So moderation not working so hot -- I guess no one here would be surprised :)
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So moderation not working so hot -- I guess no one here would be surprised :)
Hey, all
I haven't posted in a while, but briefly, I did about 30 days of so days of total abstinence late last year, and then gradually started drinking again. Initially, it seemed to be going pretty OK. I was able to limit myself to 7 drinks a week and usually only had one drink when going on. But I've noticed I've been gradually increasing my intake and wound up having 5 drinks while out last night. I think maybe I could do OK if I limit myself to one drink a day, but like others here have noted, what's the point? Once I go beyond one, I want more.
Now my husband on the other hand has been doing pretty good with moderation, making me conclude I've got a lot more of a problem than him. I think he just drank more because I wanted to. Interesting.
So, I'm back. No more alcohol for now.
I haven't posted in a while, but briefly, I did about 30 days of so days of total abstinence late last year, and then gradually started drinking again. Initially, it seemed to be going pretty OK. I was able to limit myself to 7 drinks a week and usually only had one drink when going on. But I've noticed I've been gradually increasing my intake and wound up having 5 drinks while out last night. I think maybe I could do OK if I limit myself to one drink a day, but like others here have noted, what's the point? Once I go beyond one, I want more.
Now my husband on the other hand has been doing pretty good with moderation, making me conclude I've got a lot more of a problem than him. I think he just drank more because I wanted to. Interesting.
So, I'm back. No more alcohol for now.
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It's not a bad thing that you tried moderation. It helped you realize that you are unable to do it and you wouldn't know that had you not tried it. Now, you are able to scratch that off the list of things to try before admitting that abstinence is what is best. We all tried everything we could think of to keep from admitting that we just should not drink. Ever. So, welcome to the club. Glad to have you! 
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I've tried moderating on and off for years.. I always ended up in the same place.. It doesn't work. Once you're an alcoholic you can stop drinking for 30 years.. Your body/brain never forget.. you immediately work your way back up to where you left off. I have to keep reminding myself that.
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After getting sober, I read the definition for moderate drinking: I thought "geez.....!" I never would have been interested in that.......!
Furthermore, those days that I "only" had 3, 4, or 5 drinks weren't really moderating at all - and I was so pleased at the time.......
It's so much easier just to not mess with it. And the best part is that after several months the urge/desire to have even one drink went away.
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Furthermore, those days that I "only" had 3, 4, or 5 drinks weren't really moderating at all - and I was so pleased at the time.......
It's so much easier just to not mess with it. And the best part is that after several months the urge/desire to have even one drink went away.
Glad you're back with us!!
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The big book of AA even tells us to try controlled drinking.
I know I tried it and I couldn't do it.
We do not like to pronounce any individual as alcoholic, but you can quickly diagnose yourself, Step over to the nearest barroom and try some controlled drinking. Try to drink and stop abruptly. Try it more than once. It will not take long for you to decide, if you are honest with yourself about it.
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Originally Posted by nvrbeentospain 
Hey, all
I haven't posted in a while, but briefly, I did about 30 days of so days of total abstinence late last year, and then gradually started drinking again. Initially, it seemed to be going pretty OK. I was able to limit myself to 7 drinks a week and usually only had one drink when going on. But I've noticed I've been gradually increasing my intake ...
So, I'm back. No more alcohol for now.
I haven't posted in a while, but briefly, I did about 30 days of so days of total abstinence late last year, and then gradually started drinking again. Initially, it seemed to be going pretty OK. I was able to limit myself to 7 drinks a week and usually only had one drink when going on. But I've noticed I've been gradually increasing my intake ...
So, I'm back. No more alcohol for now.
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It was kinda hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that moderate drinkers aren't really moderating at all. They really only want to have a drink or two and that's it! Much like in the morning I only want a cup of coffee or two and not ten. Bizarre! 
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Hmmmm... Just had a similar experience (see edited sig). I've come to the conclusion that maybe... just maybe some people should not drink any alcohol at all (written with sarcastic tone).
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