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Posted, also, in Mark Sichels' forum!
Wasn't certain where to post this!
Now, I do know...this is not entirely related to recovery...but I would like to have "others' views" on the subject.
My son, Luke, age 24, will be released from a Therapeutic Justice Center, within the next 3 weeks. DOC, meth! He will have spent 6 months at the center, and 6 months in jail, consecutively, no bail out.
We have recently purchased a new computer. I am thinking that I MAY hook it up in Luke's room....but???
When he was living here before, he would use our computer. I KNOW he would view porn, but he did not download it on the computer.....
So, the title of my post is my concern....as far as recovery....would it be best ,NOT, to give him access to his personal computer....as far as RECOVERY is concerned....no judgement call here!
Or...would it be best NOT to have the distraction....as far as recovery is concerned?
Thanks!
Now, I do know...this is not entirely related to recovery...but I would like to have "others' views" on the subject.
My son, Luke, age 24, will be released from a Therapeutic Justice Center, within the next 3 weeks. DOC, meth! He will have spent 6 months at the center, and 6 months in jail, consecutively, no bail out.
We have recently purchased a new computer. I am thinking that I MAY hook it up in Luke's room....but???
When he was living here before, he would use our computer. I KNOW he would view porn, but he did not download it on the computer.....
So, the title of my post is my concern....as far as recovery....would it be best ,NOT, to give him access to his personal computer....as far as RECOVERY is concerned....no judgement call here!
Or...would it be best NOT to have the distraction....as far as recovery is concerned?
Thanks!
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my thought is this -
1. if your son wants to view porn, he'll find a way to do it with or without your computer.
2. if you're uncomfortable in any way with him having access to your or any computer in your home, don't agree to it.
3. think about working with your son to set up realistic boundaries for when he returns home - yours and his? that will help everyone's recovery..
blessings - k
1. if your son wants to view porn, he'll find a way to do it with or without your computer.
2. if you're uncomfortable in any way with him having access to your or any computer in your home, don't agree to it.
3. think about working with your son to set up realistic boundaries for when he returns home - yours and his? that will help everyone's recovery..
blessings - k
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parentrecovers,
Thank you for responding!
I do not mind him using my pc....I thought I may, let him use my old pc.
I like your number 3...that is definitely on the list of things to do!
I received a comment, in another forum, which stated that the pc may enable him to isolate himself, and that is exactly what I was interested in. The idea of him viewing the shady sites....that is entirely up to him. But I, now, can see, that if he isolates himself, for any activity, not recovery related.....would not be a good thing.
Thank you for responding!
I do not mind him using my pc....I thought I may, let him use my old pc.
I like your number 3...that is definitely on the list of things to do!
I received a comment, in another forum, which stated that the pc may enable him to isolate himself, and that is exactly what I was interested in. The idea of him viewing the shady sites....that is entirely up to him. But I, now, can see, that if he isolates himself, for any activity, not recovery related.....would not be a good thing.
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