17 yr old living with my wife
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17 yr old living with my wife
Little by little I learn more and more about what it means by being an alcoholic. At 90 days if figured out what "one day at a time" means. At 10 to11 months I found out that alcohol wasn't my main problem, it was me and how I handle emotions and such.
Today I found that my wife has been living with a 17 year old for the past 10 years. She was talking to me this morning and I made a joke in the middle of the conversation, she humpfed and said I wasn't listening. I've heard that before, I told her what her last sentence was and she was still a little miffed. I went to make eggs for my 6 yr old and it hit me. The humor I had just used and the interuption was juvenile. I'm behaving like a teenager (i'm 40). This is my 1st shot at recovery and I've been drinking hard since I was a Teenager, which is where, evidently, I stopped growing emotionaly and my maturity was/is stunted.
I can't belive my wife has not only been putting up with an alcholic but dealing with a teenager as well. I'm not sure that is something I would have put up with. She deserves a lot more credit then I have been giving her. whew! Crazy recovery journey.
This is a lot better than drinking.
Today I found that my wife has been living with a 17 year old for the past 10 years. She was talking to me this morning and I made a joke in the middle of the conversation, she humpfed and said I wasn't listening. I've heard that before, I told her what her last sentence was and she was still a little miffed. I went to make eggs for my 6 yr old and it hit me. The humor I had just used and the interuption was juvenile. I'm behaving like a teenager (i'm 40). This is my 1st shot at recovery and I've been drinking hard since I was a Teenager, which is where, evidently, I stopped growing emotionaly and my maturity was/is stunted.
I can't belive my wife has not only been putting up with an alcholic but dealing with a teenager as well. I'm not sure that is something I would have put up with. She deserves a lot more credit then I have been giving her. whew! Crazy recovery journey.
This is a lot better than drinking.
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The funny thing is that I've "known" this fact for a while, but this is the first time I've been able to link it to an actual behavior. No wonder why I've allways felt like a kid in a mans body. And finally I know what it means when people say: Thanks for letting me share. 
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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The positive thing is....once you have discovered something...
change and growth are possible....
For me...that means daily living the AA Steps.
Blessings to you and your wife.
change and growth are possible....
For me...that means daily living the AA Steps.
Blessings to you and your wife.
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Originally Posted by Texasblind 
Yeah, our brains and emotions stop forming the day we pick up a bottle. I'm really 33, but I emotionally feel like my early 20's
Oh that explains so much. Is it really true though?
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That's one of the "old wives' tales" of addiction that I wholeheartedly believe. I started drinking at 19 and, even though it's only been a few years since then, the amount of emotional maturation that I've missed is definitely noticeable.
I keep meaning to read up on the latest research in neural plasticity, though; from what I've been hearing our brains can heal themselves better than we thought!
I keep meaning to read up on the latest research in neural plasticity, though; from what I've been hearing our brains can heal themselves better than we thought!
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