Resisting is Difficult
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That is Spectacular!!! 21 day!! Congrats to you...
And one more thing very important when you feel like drinking slow down breathe deep and repeat this phrase:
LET'S GO CAPS!!
until the urge subsides..
Seriously Congrats to you and keep it up!!
And one more thing very important when you feel like drinking slow down breathe deep and repeat this phrase:
LET'S GO CAPS!!
until the urge subsides..
Seriously Congrats to you and keep it up!!
Peace, Love, Sobriety
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Originally Posted by bmwcycle 
That is Spectacular!!! 21 day!! Congrats to you...
And one more thing very important when you feel like drinking slow down breathe deep and repeat this phrase:
LET'S GO CAPS!!
until the urge subsides..
Seriously Congrats to you and keep it up!!
And one more thing very important when you feel like drinking slow down breathe deep and repeat this phrase:
LET'S GO CAPS!!
until the urge subsides..
Seriously Congrats to you and keep it up!!
lol, i bleed orange and black.
Congrats on your sober time FlyerFan! it gets easier with time.. but, it does take time..
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Originally Posted by FlyerFan
lol, i bleed orange and black.
All my in laws are from Philly and even though we disagree I have mad respect for their loyalty and the fan base is amazing, true fans..
Anyway keep it up and I hope that the Flyers get to the conference championship and lose to the caps is 7.
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Originally Posted by FlyerFan
I don't want go to go AA. I have terrible anxiety attacks, I can't do this face to face with people. That's why I came looking for this website. I don't feel my problem was as severe as that, but I do know that I have a problem and the will power to stop it. I just need support from people who have been in my shoes.
As long as I keep myself busy I'll be alright. Im currently working 50 hours a week and taking online college courses after that when I get home so I have pretty much only 2 to 3 hours to myself each day and I've started filling that with books and movies to occupy my mind. So far it's been working great.
As long as I keep myself busy I'll be alright. Im currently working 50 hours a week and taking online college courses after that when I get home so I have pretty much only 2 to 3 hours to myself each day and I've started filling that with books and movies to occupy my mind. So far it's been working great.
Bob R.
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'As long as I keep myself busy I'll be alright. Im currently working 50 hours a week and taking online college courses after that when I get home so I have pretty much only 2 to 3 hours to myself each day and I've started filling that with books and movies to occupy my mind. So far it's been working great.'
Glad it's working great. Some people have a hard time and find resisting difficult.
Glad it's working great. Some people have a hard time and find resisting difficult.
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"I don't want go to go AA. I have terrible anxiety attacks, I can't do this face to face with people."
You do understand that most AAs feel exactly the same way as you do ?! I had terrible anxiety attacks too, for years. When I went and sat at an AA table and said that I was shaking and scared, everyone there smiled and said that they felt the same way in the beginning !!
How would you like to live your life without those debilitating anxiety feelings?.... you can take them to a meeting and leave them there if you want.
We always judge our "insides" by others "outsides". They look so calm and collected and I'm shaking in my boots. When you talk to the others, you will find most of them are shaking too... then I can forgive myself and work on overcoming my fears instead of giving in to them.
If you were hungry and standing on the street in front of a fine restaurant, but were afraid to go in, you could starve to death in the shadow of the building while the sweet aromas of the food inside filled your nostrils. Do you get my drift ??
Wishing you the best.
Bob R.
You do understand that most AAs feel exactly the same way as you do ?! I had terrible anxiety attacks too, for years. When I went and sat at an AA table and said that I was shaking and scared, everyone there smiled and said that they felt the same way in the beginning !!
How would you like to live your life without those debilitating anxiety feelings?.... you can take them to a meeting and leave them there if you want.
We always judge our "insides" by others "outsides". They look so calm and collected and I'm shaking in my boots. When you talk to the others, you will find most of them are shaking too... then I can forgive myself and work on overcoming my fears instead of giving in to them.
If you were hungry and standing on the street in front of a fine restaurant, but were afraid to go in, you could starve to death in the shadow of the building while the sweet aromas of the food inside filled your nostrils. Do you get my drift ??
Wishing you the best.
Bob R.
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Sometimes I find being sober around drunks at a party is actually a deterrent for me. Seeing signs of intoxication in others --the sloppiness, flushed face, lack of coordination, slurred speech--repulses me, because I realize that I have been that person many many times and have looked just as sloppy. It makes me glad I'm not drinking at that moment. And leaving a party stone cold sober, seeing the drunks trying to get in their 1 (or 2 or 3) "for the road", knowing that in a few hours their heads will be pounding and they'll be swimming in regret is truly empowering. I get such a feeling of relief seeing this and realizing that I don't have to experience that, at least for that night. It feels like freedom.
