Divorce
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Divorce
Well, the time has finally come.
I'm leaving.
After therapy, (couples and individual) recovery, and countless attempts, it appears that we have truly arrived at a point of irreconcilable differences.
My heart is broken for the love that I once had.
I screwed it up, no doubt, but we also always fought, before, during, and after.
I hope both of us can find the peace and serenity we both deserve.
I'm putting down my sword, and resigning.
Already have a place to move to. I want to make it a nice home, but it's gonna be an adjustment.
Still no desire to drink over it. Sobriety is better.
I'm leaving.
After therapy, (couples and individual) recovery, and countless attempts, it appears that we have truly arrived at a point of irreconcilable differences.
My heart is broken for the love that I once had.
I screwed it up, no doubt, but we also always fought, before, during, and after.
I hope both of us can find the peace and serenity we both deserve.
I'm putting down my sword, and resigning.
Already have a place to move to. I want to make it a nice home, but it's gonna be an adjustment.
Still no desire to drink over it. Sobriety is better.
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You might find comfort and a place to talk about your relationship more in depth at a site called loveshack. There is a section for divorce. The site must be owned by the same person as SR bc it is set up almost exactly the same.
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I know the heartache you're feeling DB - I'm glad you wanted to talk about it here. Proud of you for not thinking of alcohol as a way to cope. It never did a thing for us. Better days lie ahead.
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These are some of the toughest decisions to make for everyone and it sounds like you are dealing with it well. It also seems that you have made a lot of effort and tried many things to work on your marriage and have a relatively peaceful perspective and hope for both of you without much resentment -- great attitude. In my own life, I usually find a lot of relief in making up my mind about difficult problems and the ability to choose what appears best considering many sides of an issue.
I always enjoy your contributions here on SR and the work you have done on sobriety is inspiring. Kudos to you for handling challenges so well and thanks for sharing
I always enjoy your contributions here on SR and the work you have done on sobriety is inspiring. Kudos to you for handling challenges so well and thanks for sharing
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Same here. I am sorry you are hurting, but it does get better!
Originally Posted by biminiblue 
My divorce ended up being a time of intense spiritual and personal growth for me. I hope you find it to be the same.
Blessings.
Blessings.
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Thank you all for the kind words.
I am certainly using every one of sobriety coping tools to get through this.
Sometimes an hour, sometimes a minute at a time. Its gut wrenching stuff to be sure.
But i am so blessed. Fortunate to have this site, good family and friends who have my back FOR REAL.
Its all gonna be ok. I really believe that. But this is one transition that I feared would be the outcome of my sobriety. And it sent me back to a bottle many times.
Now that it is here, just gonna keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Living alone sober, this will be a first.
I am certainly using every one of sobriety coping tools to get through this.
Sometimes an hour, sometimes a minute at a time. Its gut wrenching stuff to be sure.
But i am so blessed. Fortunate to have this site, good family and friends who have my back FOR REAL.
Its all gonna be ok. I really believe that. But this is one transition that I feared would be the outcome of my sobriety. And it sent me back to a bottle many times.
Now that it is here, just gonna keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Living alone sober, this will be a first.
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Originally Posted by walkbeformakrun
You might find comfort and a place to talk about your relationship more in depth at a site called loveshack. There is a section for divorce. The site must be owned by the same person as SR bc it is set up almost exactly the same.
I have to go wash my eyeballs now.
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Originally Posted by DoubleBarrel
To anyone that is considering visiting this site, it is DOT ORG !!!
I have to go wash my eyeballs now.
I have to go wash my eyeballs now.
LOL, yes, It is loveshack.org. I did not know there was a loveshack.com but see what you mean!
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The best thing I ever did was not returning to drink when my relationship ended and world came crashing down.
I still refuse to drink over it now - no matter how angry or tearful I get.
I'm sorry this is happening, but dealing with it sober is so much better than dealing with it drunk.
I'm thinking of you xx
I still refuse to drink over it now - no matter how angry or tearful I get.
I'm sorry this is happening, but dealing with it sober is so much better than dealing with it drunk.
I'm thinking of you xx
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