I want to drink more than I want to quit
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. Or have like 2 beers watching the game instead of 8, or A glass of wine with dinner, not the whole bottle. Maybe I can? I really really want to. Everybody else can, maybe if I exercised a little willpower and self control instead of my old I don't give a fk attitude?
Ugh, I don't know what to do
Ugh, I don't know what to do
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hey mrsmurph!
everyone has said some wonderful things!! the only thing i can add is this;
while reading your post it reminded me of something i once read! maybe it will help!
"when i was controlling my drinking i wasnt having fun, when i was having fun i wasnt controlling my drinking!"
that just made sense to me! when i was controlling it,or shall i say trying to, i was constantly watching other people drink and counting their drinks too! i wasnt doing it intentionally but i was doing it. i was always comparing myself to them, well if they can have one more so can i, they seem to be ok! dont get me wrong my drinking got me into a whole lot of trouble but at the time i thought i was having fun, at least until the morning and i awoke with every emotion you could possibly feel! i have to remember that i cant compare myself to someones outsides! just because they look like they are having fun i dont know what keeps them up at night!!
good luck on your journey and i hope you find your path to happiness!!!
everyone has said some wonderful things!! the only thing i can add is this;
while reading your post it reminded me of something i once read! maybe it will help!
"when i was controlling my drinking i wasnt having fun, when i was having fun i wasnt controlling my drinking!"
that just made sense to me! when i was controlling it,or shall i say trying to, i was constantly watching other people drink and counting their drinks too! i wasnt doing it intentionally but i was doing it. i was always comparing myself to them, well if they can have one more so can i, they seem to be ok! dont get me wrong my drinking got me into a whole lot of trouble but at the time i thought i was having fun, at least until the morning and i awoke with every emotion you could possibly feel! i have to remember that i cant compare myself to someones outsides! just because they look like they are having fun i dont know what keeps them up at night!!
good luck on your journey and i hope you find your path to happiness!!!
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After over 3 years of sobriety, which is now routine and somewhat easy, I occassionally think I can enjoy some mild, controlled drinking. That's when I come to this board and see all the "experiments" that people in the same situation have tried and failed. I am thankful that they post these failures so that I may learn from them and not make the same mistake.
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jane
Welcome PipesMcgee
Welcome *Amelia*
I hope the two of you will keep posting and reading in this forum.
Mrsmurph-
It sounds like you have a good plan. One day at at time works for many of us. I appreciate your honesty. Not all of us get the willingness to quit right away. Focusing on one day at a time is a solid plan. You may want to pray for the willingness to enjoy sobriety. Once you get the complete willingness, you may find that pure sobriety is BETTER than being able to have 1 or 2 beers. Willingness can lead to acceptance. Acceptance can be the cornerstone for a new and abundant life of sobriety.
I wish you contented and happy sobriety.
chip
Welcome *Amelia*
I hope the two of you will keep posting and reading in this forum.
Mrsmurph-
It sounds like you have a good plan. One day at at time works for many of us. I appreciate your honesty. Not all of us get the willingness to quit right away. Focusing on one day at a time is a solid plan. You may want to pray for the willingness to enjoy sobriety. Once you get the complete willingness, you may find that pure sobriety is BETTER than being able to have 1 or 2 beers. Willingness can lead to acceptance. Acceptance can be the cornerstone for a new and abundant life of sobriety.
I wish you contented and happy sobriety.
chip
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The only other thing I can really think to say on this subject is that I never wanted to have just one or two beers. To me, that was never "drinking". For me, finishing two beers during a football game meant they just finished up the coin toss.
example:
this happened ... ummm... tuesday.
my next door neighbor lost her job. she called me over (which, in *my* new neighborhood means she leaned out her window and yells *barb! come over!* LOL
so I did.
she said, I don't know if you can handle sitting here with me, but i'm gonna get drunk and I don't want to be alone.
she's ... not an alcoholic.
so I told her if I got uncomfortable I'd leave.
agreed.
so we sit on her front porch -
and she drinks a tall boy.
*
tht's it.
she went to bed.
that's (I think) how normal people do it.
I just ... sat there for a while.
trying to figure out where the actual 'drinking' happened.
OF COURSE I didn't get aq craving ... it was OVER too quick.
LOL
this happened ... ummm... tuesday.
my next door neighbor lost her job. she called me over (which, in *my* new neighborhood means she leaned out her window and yells *barb! come over!* LOL
so I did.
she said, I don't know if you can handle sitting here with me, but i'm gonna get drunk and I don't want to be alone.
she's ... not an alcoholic.
so I told her if I got uncomfortable I'd leave.
agreed.
so we sit on her front porch -
and she drinks a tall boy.
*
tht's it.
she went to bed.
that's (I think) how normal people do it.
