Signal30

A friend in the fellowship called me because of a huge fight he had with his ex-wife. He told me he almost drank. I replied "ok, well you didn't." He stated that he called his sponsor who wasn't available, and went on down his phone list. He called and talked to a few others in the fellowship and went to a meeting. He got back from the meeting, and called me. We talked for awhile and he's doing ok. I said to him, it looks like you did the right things, and your actions have have given you positive results."

How he stayed sober...

1) Recognized his alcoholism thinking and took action.

2) Called his sponsor.

3) Called fellow members in AA

4) Went to a meeting and discussed his issue and emotions.

5) Prayed

The tools in action. Another day sober as a result.

Tom

Tazman53

hjwl I pray you have not had that first drink.

When you quit was the alcohol still doing it for you?

My experience has been that nothing, absolutely nothing is helped by me drinking!

Have you called your sponsor?

Called a fellow alcoholic in recovery?

Gone to a meeting?

resentful wife

Kirsten,Since you posted this yesterday, my hope is that you didn't drink and that you'll come back and let us be a part of your recovery/support. I noticed that you hadn't posted since last Aug. Thats a long time not to let off any steam!
So, is hubby still drinking 2-3 every week night and 6-10 Sat&Sun? Are you still a SAHM? Bet the kids have gotten to be even more of a hand full. Did you get the Boob Job??
While I don't have small kids I am a HW with a A/H. He hasn't had any thing to drink since Jan but only because he's ill, not because he believed that he had a problem with drinking. I can relate to the moods and no sex life, and the beer being first before anything else, I used to be his drinking buddy but I got tired of it and stopped. And when I did thats when I started to get angry and resentful that he couldn't or wouldn't see that drinking controlled every day of our life. We lived in the same space but I couldn't count on him to be there for me because every thing was prefaced with"when I finish this beer I'm gonna,"______ fill in blank. Well,I'm sure you know the story.
Anyway the point I'm trying to get to is don't stay away, don't let the resentments fester to the point that you take that first drink. Thru SR and reading and posting I've been able to keep my sanity and ease some of my own resentments and to have a better understanding of the why's.
I hope you didn't drink and I hope you come back and let us know how you are doing.
Linda

Paulos

Jeez he's not a good hubby... nor is he supportive, sorry about your scene.

Boater62

Hang in Kirstin. You have a year under your belt which means your brain is healing and the cravings will diminish.

I don't what you husband's problem is, but as a man myself, I'd say he needs to make a commitment to stop drinking in order to support you and the family. Or at least go out of his way to not drink in your presence or even smell of liquor around you. Maybe it's just me talking, but I think a husband and wife need to do whatever's necessary to support each other.

I hope you come back and tell us you resisted that drink.

And if you did slip, get sober again. All those months of sobriety are not lost.

Cheers - JR

Tommyh

glad you told us your plans

let us know how your drinking changes your hubby

CarolD

Boater62......Welcome back!

CAPTAINZING2000

my sobriety comes before everything else period

If, I'm not sober, I'll lose everything anyway.

The lack of support from your husband is pathetic


With friends like him, you don't need any enemies.

If, he isn't willing to go to counseling with you, I separate from him.

This is life and death for many of us. At the very least, it's a miserable way to live.

You and your children deserve better