Sponsor Advice Needed Badly
Don't resist, allow
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: South East of England
Posts: 1,521
Originally Posted by Ago 
I have "The Sponsor's" version of that app
When it recognizes an incoming call from a sponsee it answers and says:
"Hey, what's going on?"
5 minute pause
"uh-huh....Have you prayed about it?"
30 second pause
"Uh huh, what's your part?"
3 minute pause
"OK, that's great, go to a meeting and work with a newcomer, call me tomorrow......OK....Bye"
Then it hangs up
Saves me all that tedious hands on sponsoring
When it recognizes an incoming call from a sponsee it answers and says:
"Hey, what's going on?"
5 minute pause
"uh-huh....Have you prayed about it?"
30 second pause
"Uh huh, what's your part?"
3 minute pause
"OK, that's great, go to a meeting and work with a newcomer, call me tomorrow......OK....Bye"
Then it hangs up
Saves me all that tedious hands on sponsoring
I love that
1 bite&all resistance crumbles
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: IRELAND
Posts: 2,208
Hugh
Firstly, well done. I found your post humbling to say the least - well done on putting up your hand and asking for help and following through with it! I think that's awesome and NOT easy.
Secondly, 19 years or not Jim can be very harsh although I am sure he means well. It's all very well for old timers to tell us to get over ourselves when we've always been on our own minds as long as we've lived - so, erm not exactly an easy task, but the steps help us!
I like to think that what happened to you was a God Shot. Go with it. It's totally normal to think ahead to your 5th step - that too will get sorted through your recovery but totally normal to jump ahead. I would actually discuss with this guy precisely what you've discussed with us...i.e. using the broad terms like industry etc and ask his advice. I'm almost certain that whatever you say will stay with him - that's what good sponsors do - and you sensed he was a good sponsor.
Have the discussion with him, keep an open mind and good luck with your recovery.
I also came in and out for almost 2 years and I'm just so bloody grateful that through God's grace I was able to come in, get a sponsor, work the steps and basically receive this wonderful life and set of 'life tools'
You can do it and I think it's wonderful that you've asked for help!
Well done Hugh's Dad!
Cathy31
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Firstly, well done. I found your post humbling to say the least - well done on putting up your hand and asking for help and following through with it! I think that's awesome and NOT easy.
Secondly, 19 years or not Jim can be very harsh although I am sure he means well. It's all very well for old timers to tell us to get over ourselves when we've always been on our own minds as long as we've lived - so, erm not exactly an easy task, but the steps help us!
I like to think that what happened to you was a God Shot. Go with it. It's totally normal to think ahead to your 5th step - that too will get sorted through your recovery but totally normal to jump ahead. I would actually discuss with this guy precisely what you've discussed with us...i.e. using the broad terms like industry etc and ask his advice. I'm almost certain that whatever you say will stay with him - that's what good sponsors do - and you sensed he was a good sponsor.
Have the discussion with him, keep an open mind and good luck with your recovery.
I also came in and out for almost 2 years and I'm just so bloody grateful that through God's grace I was able to come in, get a sponsor, work the steps and basically receive this wonderful life and set of 'life tools'
You can do it and I think it's wonderful that you've asked for help!
Well done Hugh's Dad!
Cathy31
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Member
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Zion, Illinois
Posts: 3,411
Originally Posted by hughs dad
I have been in and out of the program for about 2 years. I have never gotten a sponsor and never worked the steps. Last night I went to a meeting and just came right out and said, I need help, I need a sponsor, I want to work the program, but I don't know how.... I got a list of people and everyone was great. I was impressed in paticular with one person. I called him today and he was very helpful. Very open to working with me, even asked I could go to a meeting with him tomorrow then meet with him afterward. All really great things!!
Here's the problem. I used to work in an industry where I was on top - made a lot of money, got a lot of attention, won trips, etc... My world crumbled when I lost that job and I had legal trouble due to the same job. This job is the source of a lot of my guilt, shame, overall bad feelings. It's a really big deal that I hope to move past once fully in recovery. I drink currently over this job!
Turns out that the guy I'm meeting with is in the same industry as I was, works at a company where I know many people well and they know me. Party of me says maybe god put him here to help and to go along with it. Another part says not to have him as my sponsor. ????? What do you guys think. If I really tell him about me and my history this story must be a part of it. My concern is he will think less of me once he knows what happened and he will tell people what happened who will tell people what happened... etc...
I'd love to get your opinion.
Thanks,
HD
Here's the problem. I used to work in an industry where I was on top - made a lot of money, got a lot of attention, won trips, etc... My world crumbled when I lost that job and I had legal trouble due to the same job. This job is the source of a lot of my guilt, shame, overall bad feelings. It's a really big deal that I hope to move past once fully in recovery. I drink currently over this job!
Turns out that the guy I'm meeting with is in the same industry as I was, works at a company where I know many people well and they know me. Party of me says maybe god put him here to help and to go along with it. Another part says not to have him as my sponsor. ????? What do you guys think. If I really tell him about me and my history this story must be a part of it. My concern is he will think less of me once he knows what happened and he will tell people what happened who will tell people what happened... etc...
I'd love to get your opinion.
Thanks,
HD
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