drinking is fun
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[QUOTE=pjw21;1336227]the only negatives are: my wife avoids me when i am drunk coz she doesn't like talking to me
i don't sleep well
i guilt myself over having been drunk the night before, or drinking the whole 6 when i had said to myself, drink 2
i am trying to be super fit to do a 530k ride in Sep. I don't want to, & won't let drinking affect my ability to do that.
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Yep, those negatives are a real downside to drinking. My wife (well, ex-wife now) decided to avoid me for good.
I slept great when I passed out, and I thought I was in great shape. In truth though my liver and heart were in terrible condition.
Yes, I loved drinking and it was definitely fun for awhile, but it was starting to turn that corner, to cross the line into being a nightmare. It just wasn't worth it to keep drinking until I was dead or in prison.
i don't sleep well
i guilt myself over having been drunk the night before, or drinking the whole 6 when i had said to myself, drink 2
i am trying to be super fit to do a 530k ride in Sep. I don't want to, & won't let drinking affect my ability to do that.
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Yep, those negatives are a real downside to drinking. My wife (well, ex-wife now) decided to avoid me for good.
I slept great when I passed out, and I thought I was in great shape. In truth though my liver and heart were in terrible condition.
Yes, I loved drinking and it was definitely fun for awhile, but it was starting to turn that corner, to cross the line into being a nightmare. It just wasn't worth it to keep drinking until I was dead or in prison.
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YES it was fun for the first couple of years. If it's still fun, why stop? If you don't have any negative consequences, why stop? I thought it would be easy for me to stop. It's too bad I was wrong.
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You know I was just thinking about the title of this thread:
Why in the world would some one who when they were really honest with thier self about thier drinking, if they really thought it was fun even come to a place like this?
I would understand if they had said:
Because I would be a liar if I said it was never fun, man I had a lot of good times for the first 20 years of my drinking and still on occasion for the next 18 years, not very often, but enough to where I still thought it was a blast, now the last 2 years were mainly a blurr and pure hell.
drinking is fun
I would understand if they had said:
drinking was fun
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i relasped after 11 years of being sober.
Nothing bad happen..
It made me depressed as hell, thou..
and damn those hanger overs..and I hated draging my ass out of bed again
it was stupid..really..i hate the dizzy drunk of a buzz.
then i started getting an alttitude..
You know what it felt like....it felt like i was in HS again
cruzing very friday night wasting my life away again.
Something that I out grew a long ass time ago. I mean it was fun
when I was a kid...but it just didn't feel the same anymore or
wasn't the same anymore. The thrill was gone...so I step off
of the merry go round and round. i hate those dizzy rides.
Catching a buzz wasn't fun or gave me a thrill...
Now soberity...that's a hell of a ride...lmao It's like a ride of a life time.
I mean..when I'm scare sheitless I'm freanken scare and hanging on for dear life.
And when I'm happy..i'm truely happy like I'm standing on top of the world.
My new Buzz...it's call getting high on life..
Nothing bad happen..
It made me depressed as hell, thou..
and damn those hanger overs..and I hated draging my ass out of bed again
it was stupid..really..i hate the dizzy drunk of a buzz.
then i started getting an alttitude..
You know what it felt like....it felt like i was in HS again
cruzing very friday night wasting my life away again.
Something that I out grew a long ass time ago. I mean it was fun
when I was a kid...but it just didn't feel the same anymore or
wasn't the same anymore. The thrill was gone...so I step off
of the merry go round and round. i hate those dizzy rides.
Catching a buzz wasn't fun or gave me a thrill...
Now soberity...that's a hell of a ride...lmao It's like a ride of a life time.
I mean..when I'm scare sheitless I'm freanken scare and hanging on for dear life.
And when I'm happy..i'm truely happy like I'm standing on top of the world.
My new Buzz...it's call getting high on life..
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drinking is fun
Originally Posted by sunkensky 
I never understood that either, even when I was very young. Why would anyone have just one or two drinks? What is the point of that?
I was always a firm believer that everyone drank to get drunk, and if they said they weren't they were kidding themselves. I always honestly believed that, but some people can do with just one. Just a minor stress reliever or something. For me that seems so ridiculous.
I was always a firm believer that everyone drank to get drunk, and if they said they weren't they were kidding themselves. I always honestly believed that, but some people can do with just one. Just a minor stress reliever or something. For me that seems so ridiculous.
