tantone56

Well I have hit the 90 day mark. I feel pretty good inside. I had spent so much of the last few years drunk, that I had forgot what it was like to wake up and not feel constantly sick. I still have the urge to drink, and I keep having dreams that I succumb to my temptations. I feel like I am going to be okay as long as I look at the short term one day at a time as opposed to the lifelong road I have ahead. Just wondering, but why is 90 days a milestone in recovery?

sunrise1

I honestly don't know the answer to your question... maybe it has to do with statistics of people who succeed with sobriety- that for those who make 90 days are "x" more likely to remain sober? Not sure.

Anyway, CONGRATULATIONS on your 90 days. It's a great feeling, isn't it? Are you using any particular method or program for assistance?

tantone56

Thank you so much! Not any method yet. I had tried many times before to stay sober and failed. I have learned a few things from reading this time though. I look at my urges to want to drink as being a part of the alcoholic part of my brain trying to trick me. Every time my head starts to bring back all the good times of drinking and tries to make me think I can have those moments again, I just quickly remember my last binge from hell that brought on this recovery. I no longer look at my goal as a lifetime of recovery, but rather just trying to stay sober by the day. When I tried to picture myself as sober for the rest of my life I would just give up. I was also advised to, and did watch the film "Days of Wine and Roses" and it had a pretty big impact on me. I think about that movie a lot actually. This is all just what has been working for me, I will see where it all takes me.

Kmber2010

Way to go Tan!!

I found each day to be a milestone for me but having 90 days was a proud moment for me since I had come off a relapse and it was the first time in 10 years having 3 months.

I would suggest adding support if you are still wanting to drink. It is different for each of us but by adding face to face support.....I was able to make the change and embrace my alcohol free life and all the joys I have found in it.

Keep it going!!

VeeTee

congratulations. Well, in AA 3 months (=90 days) is a milestone. For what it's worth.
congratulations!

I feel that knowing other people in recovery (here and face to face) is strengthening my sobriety a lot. Knowing that I have friends (and yes, they do feel like friends) who are also not drinking and who are also saying "no thank you" when offered drinks is helping me alot.

vee

CarolD

Yes...that is really a powerful movie....I remember it well.

In many AA groups....they use various colored poker chips
to denote times in recovery. Not all groups do this and
not all groups use the same colors.
In my home group...we give them for 24 Hours...and the months
of 3-6-9 and 12.

There is a concept that came from treatment centers that it
takes 90 days to replace a bad habit with a good one.

tho it is not AA based...many AA members follow the idea
of 90 meetings in 90 days......thereby getting a base.

All that to say...well done on your 90...

Impurrfect

Congratulations on 90 days!!! I found that when I hit milestones (90 days, 6 months, 9 months, etc.), I got squirrely and had more urges to use. However, I had been told about this, and beefed up my support during those times.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

anew

Congratulations on 90 days!

mtnmagic

Congratulations to you on achieving 90 days! That is
awesome. Glad you are proud of yourself and feeling better.
So onward we go!

Dee74

congratulations tantone

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