Here I am again
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Here I am again
It's another Saturday night and again I drank too much today. I drank about 8 or 9 beers and about 3 or 4 shots of vodka and I am really not drunk...that fact scares me. I guess the fact that it is Saturday is irrelevant...I drink this much everyday.
I don't know if anyone here remembers me. I am a 50 year old married man that has been drinking everyday since 1989. I came to this website last year and managed to stay sober 4 months from July 2014 to November 2014.
It felt good to be sober but since my wife of 20 years and all my peers still drank daily I fell right back into this drunken lifestyle.
I will turn 51 next month and I am drinking heavily. I know my health will eventually breakdown; I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise but I know that alcohol must be cut out of my life if I don't want to be in an early grave.
I have to go see my doctor next month for a check on my high blood pressure issue and I dread it. It is only a matter of time till they find something wrong with me due to the damage I have done to myself.
Trying to quit at this point is a joke and I am only fooling myself. To be honest I don't want to quit drinking. I love it. After all these years the hangovers don't bother me because I know how to mentally deal with them. I was unhappy sober and I am unhappy as a drunk - I guess I have to just realized this is ME.
I really don't know why I am making this post - I guess I want to hear that it is ok to drink but I know this is the wrong place for that. I wish I could find the courage to quit drinking the way I did last July; but in reality I quit last year in fear after my doctor told me that my booze intake, being overweight, high blood pressure and anxiety would lead to a stroke if I didn't change my ways.
Thanks for listening.
I don't know if anyone here remembers me. I am a 50 year old married man that has been drinking everyday since 1989. I came to this website last year and managed to stay sober 4 months from July 2014 to November 2014.
It felt good to be sober but since my wife of 20 years and all my peers still drank daily I fell right back into this drunken lifestyle.
I will turn 51 next month and I am drinking heavily. I know my health will eventually breakdown; I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise but I know that alcohol must be cut out of my life if I don't want to be in an early grave.
I have to go see my doctor next month for a check on my high blood pressure issue and I dread it. It is only a matter of time till they find something wrong with me due to the damage I have done to myself.
Trying to quit at this point is a joke and I am only fooling myself. To be honest I don't want to quit drinking. I love it. After all these years the hangovers don't bother me because I know how to mentally deal with them. I was unhappy sober and I am unhappy as a drunk - I guess I have to just realized this is ME.
I really don't know why I am making this post - I guess I want to hear that it is ok to drink but I know this is the wrong place for that. I wish I could find the courage to quit drinking the way I did last July; but in reality I quit last year in fear after my doctor told me that my booze intake, being overweight, high blood pressure and anxiety would lead to a stroke if I didn't change my ways.
Thanks for listening.
It's another Saturday night and again I drank too much today. I drank about 8 or 9 beers and about 3 or 4 shots of vodka and I am really not drunk...that fact scares me. I guess the fact that it is Saturday is irrelevant...I drink this much everyday.
I don't know if anyone here remembers me. I am a 50 year old married man that has been drinking everyday since 1989. I came to this website last year and managed to stay sober 4 months from July 2014 to November 2014.
It felt good to be sober but since my wife of 20 years and all my peers still drank daily I fell right back into this drunken lifestyle.
I will turn 51 next month and I am drinking heavily. I know my health will eventually breakdown; I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise but I know that alcohol must be cut out of my life if I don't want to be in an early grave.
I have to go see my doctor next month for a check on my high blood pressure issue and I dread it. It is only a matter of time till they find something wrong with me due to the damage I have done to myself.
Trying to quit at this point is a joke and I am only fooling myself. To be honest I don't want to quit drinking. I love it. After all these years the hangovers don't bother me because I know how to mentally deal with them. I was unhappy sober and I am unhappy as a drunk - I guess I have to just realized this is ME.
I really don't know why I am making this post - I guess I want to hear that it is ok to drink but I know this is the wrong place for that. I wish I could find the courage to quit drinking the way I did last July; but in reality I quit last year in fear after my doctor told me that my booze intake, being overweight, high blood pressure and anxiety would lead to a stroke if I didn't change my ways.
Thanks for listening.
I don't know if anyone here remembers me. I am a 50 year old married man that has been drinking everyday since 1989. I came to this website last year and managed to stay sober 4 months from July 2014 to November 2014.
It felt good to be sober but since my wife of 20 years and all my peers still drank daily I fell right back into this drunken lifestyle.
I will turn 51 next month and I am drinking heavily. I know my health will eventually breakdown; I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise but I know that alcohol must be cut out of my life if I don't want to be in an early grave.
I have to go see my doctor next month for a check on my high blood pressure issue and I dread it. It is only a matter of time till they find something wrong with me due to the damage I have done to myself.
Trying to quit at this point is a joke and I am only fooling myself. To be honest I don't want to quit drinking. I love it. After all these years the hangovers don't bother me because I know how to mentally deal with them. I was unhappy sober and I am unhappy as a drunk - I guess I have to just realized this is ME.