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Originally Posted by pjw21
OK - now here's the thing. I have been depressed/anxious & drinking was one of the things that got me through or made me worse not sure which. But the deal is, I love it. I try to stop (in fact I went dry for 2 years). But i always find myself back here. drink, drink , drink. Is it such a bad thing??
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I'm another person who can't say exactly when alcohol changed from being a "fun" thing in my life to being the all consuming nightmare that it became. There's a saying I've heard, "When did the cucumber turn into the pickle?" ... That summed it up for me. I don't know the answer.
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Face down in the gutter
He won't admit defeat
Though his clothes are soiled and black
He's a big strong man with a child's mind
Don't you take his booze away....
K. Casey
Fun? For a while maybe, but as they say...
The man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink, the drink takes the man...
No such thing as moderation for this Boston drunk
He won't admit defeat
Though his clothes are soiled and black
He's a big strong man with a child's mind
Don't you take his booze away....
K. Casey
Fun? For a while maybe, but as they say...
The man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink, the drink takes the man...
No such thing as moderation for this Boston drunk
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I think it would be ok to deviate from the "party line".
Some are here looking for answers and unsure about how to define and deal with their problem, perhaps that is why he is posting here.
I have the same type of thoughts often, Does drinking 2 or 3 times a week make one an alocoholic? not sure. I do know that healthwise it is best not to.
Some are here looking for answers and unsure about how to define and deal with their problem, perhaps that is why he is posting here.
I have the same type of thoughts often, Does drinking 2 or 3 times a week make one an alocoholic? not sure. I do know that healthwise it is best not to.
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Originally Posted by Budfrog
These reasons are why I am practicing moderation management. So long as I control the drink and it doesn't control me I'm sure things will be fine. Things are never black and white ... alcohol affects every person in a different manner and I am a strong believer that with a modicum of willpower people can change their consumption habits for the better if needs be
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Originally Posted by FlySober
PJW, as Steve said, alcohol is very patient. Your here looking for something. Sounds like alcohol has atleast a partial grip on you if you tell yourself your going to have 2 and drink all six. Get a 12 pack, tell yourself your going to drink 2 and see how many you actually drink. If I were a betting man, I would bet the 12 pack would be gone before your head hits the pillow. Not trying to be judgemental. Just basing it on my own experience and others. I know the feeling of having the wife not wanting to be around me when I'm drinking. Alcohol had become an unyielding wedge driving me and my wife and kids apart. Alcohol is like water on a stone. The water always wins and wears the stone down.
Is there any other problems you've experience as a result of drinking? Do they reoccur from time to time? Do you try to modify your drinking habits to get different, less troblesome results?
Keep reading and being honest with yourself.
Best of luck.
Is there any other problems you've experience as a result of drinking? Do they reoccur from time to time? Do you try to modify your drinking habits to get different, less troblesome results?
Keep reading and being honest with yourself.
Best of luck.
I like this (and sober this morning). The last time I bought a carton, it was to last 4 weeks, I had it drunk in the weekend.
Thanks to everyone who has replied. I posted "drinking is fun", because it still is for me. I know that the negatives outweigh the positives for me now, when I still have it under some sort of control, but when I am drinking, it feel great. I think denying that fact would make it harder for me to give it up.
I'll read the book that is linked, and I will give up.... I have known for a while, who am I kidding, I have always known that I cannot moderate my drinking. If I am honest, I have NEVER been able to drink in moderation. Even if I am driving, I think, I can have 2 an hour or whatever, and then have one extra.
I know I am better4 off without it, but it is like saying goodbye to an old friend.
Anyway, I am glad I have found this. Hope you don't mind if I pop back for help when I need it.
What do you do when you have the cravings really bad?? I think I need to substitute, maybe some non-alcoholic ginger beer, or go for a walk... something to get through the time when I usually cave in & go & get the beer...
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Sure drinking was fun.
I'd be a liar if I said there weren't indeed some glorious times with "jolly 'ol busom buddy alcohol, but those "golden" days of drinking ended around year five or seven.
After a while there was no longer anything "fun" about a physical and emotional dependence on alcohol and although there were a few brief instances afterwards when i could have sworn I was once again the "King Of The World", the final ten or so years was a slow decline into depression and misery.
The cunning and baffling nature of alcohol had me believing for years that it was my friends and family , lovers and enemies, employers and politicians who were causing my grief. Everything under the sun was responsible for my agony except alcohol.