I just ... sat there for a while.
trying to figure out where the actual 'drinking' happened.
OF COURSE I didn't get aq craving ... it was OVER too quick.
LOL
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A complete and thorough first step alleviated all of those gray areas I had regarding the drinking game. Some of those you are posting here. The " why can't I just drink like normal people" and "maybe it will be different this time, afterall, I haven't had a drink in a while" or " I've educated myself on alcoholism, I know better now" The list goes on. And they are lies that my alcoholic mind tell me to justify the insanity of the first drink. Some of us, me included, had to go back out there after a period of sobriety to be convinced that we will NEVER be able to drink like normal people. Last weekend I was out on the lake with some other alcoholics and we cruised through an area called "cocktail cove". Now in years past I would view all the partying and be saying to myself " That looks like fun, I wish I could be partying liek that again " Still resistant to a complete life without alcohol. But today, I look at that scene, utter drunkeness, complete with thong bikini clad women funneling beer, and the first thought I have is.....I'm just not impressed. I've done it all before. And I know all about that. What I don't know about is recovering from a fatal disease. And that is what I am impressed with today. Working with other alcoholics to recover from a seemingly hopeless state of mind, body and spirit. If you hope you can drink, then I hope it for you. But if think you are an alcoholic and want recovery, there is a solution.
Barb, that was way too FUNNY! (ROFLMAO)!
One Drink !? What's the point!!??
(sounds like the way my better half drinks, one or two and she's out like a light)
Thanks for the laugh, and Murph, that was NOT how I drank!
Also, I have heard folks say that they would rather err on the side of sobriety, at least that way you might miss some of the ""good times"" but you will never be hung over, never get a DUI, never get locked up for drunk and disorderly, never have liver disease, never wind up with family that won't have anything to do with you...
HHHMMMmmmmm...
One Drink !? What's the point!!??
(sounds like the way my better half drinks, one or two and she's out like a light)
Thanks for the laugh, and Murph, that was NOT how I drank!
Also, I have heard folks say that they would rather err on the side of sobriety, at least that way you might miss some of the ""good times"" but you will never be hung over, never get a DUI, never get locked up for drunk and disorderly, never have liver disease, never wind up with family that won't have anything to do with you...
HHHMMMmmmmm...
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Oh I'm so with you, I too want to be a "normie", unfortunately as much as I try to "control" havign 1 or 2 beers, within 3 days I'm drinking 1 or 2 cases again. You are here because you already figured it out, you can't CONTROL your drinking, it controls YOU! Just take a bit and think about the past time you have said "I'm only going to have a beer or two" how did that work out? I'm thinking not very well or you wouldn't be here I had dreams all night about drinking and so wanted a beer when I woke up because it tasted so good in my dream!
But I don't want to get worse either. Someone on this forum put it best "addiction is like an elevator, some are lucky enough to get off on an upper floor, while some of us ride all the way to the bottom". I just want to be able to drink sometimes and not others. Or have like 2 beers watching the game instead of 8, or A glass of wine with dinner, not the whole bottle. Maybe I can? I really really want to. Everybody else can, maybe if I exercised a little willpower and self control instead of my old I don't give a fk attitude?
Ugh, I don't know what to do
Ugh, I don't know what to do
I had 47 days sober until last Friday/Saturday…..I said hey, just chill for a while, drink some raw teas…they won’t get me drunk etc….3 were in the house…well when the 3 were gone did I stop?…no and frankly I never intended to deep down…woke Saturday and started drinking again…I cannot drink at all..I drink to get drunk…period. If you can have 2-3 and stop, then cool…not for me.
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But I don't want to get worse either. Someone on this forum put it best "addiction is like an elevator, some are lucky enough to get off on an upper floor, while some of us ride all the way to the bottom". I just want to be able to drink sometimes and not others. Or have like 2 beers watching the game instead of 8, or A glass of wine with dinner, not the whole bottle. Maybe I can? I really really want to. Everybody else can, maybe if I exercised a little willpower and self control instead of my old I don't give a fk attitude?
Ugh, I don't know what to do
Ugh, I don't know what to do
But I don't want to get worse either. Someone on this forum put it best "addiction is like an elevator, some are lucky enough to get off on an upper floor, while some of us ride all the way to the bottom". I just want to be able to drink sometimes and not others. Or have like 2 beers watching the game instead of 8, or A glass of wine with dinner, not the whole bottle. Maybe I can? I really really want to. Everybody else can, maybe if I exercised a little willpower and self control instead of my old I don't give a fk attitude?
Been there done that. Bought the T-shirt. I
hope you find out soon, and make a decision one way or the other.
Alcohol's sneaky, it sneaks up on you. I just woke up one day, 40 something, a full blown alcoholic that would go into withdraw if I didn't have booze in me. At least, that's how it seemed....
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