Rimmy

I havn't perused the forums for a few days because I was taking a break. I was reading so much about drinking that it was making me think about drinking more than if I just did my day. And work was crazy busy... but I'm back and I wanted to share something.

I went to a hockey game with my wife and my uncle and his friend last night. This used to be my stomping ground for a good time so it was a test. We drove our caravan and they (not the wife) were in the back drinking rum and beers from the cooler. It reminded me of a fun past... getting a little loaded before a game.

And then at the game, they were drinking black and tans (not my taste, but stronger I suppose). By the third, my uncle's friend was tottering on the steps. My wife and I had a plan for "escorting" by one in front and one in back on the steep steps. My uncle dropped his beer all over the floor in front of the seats. Rowdy comments....

Anyway, the point of this is that I was so glad to be with my girl on the outside looking in (do I have my directions right?). I pictured myself in the past stumbling around the arena halls and making rowdy lewd comments on the ride home... What my better half put up with I will never understand. But the bond I had with her last night was unbreakable, because we were both sober. It was probably more just normal for her, but for me it was special.

The whole point... there IS life after drinking. For those who are struggling with the "want" issues... at least give it a try. I wish I had really tried to see into the looking glass a longer time ago, instead of just saying I wanted to see.

Zoobear

Glad you had a good time. Keep up the good work!

tkdan

I have a feeling having you sober was special to her as well. We have to remember our drinking affects those around us too. That's easy to forget when our self-centered selves are drinking. Thanks for sharing. It helps me to be reminded of how much sobriety helps my marriage.

jadopa

There is a type of comraderie in those moments. I have had many of them with my husband and friends. All you can think is I am glad thats not me. The people that are sober bond in a way that you can not do when you are drunk. I have had many a night dishing with my bestfriend over somes drinks and becoming way to drunk to speak straight. I have also had many nights with her sober over the Bible and Chess on Wednesdays and I would not trade those nights for anything in the world. I am happy for your experience, remember it forever, and don't forget to let your wife know those little thoughts you have. I love to hear stuff like that from my husband, it meens more than you think.

Tazman53

Pretty neat isn't it Rimmy? The first Redskins game I went to sober was really cool, seeing the folks stumbling out of the stadium when the game was over was an eye opener, how ridiculous I was and obnoxious! I learned several other things as well, the line for sodas was actually longer then the beer line!!!! I also noticed that as new as the stadium is, it reeks of stale beer!!!!

partygirl

this made me feel really good, as I am one of those people who love to have a good time and drinking always made it that much more fun. Thank you and congratulations. You wrote this back in January, I hope you are still going strong.

Rimmy

Hi PartyGirl... welcome to SR!

Yeah, sobriety was pretty new to me even in January. I had been seeking it for a while, but never really wanted it or gave it a chance. But it really is better in the long run, so long as once you get over the "high" of feeling good sober. I relapsed after January because I felt so good I thought I had control again... doh!

Monday was five weeks, the longest since I was probably 14 years old. Thanks for wishing me well, and also, glad that there was a post here that touched you. I sometimes miss drinking because I didn't over do it EVERY time and I had some good times. But I had good times pole vaulting in high school too, but I'll not try that again at my age... so they become good memories.

steamvessel, yeah, I watch and play with my daughter now more than I ever did. Actually, I couln't understand her and would get frustrated with her antics and whatnot... now, I remember what it was like to be a kid and realize the needs she has as an only child much better.. I can be a better father and provider....

CarolD

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