself and allowing others to crap on me when I sobered up. No exactly because I was just beating myself up but I was finally facing the reality of what I had become and it was ugly. I made the mistake of striving for perfection only to be disappointed every time. Eventually I made my goal doing what I could each day and I started to find some real satisfaction. I still was not perfect everyone did and still will remind me of this includeing myself. But I'm ok with it I've made lots of progress etc..
so when things seem tough or hard or its not easy just do what you can that's all you can do and be happy and content with that tomorrow you can take another wack at it all over again.
so when things seem tough or hard or its not easy just do what you can that's all you can do and be happy and content with that tomorrow you can take another wack at it all over again.
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There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in. - Leonard Cohen. Don't aim for perfection. Your best is good enough and your best will keep changing as you get stronger in your sobriety.
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Thanks everyone for the positive encouragement! today is day 19, and every day I feel healthier and stronger and less "vulnerable" to relapse. What a fantastic feeling 
I think learning to work through my anxiety issues is going to be the hardest part of this journey. Any helpful advice?
I think learning to work through my anxiety issues is going to be the hardest part of this journey. Any helpful advice?
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