24hrsAday

the A.A. big book says: it's the #1 offender.. "Resentment is the number one offender. it destroys more alcoholics than anything else. from it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick." (Alcoholics Anonymous,p.64) i read this passage at my Thursday group. it rang very true and reminded me how far i still have to go.

BB quote.1st Edition.

Ranger

In early sobriety I didn't think I harbored any resentments. As the recovery process progressed, I discovered my resentments were buried much deeper than could be accessed simply through the cessation of drinking. For many months I denied this reality, but thankfully I concluded there was no choice but to grab a shovel and start digging.

laurie6781

"What is he/she/it/they, not doing that I WANT he/she/it/they to do, when I WANT he/she/it/they to do it, to make me more COMFORTABLE?"

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Expectations

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Resentments in me.

Once I was able to 'grasp' that, my resentments became fewer and fewer. Not that I don't still get one now and then, but I can almost immediately now apply the above and see where it is really about me not being comfortable because some expectation of mine was not met.

Goes a long way for this alkie to quickly drop the resentment.

J M H O

Love and hugs,

Boleo

I have gotten rid of all my resentments except one. I still agree with Mark Twain when he said:

"The problem is not that there are too many fools in the world. The real problem is that lightning is not distributed properly".

mikefreak

One of my favorites: " resentment is like drinking poison & waiting for the other person to die", or something to that effect...............It fuels rage & anger.

aasharon90

Resentments pop up at anytime when least expected.
Someone could cut right in front of you with their car
with no signal or anything and pizz u off. Right? You can
resent the fact that you didnt get a raise when u thought
you deserved it. how about having to wait in a long line
somewhere's. Or your car blows a tire.

Maybe the power went out while watching ur favorite
sport.

It's a fact we cant control people places and things in our
life today. So acceptance is the key. Let Go and Let ?

CarolD

In the BB---page 552 gives directions on how to deal with resentments.


The Serenity Prayer might keep resentments at bay...

Zebra1275

This was a topic at a meeting I was at last week, and a wise old AA member descibed the problem with both resentments and fears.

Resentments are things from the past that we haven't let go.
Fears are things that may (or likely, may not) happen in the future.

Living life, one day at a time can help you deal with both.

Zencat

True that.

24hrsAday

yep. it feels good to be learning and growing in recovery.. i do Not have to be miserable! i can do things different and enjoy my life! more often than not at least..

Latte

When I feed on resentments and anger, I am giving
someone else rent-free space in my head.

Kathy Kendall

This is one of my favorite quotes. One of the reasons is because my head is a very special place to me. I want to stay positive and keep positive thoughts in my head. The negativity makes me physically ill, along with mentally.

MrDavid

Here is the definition of a resentment:

"I drink poison and I hope you die"

Don't drink the poison, let go and let God instead.



~God bless~

24hrsAday

bad feelings that i keep reliving are what i must watch out for Extra close!

FrothyJay

The fourth step is designed to help us inventory our resentments, so we can see what was affected in us and then "turn around" the resentment and see how we were selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and fearful.

Simply understanding this did not make me recovered. I needed to proceed with the steps and ultimately ask God to remove the defects of character that drive my resentments.

Simply understanding how or why I get resentful is no different than understanding how or why I get drunk. I can't do anything about it without the help of a power greater than myself.

24hrsAday

another important thing i must continue to watch out for is people attempting to tell me why their way is the right way! (even if they really are well intentioned in doing so) :rotfxko