Self-Respect
Nature Girl
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Self-Respect
You are reading from the book Touchstones.
A man can stand a lot as long as he can stand himself.
--Axel Munthe
Sometimes we're mistaken about the source of our unhappiness. We walk around with a short fuse, ready to explode if anyone crosses our path. Then, when we do explode, we think it is the other person's fault. At other times we have frightening physical reactions and worry that something is wrong with our bodies. But we are not aware that a deeper feeling of not being able to stand ourselves causes the problem.
Most of us have problems accepting ourselves. When we make peace with our consciences, some of our problems vanish. Other problems may never disappear, but our pain is eased because our inner battle has ceased and we have the energy we need to cope.
I am grateful for the gift of self-respect this program gives me.
A man can stand a lot as long as he can stand himself.
--Axel Munthe
Sometimes we're mistaken about the source of our unhappiness. We walk around with a short fuse, ready to explode if anyone crosses our path. Then, when we do explode, we think it is the other person's fault. At other times we have frightening physical reactions and worry that something is wrong with our bodies. But we are not aware that a deeper feeling of not being able to stand ourselves causes the problem.
Most of us have problems accepting ourselves. When we make peace with our consciences, some of our problems vanish. Other problems may never disappear, but our pain is eased because our inner battle has ceased and we have the energy we need to cope.
I am grateful for the gift of self-respect this program gives me.
Nature Girl
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Evil Redhead??? 
<---- example of self-respect
I KNOW, Dougie, I KNOW. Days that I lose it with others are usually days that something is not right with ME. I need to remember to look at the problem and not think that the solution is to pass it on.
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Evil Redhead :andy:
<---- example of self-respectI KNOW, Dougie, I KNOW. Days that I lose it with others are usually days that something is not right with ME. I need to remember to look at the problem and not think that the solution is to pass it on.
Hugs
Evil Redhead :andy:
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I know. 
Apparently not. Here, one for you too
Sheesh, I'm sure glad it said "man" on that reading. For a moment I thought it might apply to ME.
Self-respecting Hugs
Ann
Originally Posted by DangerousDan
You mean it doesn't? 
Sheesh, I'm sure glad it said "man" on that reading. For a moment I thought it might apply to ME.
Self-respecting Hugs
Ann
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self respect is bloody brilliant - i try and practice it every day. I used to practice it with mountains of coke and a few cold ones and a stack of porno. I used to go, in a ghetto voice: respect yeah!.
how I give myself a pat on the back. in my head.
how I give myself a pat on the back. in my head.
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I'm learning, a day at a time, to respect myself as I should.
It's a struggle at times. Don't know why it's so hard, but it is.
And it's also a delicate balance between self respect and hubris.
I wish you enough self respect...
Shalom!
It's a struggle at times. Don't know why it's so hard, but it is.
And it's also a delicate balance between self respect and hubris.
I wish you enough self respect...
Shalom!
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Originally Posted by Ann
Most of us have problems accepting ourselves. When we make peace with our consciences, some of our problems vanish. Other problems may never disappear, but our pain is eased because our inner battle has ceased and we have the energy we need to cope.[/I]
I've earned it back.
hugs,
phinny
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Wow...wish I had seen this post sixteen months ago!
It took me months to realize that I'd have to set aside the shame, guilt and self-loathing. Even longer to truly forgive myself! Earning self-respect comes with each day I stay sober.
It took me months to realize that I'd have to set aside the shame, guilt and self-loathing. Even longer to truly forgive myself! Earning self-respect comes with each day I stay sober.
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