I’m so proud of myself
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I’m so proud of myself
I was going to hang out with friends tonight. But I had a gut feeling I was going to possibly want to drink. As it got closer to the time to hang out the want to have wine got stronger not less. So I took a minute after work to breathe and think about it. I let them know I wasn’t going to be able to make it. I got in my pjs and turned on rom coms. Thank god … I knew today I was extra anxious “being that time of the month”… I am just happy I played the tape forward
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Well done AJ, you did the right thing. Its hard letting people down but you have to put yourself and sobriety first and there will come a time you feel comfortable meeting up and happily drinking something non alcoholic. Pjs and rom coms! Perfect 👌
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AJ, after a few months, hopefully the uprightness over being around others who are drinking will be mostly gone and you will be able to hang out with friends without having that anxiety. It no longer bothers me at all. I did make a long-term judgment call regarding an old friend who I'm sure would try to pressure me into drinking whiskey.
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Great choice. Later you consider if you are ready for the risk, and at some point you will be, maybe, probably, or not. But at this point, recognizing the risk, is something you can be proud of. I have to say, I'm impressed.
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In The Sober Lush they call this "the vanish", and I love the mysterious imagery of that expression.
You know you. Social life is beautiful and important, but not more important than your recovery. So be mysterious. Be moody. Be needy or tired. Disappear when you need. Stay when you want.
My vanishing act is a key element in my sobriety. I always drive or mentally/financially prepare for my own ride. I don't justify leaving. Sometimes I don't say anything, at all (depending on the size of the party, of course).
Good for you.
You know you. Social life is beautiful and important, but not more important than your recovery. So be mysterious. Be moody. Be needy or tired. Disappear when you need. Stay when you want.
My vanishing act is a key element in my sobriety. I always drive or mentally/financially prepare for my own ride. I don't justify leaving. Sometimes I don't say anything, at all (depending on the size of the party, of course).
Good for you.
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Originally Posted by ToughChoices 
In The Sober Lush they call this "the vanish", and I love the mysterious imagery of that expression.
You know you. Social life is beautiful and important, but not more important than your recovery. So be mysterious. Be moody. Be needy or tired. Disappear when you need. Stay when you want.
My vanishing act is a key element in my sobriety. I always drive or mentally/financially prepare for my own ride. I don't justify leaving. Sometimes I don't say anything, at all (depending on the size of the party, of course).
Good for you.
You know you. Social life is beautiful and important, but not more important than your recovery. So be mysterious. Be moody. Be needy or tired. Disappear when you need. Stay when you want.
My vanishing act is a key element in my sobriety. I always drive or mentally/financially prepare for my own ride. I don't justify leaving. Sometimes I don't say anything, at all (depending on the size of the party, of course).
Good for you.
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Basically since high school, I was always one of the worst, or the worst, about always having some sort of alcohol handy and incorporating it into any situation. Makes me understanding of those who are as I was. I often find that others don't drink as much if they aren't trying to keep up with me. For those whose drinking is unswayed, I can be pretty tolerant up to a point.
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AJ143143. You should be very proud you put yourself and your sobriety your highest priority. For me that has seemed to keep me sober and all else is easier to handle. Not to say that life isn’t challenging for every single human on this planet it is infinitely easier to accept those challenges sober. Best to you.
Cityboy. That was me in high school as well. I was the provider and arranger of massive keg parties. I cringe now to have to admit that and wouldn’t be proud if my children knew or repeated that behavior. I too was the one that always drank the most. Not a good thing to be best at.
Cityboy. That was me in high school as well. I was the provider and arranger of massive keg parties. I cringe now to have to admit that and wouldn’t be proud if my children knew or repeated that behavior. I too was the one that always drank the most. Not a good thing to be best at.
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I skipped a trip to the keys with my Mom at about 3 months sober.
Luckily my BIL went with her so she did not have to drive alone.
She does not drink but everyone we were going to see does and there was not gonna be much else to do.
I felt bad but I knew I could not handle it at the time. Whether I drank or not it would have been miserable.
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I skipped a trip to the keys with my Mom at about 3 months sober.
Luckily my BIL went with her so she did not have to drive alone.
She does not drink but everyone we were going to see does and there was not gonna be much else to do.
I felt bad but I knew I could not handle it at the time. Whether I drank or not it would have been miserable.
Whatever It Takes
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