pdoc

It's only been 100 days sober and today was prob the hardest thing I had to do so far without drugs or booze to fall back on.

My son recently became engaged and the engagement party is coming up. Today I had a chat with him and said I won't be attending the party.

He was understanding and knows it's not because of him or Nat.

Dee74

Hey pdoc

that's a really tough decision to make, but I'm glad you listened to your gut.
Sounds like a wise investment for the future to me

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PurpleKnight

That took courage to chat to him and decide not to go, great job!!

fini

yes; i was about three months sober and my oldest daughter's 30th b-day party was going to be the big celebration of the year. i decided (well, my gut told me) that it was too iffy to go, and we also had a chat. it is tough, no doubt, and can so easily feel pitiful (well, i had moments of that), but it was the right decision for sure.

keep going and it will all get easier. and pat yourself on the back for putting sobriety first!

Live2Run25

That was very brave of you. I had to attend a wedding at just 9 days sober as the photographer for a family I was friends with. The first drink offer to me, I politley asked I could leave. It was just too much. They got the photo's they needed and said they didn't mind if I left. Best to not put yourself there at all if you have the choice.

SoberCAH

Good decision.

You will have to make them for the rest of your life.

One bad one, though, and it can be jails, institutions and death.

pdoc

Thanks to you all for your comments

waynetheking

It took me 6 to 9 months to start attending social functions again. Now I enjoy them with soda pop in my hands. You'll be able to do things socially later on. Hang in there buddy. Its great ur son supports you!

GwenCummings

Thanks for posting this and well done. You can mark their engagement some other way in a more personal setting.

Coincidentally I have just written to some of my oldest and dearest friends that I won't be attending our school reunion in the summer. Too much alcohol flowing, too many memories, Some really good, some terrible. I don't want to see the boy I tried to assault with a fire extinguisher because he (wisely) decided to ask someone else out.

Good luck to you and to all the other people making brave decisions. Our families and friends will all benefit when we are happier and healthier. XX

Mek2

I personally never missed a function. I am not saying you should go, but thought you should hear the other side. I think it all depends if you are a social person. For me I have made up my mind not to drink and every time I politely turned down a drink , I felt stronger. Everybody is different and I commend you for talking about it with your son. That is far better than just being a no show.