nez

I am here...because I am not all there.
There is immense power in people talking about their issues/problems and solutions.
There is no power in people sitting alone with their issues/problems.
Coming here and in the process of getting and giving help by talking about issues and solutions greatly increases the odds of me one day getting there.

MythOfSisyphus

Great post, @nez! It's a process, one that lasts our whole lives.

Jw92

Great quote. Thanks nez

Free2bme888

Nez, i love your wisdom and all the support you bring here……

I have copied and saved many of your wonderful posts.

Thanks for this too.

Zencat

Hi Nez
I have had problems and I guess still do connecting with new people on an emotional level. I think its a trust issue and/or fear of being emotional vulnerable. Its easy for me to talk about an outside issue. But when it comes to my personal stuff, I close up.

So, its time again to forge ahead and work on my hindrance stuff.

fishkiller

Strength in numbers. We are all different here but we have much in common. We All can learn from each other.
Thanks for posting

DriGuy

I think much of it depends on where you put your boundaries of privacy. Opening up doesn't mean putting everything out there for all to see. Everyone keeps some things to themselves, because much of our private thoughts are simply not relevant to personal interaction. Even in recovery discussions, no one bears their innermost secrets. The hardest thing for me to admit to a group was that I am an alcoholic, but it's not something I bring up when I'm first introduced to someone's friend. But admitting that at a recovery group probably deserves no more than the response, "So what's your point?" Without going into potty training or sexual fantasies, the most important question in recovery is, "As an alcoholic, what are you going to do about it?"

Some things may be more touchy. They may or may not be relevant. That's what professional counselors are there for. But you don't need to post all your most private thoughts on the internet, or confess to them at an AA meeting, or in church. Everyone has a right to privacy, and it's a step in the right direction to know that not everything about you is something others need to know about.

VikingGF

I have learned more on SR about myself than I have ever considered I would. I have found strength I didn't know I had and maintained sobriety for more time than I could have alone. This is my safe-zone- I know I will get the truth no matter what I ask. If I'm lucky, I get to help someone else on their journey, too.

Hevyn

Thank you, Nez. Loved your post.
I'm here because people get me - the way others can't. It means everything.

travelbug

Thank you Nez. Great post!

least

I'm here for the support and friendship.

Zencat

True that DriGuy
I have very strong boundaries because all the CBT/DBT training and life practice I do daily. I'm not a 'full disclosure' person when I'm meeting new people. In fact it takes me a good amount of time and association with people for me to gauge their trustworthiness before I open up. I'll be good to go, no worries.

KTB5000

I come here when I feel lonely and/or afraid. I come for advice when I'm feeling completely insane or need a reminder on why I stopped drinking 3/26. Its a healthy distraction.
I log on to see new posts, welcome newcomers/members and celebrate milestones. I come here because its like looking myself in the mirror, I see my reflection, see where I've been and where I'd like to be in my sobriety, relationships, work, etc. I come to post when I read something that touches me. SR is my tribe on many levels. ❤️

Kaily

I'm here because I am a lonely recovering alcoholic that needs support.

I love the way the forums are moderated to keep us safe from triggers and arguments. It is, in general, a safe place .