Why is alcohol so appealing?
Forum Leader
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
Welcome back myheartaches. When I look back i also realized acceptance was my problem for many years. I tried desparately to figure out WHY I was different or why I could never drink "normally". I even got to the point in my drinking where the drinking itself provide no pleasure anymore - I simply needed to drink to avoid going into withdrawals every day. But yet I still drank.
What changed everythign for me was acceptance of the fact that I simply cannot drink any alcohol without the negative consequences - and will never know why I simply AM that way. Some call that surrendering, some call it acceptance, there's many different ways to go about it. But the one key thing that we all have to accept is that we simply cannot drink, not even one sip. It's not "Fair" or easy to do, but it's the only way to be free.
Once you do that a whole new world opens up - which is a much better one than the one alcohol kept us trapped in.
What changed everythign for me was acceptance of the fact that I simply cannot drink any alcohol without the negative consequences - and will never know why I simply AM that way. Some call that surrendering, some call it acceptance, there's many different ways to go about it. But the one key thing that we all have to accept is that we simply cannot drink, not even one sip. It's not "Fair" or easy to do, but it's the only way to be free.
Once you do that a whole new world opens up - which is a much better one than the one alcohol kept us trapped in.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Canada
Posts: 251
For me, I realized alot of it is that it is pushed on us in every which direction. The government and alcohol industry make billions per year off of alcohol. The advertise it so. They always show you drinking corona on a hot summers day, bbqs, glass of wine with a steak, posh nightclub with beautiful people etc., its a biased view. Sure some of that happens, sometimes, but more than not, its the ugly part. The part they dont show.. nor are required too. I think truly it starts from such a young age that we dont even realize it.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: New York, NY
Posts: 6,262
In the first few weeks of recovery I asked someone in the rooms what the advantage of being sober is. Her reply: "you get to be present for your life". I was horrified because I never wanted to be present for my life. From a dysfunctional childhood I emerged with two default emotions: shame and fear. Getting drunk enabled me to escape that.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
A Scary Thing To Admit
Originally Posted by FormerBeerLover 
The problem with alcohol is that for many of us, it works!
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
Thank you
Originally Posted by NYCDoglvr
In the first few weeks of recovery I asked someone in the rooms what the advantage of being sober is. Her reply: "you get to be present for your life". I was horrified because I never wanted to be present for my life. From a dysfunctional childhood I emerged with two default emotions: shame and fear. Getting drunk enabled me to escape that.
Member
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 635
Hi myheartaches,
Welcome back,
Alcohol has not appeal , it taste nasty it cost a lot and it is pretty much just fuel like gasoline a toxin for your body.
Your post brought me to my knees so powerful so me. This is what alcohol does for us addicted us makes us feel drunk and high so high so high that is why we put up with all the abuse with all these pretty girls walking alone in our past and all these pain but its all a lie. All for nothing there have to be a better life.
Have you ever heard this song Hymn for the weekend by Coldplay
So oh I oh I feeling drunk and high so high so high
Thats what we chase nothing else but we must break the pattern we deserve better
love for you xoxo
Welcome back,
Alcohol has not appeal , it taste nasty it cost a lot and it is pretty much just fuel like gasoline a toxin for your body.
Your post brought me to my knees so powerful so me. This is what alcohol does for us addicted us makes us feel drunk and high so high so high that is why we put up with all the abuse with all these pretty girls walking alone in our past and all these pain but its all a lie. All for nothing there have to be a better life.
Have you ever heard this song Hymn for the weekend by Coldplay
So oh I oh I feeling drunk and high so high so high
Thats what we chase nothing else but we must break the pattern we deserve better
love for you xoxo
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
Very Honest
Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Welcome back myheartaches. When I look back i also realized acceptance was my problem for many years. I tried desparately to figure out WHY I was different or why I could never drink "normally". I even got to the point in my drinking where the drinking itself provide no pleasure anymore - I simply needed to drink to avoid going into withdrawals every day. But yet I still drank.
What changed everythign for me was acceptance of the fact that I simply cannot drink any alcohol without the negative consequences - and will never know why I simply AM that way. Some call that surrendering, some call it acceptance, there's many different ways to go about it. But the one key thing that we all have to accept is that we simply cannot drink, not even one sip. It's not "Fair" or easy to do, but it's the only way to be free.
Once you do that a whole new world opens up - which is a much better one than the one alcohol kept us trapped in.
