Oddman

Some posts I put on the newcomers board, and then realized there was one just for us alcoholics. Any input, feedback from people will help me in my recovery process. Thank you in advance:

I have decided to go to a meeting. Talking to wife tomorrow, maybe tonight if she's still up when I get home. As I search for meetings online, there are all these acronyms, e.g. part, WS, SS, Spk., some have none. I know what they mean, but which are for me? I know no WS (Women's Stag) what exactly is a MS (Men's Stag). At a spk (speaker meeting) do I need to talk? I was wondering which one a newbie should try. The only Beg. (Beginners) meeting I see is on a Sat. afternoon, and that's many days from now. I have had this list printed out for almost 2 years now. I'm trying to act upon it, but I wanted some advice first. I am very nervous about this, but if the people are anything like the people here, I know I'll be OK. I tried an AA meeting once while in college, the guy I met at the meeting was militant (no relationships, no sex, read the book every night, etc, etc, etc). I was turned off, and this was about 6 years ago. My dad also thought I was over-reacting to what he called "normal college life" (This from an AA for 20+ years at that point.)Anyways, any advice, help, etc would be great. How did you get to your first meeting?


So many people would give a crap if I drank. How can there be so many people that just want to see other succeed at sobriety? This is wonderful. I'm still in class tonight, and the 7-11 across the street is SCREAMING my name to get my beers for the car ride home, but knowing that so many people care is sobering. I need to find a meeting in my area. I need to talk with my wife. I think she will be so relieved to hear that I am trying this. That I am doing this. A lot of times she doesn't believe me until I have stuck to my word, and I have broken that too many times; what time will you be home, don't take any money out of the bank, how many beers did you have today, why do you hide the empty cans in the trash, where the f*** were you, I was worried sick, SLAP!! Does the desire to drink ever leave you? My dad has been sober for 25 years (his birthday was just last month) and I always want to ask him if his desire has left him, but I don't. He goes to meetings every day still. I was wondering if this was due to his desire to still drink, or to just get out of the house away from a toxic relationship with my mom. His last drunk was when I was 4, so drunk that he couldn't find his way home from his brothers house. Got lost on the freeway. I guess a counseling session with my parents when I was younger said that I may have deep seeded issues that may have to be addressed becasue of this incident. I have no recollection of this. But I'm starting to think that I may have inherited my families history. 3 dead uncles, one from alchol, 1 from cocaine OD, and one from Heroine OD (this last happened 4 years ago while I was in college, he was sober for 6 years, and just finished his masters preogram, God I miss him! and get so pis*ed at him too!!). Sorry, at lunch in school and trying to keep my mind off of beer. I think about drinking alomst every minute that I am not consuming myself in something else, e.g. this board. Thank you everyone! This was going to be a short post, but my fingers just kept typing. Thank you again..........

sugErspun

Are you really in Redondo Beach?

I will meet you for one, or tell you where a couple are in that area.

Tazman53

Yes it does, for me it came as I worked the steps, everyone is different though, it says in the BB that for some it comes quickly and for others slowly, but it will always come if we work for it.

For some the desire to drink simply dissappears with time, I am one of the alcoholics described in the BB, the longer I went without a drink the more I wanted one even though I was going to at least a meeting every day for months, it took working the steps with a sponsor for me.

In regards to your dad still going to meetings every day after 25 years sober.... well one day (sooner the better imho) you should ask him. I do not go to meetings every day any more, I have a family that I owe a lot of sober time to, but I will always go to meetings not only for myself, but to offer my experience, strength, and hope to others.

Kind of neat that you and SugeRspun are so close together. Keep in touch and let us know how things go.

sugErspun

Sent you a PM oddman - some meetings and times/locations.

Cathy31

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God shot hey there you go Adam is right there! My advice would be to go with Sugerspun and if not then go to ANY meeting ANYWHERE! You never have to speak unless you want to - speaker means you listen to a speaker, they are quite nice. But it's important to get to a meeting whatever the acronym! I can guarantee you that you will not regret it whichever one you choose - as long as you get there! You are right that it is too long to wait til Sat! let us know how you get on?
Cathy31
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sugErspun

For what it's worth oddman.

The desire to drink has been lifted from me, it no longer exists.

But I do remember when it was on my back...and how I never thought it could be removed.

CarolD

Good to see you here with us in Alcoholism

I did reply to your other thread
so I will not repeat my suggestions.

As to will the desire to drink leave you?
It certainly has for me...years ago.
I too still attend AA...because it's a way
to give bak. I also like being reminded
of why I quit and how I stay recovered.

CAPTAINZING2000

after years of sobriety, the only thing I desire is, a good home cooked meal