laurenlanai25

So after coming off of a relapse, how long, if not at all, should i wait to get back to the steps? I know I must get a new spons but I am talking to my old spons, I just havent decided on who i am going to ask yet. Last night I did a written first step and I feel pretty confident in it. But again I think I have all the answers, so I do need some guidance.

Thanks,
L

GlassPrisoner

Why do you need a sponsor ? Did he/she fire you ?

I'd wait until the fog clears at least. Maybe 30 days ?

How bad was your relapse ? One day ? Days ? Weeks ? More ?

Thanks for reminding me that I don't want to go back out !

laurenlanai25

because she is at a different point in her life now, she has 6 month old twins and a three year old, plus they are moving 2 1/2 hours south of here in a few months...she was my sponsor for almost 4 years and i went back out for 1yr 3mos. yeah it sucks, im glad i can be a reminder for you! me on the other hand needed to try it for myself instead of learn from others

baggervance

I kept my old sponser he did nothing wrong it was all me.I was so thankful he ttok me back.Is it suggested you get a diffferent sponser never heard that.Inlighten me Glass.

laurenlanai25

no i love my sponsor but i just feel with he being so far away might not be good for me so early on.

BP44

When I came back in, I just had to not drink and go to meetings. After a short time I got a sponsor. Since that day, I have left step work up to him. Within a week or two we were well into step one. The point is I had to be willing to be guided and to do that, I needed a sponsor. My plans for recovery had not worked in the past. That included working the steps without a sponsor, working the steps in the order and manner that I thought they should be worked. AHHHH, there's that word...thought. See, that's where things get scary....we think. So, letting my sponsor do my thinking for me has been working. Had I not done that, I would not have done a good first step. With his guidance, it was thorough, and rigorously honest. The key difference this time was getting a real grip on unmanageability.

Sugah

How long should you wait? Can you ask someone in the next twenty-four hours to be your temporary sponsor and start immediately?

Peace & Love,
Sugah

Grasshopper

Ditto to the post above me.

Peter

Start working on The Steps right away.Writing The Steps (all of them) for me is the best way to go.

laurenlanai25

thanks all!!

mikel60

My sponsor recommended I start the steps as soon as I stopped shaking. Actually he said something a little more graphic, but I got his point. I started immediately.
Mike

fuster

Speak at a meeting and say you need a temporary sponsor.

You don't have to keep them forever, but that way you have one while you get going on the Steps. You can shop around if you need to keep looking for a long term sponsor. Let them give you some guidance and give up some control to them (for many of us this is the hard part).

Cathy31

Share at meeting you need temp sponsor - and start straight away!!!!

Jfanagle

Do Not Take The Steps Any Faster Than You Took Your "next Drink!!"

Peter

I consider all sponsors "temporary" We both grow at different levels and at different times. Invariably sponsors and sponsees will move on.