What changed everythign for me was acceptance of the fact that I simply cannot drink any alcohol without the negative consequences - and will never know why I simply AM that way. Some call that surrendering, some call it acceptance, there's many different ways to go about it. But the one key thing that we all have to accept is that we simply cannot drink, not even one sip. It's not "Fair" or easy to do, but it's the only way to be free.
Once you do that a whole new world opens up - which is a much better one than the one alcohol kept us trapped in.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
🙏❤
Originally Posted by Healthyandsober
Hi myheartaches,
Welcome back,
Alcohol has not appeal , it taste nasty it cost a lot and it is pretty much just fuel like gasoline a toxin for your body.
Your post brought me to my knees so powerful so me. This is what alcohol does for us addicted us makes us feel drunk and high so high so high that is why we put up with all the abuse with all these pretty girls walking alone in our past and all these pain but its all a lie. All for nothing there have to be a better life.
Have you ever heard this song Hymn for the weekend by Coldplay
So oh I oh I feeling drunk and high so high so high
Thats what we chase nothing else but we must break the pattern we deserve better
love for you xoxo
Welcome back,
Alcohol has not appeal , it taste nasty it cost a lot and it is pretty much just fuel like gasoline a toxin for your body.
Your post brought me to my knees so powerful so me. This is what alcohol does for us addicted us makes us feel drunk and high so high so high that is why we put up with all the abuse with all these pretty girls walking alone in our past and all these pain but its all a lie. All for nothing there have to be a better life.
Have you ever heard this song Hymn for the weekend by Coldplay
So oh I oh I feeling drunk and high so high so high
Thats what we chase nothing else but we must break the pattern we deserve better
love for you xoxo
Guest
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 8,674
Originally Posted by Dee74
Like I suggested on another thread maybe it's not strength but acceptance you need acceptance of your condition and acceptance of your forever toxic relationship with alcohol?
D
D
Alcohol has zero appeal to me now. By the end of my drinking, it sure didn't either. But now - at 2+ yrs sober- there is no fear nor appeal, no longing nor .... and indeed, "acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems." (BB p 417)
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
Encouraging!
Originally Posted by August252015
Annnnd - big yes.
Alcohol has zero appeal to me now. By the end of my drinking, it sure didn't either. But now - at 2+ yrs sober- there is no fear nor appeal, no longing nor .... and indeed, "acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems." (BB p 417)
Alcohol has zero appeal to me now. By the end of my drinking, it sure didn't either. But now - at 2+ yrs sober- there is no fear nor appeal, no longing nor .... and indeed, "acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems." (BB p 417)
I really see how wasteful it is to drink..
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 81
How wonderful!
Originally Posted by August252015
Annnnd - big yes.
Alcohol has zero appeal to me now. By the end of my drinking, it sure didn't either. But now - at 2+ yrs sober- there is no fear nor appeal, no longing nor .... and indeed, "acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems." (BB p 417)
Alcohol has zero appeal to me now. By the end of my drinking, it sure didn't either. But now - at 2+ yrs sober- there is no fear nor appeal, no longing nor .... and indeed, "acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems." (BB p 417)
I don't need it.
Thank you for your support.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2012
Posts: 5,229
I tihnk i just wanted to escape. I lacked the foresite to realize that booze wasnt the solution. I didnt even realize that it had actually become part of the problem and in many aspects of my life "the" problem.
I still want to escape at times and that kinda of bothers me. But these days I have other healthier outlets. and while it seems ilke it would just be so simple and easy to buy a case of beer and solve my problems for an evening I know its not really that simple far from.
I was also just stuck in that cycle unable to break free.
Now when I htink of that escape or that numbing out thing that I crave I realize this is just life. I just have to get through things theres not a quick fix and theres an arsenal of other thigns in my toolbox to keep me cranking along I really dont need to drink anymore nor do I want too.
I still want to escape at times and that kinda of bothers me. But these days I have other healthier outlets. and while it seems ilke it would just be so simple and easy to buy a case of beer and solve my problems for an evening I know its not really that simple far from.
I was also just stuck in that cycle unable to break free.
Now when I htink of that escape or that numbing out thing that I crave I realize this is just life. I just have to get through things theres not a quick fix and theres an arsenal of other thigns in my toolbox to keep me cranking along I really dont need to drink anymore nor do I want too.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