I really don't know why I am making this post - I guess I want to hear that it is ok to drink but I know this is the wrong place for that. I wish I could find the courage to quit drinking the way I did last July; but in reality I quit last year in fear after my doctor told me that my booze intake, being overweight, high blood pressure and anxiety would lead to a stroke if I didn't change my ways.
Thanks for listening.
Sometimes getting a scare from the doctor puts a lot of things into perspective and like you i had a relapse after almost 1 year sober, but i quickly realised that much like you i do not want to end up another statistic of the alcoholic lifestyle, this disease wins too often as it is.
I wish you extremely well Doug.
If your happy with drinking, then go a head and push your chair away from your PC and good luck to you, there are others in need of support here on SR!!
But we both know that you're not posting for that, why would you come to a recovery website unless you thought you needed to change something in your life!!
Let's get real Doug!! . . . what do you really want to change about your life?!!
But we both know that you're not posting for that, why would you come to a recovery website unless you thought you needed to change something in your life!!
Let's get real Doug!! . . . what do you really want to change about your life?!!
Hi Doug, I remember you and that you were doing so well for a while there. We all know it's tough but there is always the chance to change your mind. Maybe you could start having small discussions with your wife about wanting to quit to be healthy. Make it sound fun if both of you quit together and come up with nice ideas to do together sober.
If you can get her in on a plan you will have a much better chance of success. We'll be here when you are ready to lend you an ear and offer support.
If you can get her in on a plan you will have a much better chance of success. We'll be here when you are ready to lend you an ear and offer support.
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I guess you are right. The sick thing is I want the doctor to find something wrong with me or to have something bad happen that will give me an excuse to quit.
My biggest issue when I was sober for 4 months was that my marriage suffered. My wife still drank daily and since I didn't want to hit the bars, go to wineries, etc. and get loaded with her everyday everything started falling apart.
It is crazy that being good can become a bad thing.
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I am going to give it to you as straight as a I see it: Deep down in your soul you don't want to keep going this way. Deep down, you know why you're posting on a forum like this. You are strong enough to do this on your own and turn your life around. It doesn't take a doctor's diagnosis. This could really be the last straw, no exaggeration. You have control over your body. No one else is responsible for that. People care about you, don't abuse that.
I know my health will eventually breakdown; I have been trying to eat healthy and exercise but I know that alcohol must be cut out of my life if I don't want to be in an early grave. I quit last year in fear after my doctor told me that my booze intake, being overweight, high blood pressure and anxiety would lead to a stroke if I didn't change my ways. Thanks for listening.
Seems to me you can either quit or start browsing for a coffin. There are options if you want to recover, but you love alcohol and may not have the motivation to do it.
I loved drinking. but my life just wasn't that good doing it day in day out day in day out. year in year out. I could manage the hangovers, drag myself to work.... now however, I eat well, go to the gym, blood pressure and weight better, energy good.... ive planned a volunteering trip to india and Nepal, I do activities, I feel better about myself.... the list is endless. I still loved drinking though. I don't want to die knowing all ive done is drink in the last year. good luck, I know the struggle
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I get drunk everyday. That is the issue at hand. I don't understand what tolerance has to do with anything.
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8 beers at 3%, or 15%, big difference on if you get drunk or not. Depending on body weight, food in stomach etc. Like you saying near beer at 0.5% makes no difference, well sorry to say there is a huge difference in the alc/vol per drink and if you get drunk or not. True enough alcohol is alcohol, dont be fooled into thinking you drink it for the taste. Otherwise, near-beer all the time right. I drank to get buzzed, drunk, blacked out, stupid crazy drunk. I always went for the 7% Black Ice Beer (if I was playing it cool, drinking "normally" in my eyes), or the 12% Vodka Cooler (hitting it harder), or the 40% Vodka bottle. But each and every choice, was just a matter of how long I wanted to wait to black out. Vodka = now, Beer = wanna hang with the boys and have some fun.
I remember you Doug and I understand the frustrations you feel.
It is never too late to jump on the wagon. Being sober is not the magic pill you need to be happy but it is a major ingredient. You have to grow and change as a sober person otherwise you will fall right back into the delusion that alcohol makes you happy, even for the short term. It's difficult learning how to live differently sober but you can do it if you fight for yourself every day. Remember only an alcoholic knows if he is an alcoholic. It comes down to how you want to live these next 30 years. Good luck.
It is never too late to jump on the wagon. Being sober is not the magic pill you need to be happy but it is a major ingredient. You have to grow and change as a sober person otherwise you will fall right back into the delusion that alcohol makes you happy, even for the short term. It's difficult learning how to live differently sober but you can do it if you fight for yourself every day. Remember only an alcoholic knows if he is an alcoholic. It comes down to how you want to live these next 30 years. Good luck.
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