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Originally Posted by BrandNewDay11
Sometimes I find being sober around drunks at a party is actually a deterrent for me. Seeing signs of intoxication in others --the sloppiness, flushed face, lack of coordination, slurred speech--repulses me, because I realize that I have been that person many many times and have looked just as sloppy. It makes me glad I'm not drinking at that moment. And leaving a party stone cold sober, seeing the drunks trying to get in their 1 (or 2 or 3) "for the road", knowing that in a few hours their heads will be pounding and they'll be swimming in regret is truly empowering. I get such a feeling of relief seeing this and realizing that I don't have to experience that, at least for that night. It feels like freedom.
For me, hanging around drunks at a party is playing Russian Roulette.
I wish you the best in your recovery.
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I agree with LaFemme and BrandNewDay. I just don't view alcohol the same way I did. I don't view "me" the same way I did either. Zbear touched on something too...the resisting/persisiting thing. Learning about the Buddhist concept of non-attachment has helped me immensly. Realizing that it wasn't the craving itself that was causing my suffering it was fighting the craving that was causing my suffering. Learning to let feelings/urges/whatever pass through without acting on them is what worked for me.
Hang in FlyerFan. I'm glad you're here.
Hang in FlyerFan. I'm glad you're here.
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Originally Posted by 2granddaughters
They told me early on that if I hung around the barbershop long enough that I'd end up getting a haircut.
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Originally Posted by FlyerFan
I don't want go to go AA. I have terrible anxiety attacks, I can't do this face to face with people. That's why I came looking for this website. I don't feel my problem was as severe as that, but I do know that I have a problem and the will power to stop it. I just need support from people who have been in my shoes.
As long as I keep myself busy I'll be alright. Im currently working 50 hours a week and taking online college courses after that when I get home so I have pretty much only 2 to 3 hours to myself each day and I've started filling that with books and movies to occupy my mind. So far it's been working great.
As long as I keep myself busy I'll be alright. Im currently working 50 hours a week and taking online college courses after that when I get home so I have pretty much only 2 to 3 hours to myself each day and I've started filling that with books and movies to occupy my mind. So far it's been working great.
You may also find that the SMART Recovery program resonates with you. SMART is big on online support, and there are at least two meetings online every day. Also, SMART focuses on personal empowerment and practical tools for achieving long-term and contented abstinence.
If you're interested, take a look at the SMART Recovery website: http://www.smartrecovery.org/
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Originally Posted by 2granddaughters
They told me early on that if I hung around the barbershop long enough that I'd end up getting a haircut.
For me, hanging around drunks at a party is playing Russian Roulette.
Bob R.
For me, hanging around drunks at a party is playing Russian Roulette.
Bob R.
There's always a few that are drinking/drunk, and when I'm not one of them wow it's an eye opener. Funny thing is, for me, my drinking problem for a long while has not been at social events or parties, its been when I'm alone, getting into that zone, that party of one escape in my office. With music and the internet, of course.
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Originally Posted by 2granddaughters
"I don't want go to go AA. I have terrible anxiety attacks, I can't do this face to face with people."
You do understand that most AAs feel exactly the same way as you do ?! I had terrible anxiety attacks too, for years. When I went and sat at an AA table and said that I was shaking and scared, everyone there smiled and said that they felt the same way in the beginning !!
How would you like to live your life without those debilitating anxiety feelings?.... you can take them to a meeting and leave them there if you want.
We always judge our "insides" by others "outsides". They look so calm and collected and I'm shaking in my boots. When you talk to the others, you will find most of them are shaking too... then I can forgive myself and work on overcoming my fears instead of giving in to them.
If you were hungry and standing on the street in front of a fine restaurant, but were afraid to go in, you could starve to death in the shadow of the building while the sweet aromas of the food inside filled your nostrils. Do you get my drift ??
Wishing you the best.
Bob R.
You do understand that most AAs feel exactly the same way as you do ?! I had terrible anxiety attacks too, for years. When I went and sat at an AA table and said that I was shaking and scared, everyone there smiled and said that they felt the same way in the beginning !!
How would you like to live your life without those debilitating anxiety feelings?.... you can take them to a meeting and leave them there if you want.
We always judge our "insides" by others "outsides". They look so calm and collected and I'm shaking in my boots. When you talk to the others, you will find most of them are shaking too... then I can forgive myself and work on overcoming my fears instead of giving in to them.
If you were hungry and standing on the street in front of a fine restaurant, but were afraid to go in, you could starve to death in the shadow of the building while the sweet aromas of the food inside filled your nostrils. Do you get my drift ??
Wishing you the best.
Bob R.
Yes but it's not just about being an alcoholic. I've had the anxiety problems since i was a small child, so AA isn't going to make them go away, and I refuse to see a shrink because I'll spend a fortune for them to tell me i have issues. lol
Since i found this website I have felt so much better about myself. I attend the online chats and meetings and I have made a few friends here. It really is working out great. I work 50-55 hours a week and I go to school during the night so it's also very convenient I can just log right in any time I feel insecure and you guys all remind me why I need to stay strong.
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