requiredfield

Alright, when I first got sober I was all, "I can easily wait a year. I don't need to have sex." In fact, I didn't really even have the desire.

All of a sudden, it's back.

Now, I don't want to get in a relationship but the only people I would want to have sex with are people that I have feelings for, so that doesn't seem plausible...

And on top of it, I feel like having meaningless sex is an old, bad behavior that should be eliminated when getting sober.

So, should I just pray for the desire to be removed? As self-seeking as I am, I really don't want to....

Make sense?

I hope this is appropriate. If not, I apologize.

Thanks
Anna

QueenShenique

This probably belongs in the women's forum. But, I'll say this--I did a year of celibacy--it wasn't always fun but, worth it for me. I focused on my program and didn't "switch addictions" into sexual acting out. The mental obsession of the disease desparately wants us to get into enough intense emotion good or bad that we will medicate to cope. The steps give us a way out--and we learn to become responsible for our own physical release/sexuality. Hop on over to the women's room--you'll find much experience strength and hope there!

pedagogue

I too agree that the "Women in Recovery" forum can help you with this. Supposedly they have discussions about this over there....but as a guy...I don't wander in there. (even as a mod!)

Welcome to SR!

-pedagogue

michski

Hiya Required,

Sex is good for you... just cause you're sober doesn't mean you have to be without sexuality. I understand the stuff about getting involved in a relationship too early in recovery... did the same myself. I relapsed but lots of people don't...
Have you considered getting a toy for casual uncommitted personal relief ?

Time2Surrender

Nuff said.

lulu70

Hey hon'. I think what you are feeling is completely normal, but as you and others have pointed out, you could be treading on dangerous ground. Have you read the stuff in the Big Book? (bottom of page 68 through page 71) It has really helped me...... I even went to a meeting (women's) where the topic was sex. Definitely very interesting.

Hugs--

CarolD

Womans Forum there is a long thread on sex.

Also....'As Bill Sees It' there are many guidelines.
Look in the back reference section for the page numbers.