Involuntary Escacpes
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Involuntary Escacpes
INVOLUNTARY ESCAPES
Many of our escapes are involuntary: addiction and dissociating from painful feelings are two examples. Anyone who has worked with a strong addiction—compulsive eating, compulsive sex, abuse of substances, explosive anger, or any other behavior that’s out of control—knows that when the urge comes on it’s irresistible. The seduction is too strong. So we train again and again in less highly charged situations in which the urge is present but not so overwhelming. By training with everyday irritations, we develop the knack of refraining when the going gets rough. It takes patience and an understanding of how we’re hurting ourselves not to continue taking the same old escape route of speaking or acting out.
--Pema Chodron
Many of our escapes are involuntary: addiction and dissociating from painful feelings are two examples. Anyone who has worked with a strong addiction—compulsive eating, compulsive sex, abuse of substances, explosive anger, or any other behavior that’s out of control—knows that when the urge comes on it’s irresistible. The seduction is too strong. So we train again and again in less highly charged situations in which the urge is present but not so overwhelming. By training with everyday irritations, we develop the knack of refraining when the going gets rough. It takes patience and an understanding of how we’re hurting ourselves not to continue taking the same old escape route of speaking or acting out.
--Pema Chodron
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EXCELLENT POST !!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANGER ...... was mine just like an adernaline rush .
A very damaging adernaline rush .
It was going to kill me or land me in jail
Had a little problem he other day ,A fellow was unhappy with a moorcycle my boy sold him "as is " a month ago .
This fellow called and said " im coming down there o get his straight .
I got a lawn chair and waited for him outside, Wife said " are you mad ". Nope im not.
But if you think an idiot is coming here to start trouble , its a bad idea
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANGER ...... was mine just like an adernaline rush .
A very damaging adernaline rush .
It was going to kill me or land me in jail
Had a little problem he other day ,A fellow was unhappy with a moorcycle my boy sold him "as is " a month ago .
This fellow called and said " im coming down there o get his straight .
I got a lawn chair and waited for him outside, Wife said " are you mad ". Nope im not.
But if you think an idiot is coming here to start trouble , its a bad idea
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