Wastinglife

I struggled all my life with typical ADHD symptoms. Born in the late 70's and grew up during a time when not much research had been done yet. Not a good student but when interested, I can excel. Did actually make it through school with a degree but at maybe 50 percent effort. Probably less.

However, alcoholism and substance abuse, in general, have made it difficult to really know if I have Aspegers. I know the signs and symptoms start in early childhood. I can't remember much up until age 9 or 10 as fars as how I performed in various environments. Mom is dead, dad is not to one to ask.

I do have a doctor to get a reference for a specialist and will help. Problem is, I can't differentiate my experiences from age 15 and on are influenced by alcohol or not because i was always either drinking or smoking weed etc.

Just been told I am undeachieving. Can i start from 9th grade and start again at 46?? Haha

Tetrax

Probably tbh (for me at least). Diagnosed OCD and depression/anxiety. But I struggle a little too much for a neurotypical I feel.

Wastinglife

Been diagnosed officially with ADHD. 46 now and still don't care I'm single and unemployed. Have had relationships and good jobs.

I am concerned, but its more of why i just stopped functioning while all my friends got married/kids etc. I just don't see myself in that position because I wouldn't be able to just work at a job I hate just because I need to provide for a family.

No motivation for that and a marriage for life. Haven't found my passion yet. It's not sitting in front of a computer like I used to do

Wastinglife

Tetras, I feel you my friend!

RecklessDrunk

Born in 74 and you didn't really hear much about it growing up in the 80s. I could remember football scores of games that took place before I was born. I would memorize dates of crazy stuff, still do a little bit. I joke with a lifelong friend. I remember the birthdays of people we haven't seen in decades.

I was ADHD and all that crap when I was younger according to doctors. I took several on line quizzes for Asperger's and each score was sky high. I didn't do this until just a few years ago.

By the time I was 14 I discovered what the magic of alcohol could do for me socially. Its kind of crazy because kids like me struggle socially. Its like through much of public school i found these little cracks in communicating with people that i could break through. If somebody is laughing I can read that as they are ok with me. Making people laugh became artwork for me. Of course I never could see what was appropriate and I would constantly get disciplined. I ended up in emotionally disturbed classes. I got kicked out of schools and was in and out of reform schools.

As a young adult I made an attempt to get my life together with mixed results. I loved drinking and would do whatever I had to, to control it. I would stay sober and i could stick to a schedule like a machine. School, work, running, the gym, diet. Then I would take a drink and turn into a twin brother of myself. This twin took care of the socializing part of life. My drunk twin doesn't have Asperger's. This worked until it didn't. Eventually the drunk twin would get more and more out of control.

I've heard people speak about Asperger's on you tube. It's almost like hearing another alcoholic, I get it.