I do not miss alcohol today. It may have been good while it lasted but the reason for my long term sobriety is because I no longer "romanticize" the thought of drinking.
I would make a fatal mistake now to look back.
I'd be a liar if I said there weren't indeed some glorious times with "jolly 'ol busom buddy alcohol, but those "golden" days of drinking ended around year five or seven.
After a while there was no longer anything "fun" about a physical and emotional dependence on alcohol and although there were a few brief instances afterwards when i could have sworn I was once again the "King Of The World", the final ten or so years was a slow decline into depression and misery.
The cunning and baffling nature of alcohol had me believing for years that it was my friends and family , lovers and enemies, employers and politicians who were causing my grief. Everything under the sun was responsible for my agony except alcohol.
I do not miss alcohol today. It may have been good while it lasted but the reason for my long term sobriety is because I no longer "romanticize" the thought of drinking.
I would make a fatal mistake now to look back.
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drinking has mostly been fun for me.
but it is the things i did drunk that i have to live with the next day that are no fun.shamefull and embarising.
and i will not touch a drug when i am sober i don't even have nothing to do with drugs. but if i am wasted and it is around i will do it.100% i will do drugs if ofered and i am drunk . i will turn down only pot anytime drunk or not,i just don't like that stuff anymore. but i will do anything else.
if you are not as much of a crazy A-hole when you drink as me and you don't have a kid to raise, go for it dude. drink it up if thats your thing. but if you get so used to that life style that you can't quit even when you are hurting other people later in life ,you will be in trouble.
I am not a vilolent guy when i drink ,but i am a party animal like nobody you have seen short of animal house or something i am talking frank the tank crazy .
but it is the things i did drunk that i have to live with the next day that are no fun.shamefull and embarising.
and i will not touch a drug when i am sober i don't even have nothing to do with drugs. but if i am wasted and it is around i will do it.100% i will do drugs if ofered and i am drunk . i will turn down only pot anytime drunk or not,i just don't like that stuff anymore. but i will do anything else.
if you are not as much of a crazy A-hole when you drink as me and you don't have a kid to raise, go for it dude. drink it up if thats your thing. but if you get so used to that life style that you can't quit even when you are hurting other people later in life ,you will be in trouble.
I am not a vilolent guy when i drink ,but i am a party animal like nobody you have seen short of animal house or something i am talking frank the tank crazy .
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I don't remember the last time drinking was fun. The last 4 years were a living hell. I wanted to stop, but I couldn't.
The only time I would get a brief reprieve would be 3-4 hours a night (or during the day) when I'd manage to pass out. Only to awaken, sweaty and shaking, reaching for the bottle.
I Thank God every night when I go to bed. My bed is now comfortable, it's a sanctuary.
The only time I would get a brief reprieve would be 3-4 hours a night (or during the day) when I'd manage to pass out. Only to awaken, sweaty and shaking, reaching for the bottle.
I Thank God every night when I go to bed. My bed is now comfortable, it's a sanctuary.
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Drinking kinda stopped being fun when I needed to drink rather than wanted to drink. That lasted for 15 years.
The shame of it is, even though I probably knew I was an alcoholic the whole time, that it had to get bad, and I mean really BAD, for me to finally quit.
Nobody should have to experiance that pain. But sadly most will.
The shame of it is, even though I probably knew I was an alcoholic the whole time, that it had to get bad, and I mean really BAD, for me to finally quit.
Nobody should have to experiance that pain. But sadly most will.
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Hi PJ...Good move!
Cravings....Yes! I also had them in early recovery.
I timed mine...they were only a few minutes....7 at most.
I drank water...brushed my t teeth.....danced around...walked.
Action worked great...and I can stand most anything for such a short discomfort.
The longer I have remained sober....they lessened in both severity and duration.
This can be true for you too!
I will be looking forward to sharing your jouney here
You too can recover!
Cravings....Yes! I also had them in early recovery.
I timed mine...they were only a few minutes....7 at most.
I drank water...brushed my t teeth.....danced around...walked.
Action worked great...and I can stand most anything for such a short discomfort.
The longer I have remained sober....they lessened in both severity and duration.
This can be true for you too!
I will be looking forward to sharing your jouney here
You too can recover!
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Originally Posted by care4uNJ
Moderation??? Willpower??? Only in a perfect world!!!!!!!! If it were only that easy, then millions and millions of people wouldn't be suffering from alcoholism or any other addiction for that matter. Get real!!! :-(
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